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Knowing my Limits – Wife. Motherhood. Life.

Knowing my Limits – Wife. Motherhood. Life.

I’m often the person handing out tips on how to squeeze some sort of work into every waking minute. I’ve never been shy about telling others how it’s possible to work and look after kids at the same time. A lot of my posts have been written to help mothers in my situation, to make scheduling their days easier and to allow for maximum productivity. This post is going to be a little different though. It’s not going to encourage you to fill every second, of everyday with work. It’s also not going to encourage no work at all. The aim of this post is to highlight that the key to success is to know your limits.

Now don’t get me wrong, it’s not that I don’t think working hard is unnecessary. Some days it’s essential that we cram the hours in, in order to progress. It’s that slowly but surely, I’m beginning to realise that burning the candle at both ends will only lead to a decline in achievement. My husband is always telling me that I’m working full-time hours on my blog, as well as looking after our children full-time. Both of these positions are what I chose and are still what I want to do. There comes a time though when something has to give. As my children are always my first priority, it would seem that I need to manage my workload to fit around me. I need to be mindful of how much I’m fitting family life around my work.

Recognising I need to adjust the balance –

As with most things, recognising that things aren’t as they should be is the first step to making a positive change. It doesn’t always mean that we act on it immediately, but it plants the seed. I’ve known for a while that I don’t quite have the balance right. The trouble with me is I get a little addicted to progression and for that reason I find it hard to slow down. If I achieve something good, it just spurs me on further and in consequence down time becomes less and less.

Less down time means less time with the littles and less time with Hubs. Not that either of them mind particularly. The only person it really bothers is me, because I didn’t quit work in the first place, for nothing. I did it because I wanted to be there all of the time. The job that I do now means that I am always at home with them, but it’s amazing how much you miss when you’re sat behind a screen.

Getting it right –

I don’t suppose there’s an easy way to get the balance right. Whether I’m being wife, mother or trying to progress in my work life. One has to give, to make way for the other. The trouble is, all of these roles are so important to me, I want to be able to give each one my full attention at all times. I want the perfectly clean house, the thriving business, to be super mum and the doting wife. It’s time to accept that I can’t do everything. I need to get to know my limits and more importantly, to live by them.

When the girls go to school, I’m sure things will get easier. I’ll have the hours in the day to get on top of everything I have to do. Then once they come home, they’ll have my attention until bedtime. Until that time comes though, I need to make sure that my work is confined to their bedtime hours as much as possible. I’m only too aware that they won’t be this young forever and if I’m not careful, I’ll only remember their younger years as the snaps I caught through a lens.





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30 Replies to “Knowing my Limits – Wife. Motherhood. Life.”

  1. Such a relatable post. I constantly burn the candles at both ends, but learning “we can do anything, just not everything”. #Blogstravaganza

  2. Life is a constant juggle don’t you think. It really doesn’t stop. My daughter is getting married next week and is talking about trying for a baby fairly soon after. I’m delighted but also wonder how on earth I will manage to find the time to be the involved nanny I’ve always wanted to be!? I think you are right – appreciating them while they grow – they will soon be off, believe me! xx

    1. Ah wow! An exciting time for you then! You will make such an amazing nanny, I know what you mean though – there just aren’t enough hours in the day! X

  3. I think it is always a work in progress. Just when you think you have the balance right suddenly a kid gets sick or whatever consumes you at the moment. Sounds like you have the right mindset to not wish away their younger years. #blogstravaganza

  4. Those rough days always seems to turn around when you see that you can’t do everything and you accept it, live in the moment, and move on.
    Great reminder that I needed this week as my whole family is sick, working full time, and we’re trying to balance regular life with healing!

  5. It is hard to find a balance with a blog and the family as there is no real end – you can always be more social, share more, write more or link more. The bad news if the hours when children are at school seem frighteningly short! #Blogstravaganza

    1. I’m the same, there’s so much I want to squeeze in but quality definitely takes a hit if I do too much xx

  6. There is so much pressure these days to do it all, and I think the biggest pressure comes from ourselves. I’ve been in a similar situation where I was heading for burnout, and it’s good that you have recognised your situation before you’ve completely worn yourself out. Good for you #Blogstravaganza

  7. I know this one! I might not have the booking career, but juggling between being a mum and a partner, keeping the house tidy and making way for down time…I dunno how people do it sometimes lol. The balance will find itself soon! #blogstravaganza

  8. I so love this post Zoe, struck a real chord with me. I need to learn to balance family and work time too, especially since I also blog/work from home. It’s so easy to constantly be on your phone but it’s so so essential to switch off. Our children will be little only once, whereas our blog/ work will still be there five years down the line.

    1. So, so true. There just aren’t enough hours in the day sometimes, the work seems never ending! X

  9. I can imagine it’s hard. I know how I find it hard going to work each day and not seeing the littles and then fitting in time with everyone, the house, the blog. Spinning plates like no ones business. At least you can recognise your limits and know you need to slow down a bit. #Blogstravaganza

  10. So difficult trying to balance everything! Zach starts preschool after Easter and I’m picturing myself with lots of time to do all the things that I currently have to rush. Ooh the joy of shopping alone… Of course he is only doing 6 hours a week and that is further reduced with school run/travel! #blogstravaganza

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