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#MumisBest Guest Post – Lisa from Travelling with Kidz

#MumisBest Guest Post – Lisa from Travelling with Kidz

Welcome to another instalment of my new guest series #MumisBest!  #MumisBest is all about the ever-growing SAHM/working mum debate.  I really want this series to highlight that there’s no right or wrong way, but whatever works for you and you family.  If you’d like to take part do get in touch, I’d love to hear from you!  For now I will leave you in the hands of Lisa from Travelling with Kidz!

To Work or not to work now that is the question?

So I set out to do some research on working families. And do you know what  I discovered? Well, that in America during 2016 the mother was employed in 72.5% of the population and the father was employed 82.6% of those families. Interesting right. So what about the families that have both parents working what happens to their under school age children during the workday?

I myself have had different styles of childcare in my 12 years of being a mother. I enjoyed all of them and have learned through experience that there is really no wrong or right way for childcare choices. The services you see for childcare are either a good fit or a bad fit.

With my first child I had a younger family member move in with us to care for her. This was ideal for me because being my first child I was terrified of the idea of leaving her with complete strangers. It was something I was not accustomed to. My grandparents had taken care of me while my mother worked all the way through high school. So having a family member care for my child just came naturally. This worked out for about a year and a half. Then we learned we were expecting again so we had to seek alternative childcare.

We sought out an upstanding daycare provider that got good reviews online as well as wonderful reviews by word of mouth. So my 2 year old and my newborn were going to start the big “D” Daycare.  The year went well then we found out we were expecting again.

It was when that I felt the need to give stay at home mom a whirl. So with 3 children at home I found my days filled with love, happiness, laughter and a bit of craziness. I stayed home for a year and a half. I loved it but to be honest I longed for the interaction that work brought. I missed the work routine.

So I went back to work and again we found out we were expecting. So we went back to daycare and started with afterschool care at the older kids school. It went on like that for 5 years. It worked out for all of us.

It wasn’t until we had our 6th child that we decided that our daycare/afterschool fees were to high. I did some research and was shocked to find out that families were spending on average 10-25% of their monthly household income on childcare services! That’s a lot of money! However, I wasn’t ready to stay at home again. I still had career goals that I wanted to reach. (Don’t get me wrong I LOVE my family and they come before anything. But with 6 kids we needed to be a 2 income family)

It was then that I met a girl at work who was fun, caring and trustworthy. Not to mention that my children really liked spending time with her. So that was the beginning of Nanny adventure. I must say that it is a really good fit for us. She helps me out immensely at home with the children. This has by far been the best childcare option I have tried to date. This is my good fit.

As you can see I have tried out several forms of childcare and have found that for my needs a Nanny is the best fit for my family but again everyone is different. What do you do for childcare? What works best for you and your family?

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My name is Lisa. I am a wife and a mommy of 6. Also work full time outside of my house. I am a vacation planner, a peace keeper, a beginning blogger, a money saver and the owner of many other hats.

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#MumisBest Guest Post – Jo from Cup of Toast

#MumisBest Guest Post – Jo from Cup of Toast

Welcome to another instalment of my new guest series #MumisBest!  #MumisBest is all about the ever-growing SAHM/working mum debate.  I really want this series to highlight that there’s no right or wrong way, but whatever works for you and you family.  If you’d like to take part do get in touch, I’d love to hear from you!  For now I will leave you in the hands of Jo from Cup of Toast!

Being a ‘SAHM’

I am a stay at home mum, whatever that really means. I’m saying it here purely for context.

The reality is that I don’t stay at home very much. I whizz about on school runs, grocery trips and visits to parks, farms and pet stores. I organise our household, including any work that needs to be done to the fabric of the house, the decorating, the DIY, the ironing, meal planning and more. I arrange extra-curricular activities for our boys. I attend health related meetings for Munch, undertake voluntary work and read relevant government policies and initiatives whilst simultaneously keeping little people amused (although nowhere near as professionally as the likes of Licia Ronzulli!). I budget all of our variable expenditure to within a penny. Birthday presents and parties are all left to me to arrange. I’m as busy as I was at the height of my career, but is that what being a stay at home mum is all about? I wager that it’s not. Surely every parent whatever their working status undertakes these matters?

So this is what it means to me. It’s a label. Nothing more, nothing less. It’s about as important as saying that I’m brunette. Or that I have freckles on my skin. That I’m female. It’s just a label. A form of identification for those form hungry companies that need you to say what you ‘do’. To them, I’m a stay at home mum. Sometimes I’m a housewife. Often I’m unemployed. I’ve gone past the point of being particular about which box I tick or what I tell people. I’ve largely given up mentioning what I did before I had children, or pointing out that I worked part time for a couple of years when Chief was young. I even brush a lot of my pro bono work under the carpet. If other people want to focus on my stay at home mum status that’s fine, but please excuse me if to me it’s just a phrase.

For a while it did infuriate me. That people assume that my husband earns mega bucks made me cross. Comments along the lines of what I could afford were all based on assumptions, not reality. One person suggested that I could donate a large sum of money to a charity in need of help because I must be able to afford it as I didn’t work? Another questioned my priorities when it came to budgeting our income. Not going out for meals but being able to splurge on my family.

I have mum guilt just as much as the next person. I always put pressure on myself to work harder with our budget and resources, to manage my time smarter. At the moment it’s trying to find quality one to one time with each of my three children, to make sure that they know that I’m interested in them, and that I’m listening to them. That I am there to support them with their school work, their hobbies, their development. Others might be struggling to fit in trips to see extended family around their regular weekend commitments, or staying up until the early hours slaving over a hot oven in order to support their local school at a cake sale. Some might worry every day whether or not they’ll be able to escape the office in time to get home and put their children to bed. We all have various pressures, and seek to find a balance in managing them. So really, regardless of what we do with our waking hours, we’re all the same. We’re all parents.

You see, here’s the thing. I don’t wear a badge telling others that I’m vegetarian. I don’t say that I’m actively trying to reduce my dairy intake. I don’t have a stamp on my head to say that I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. So why make a big deal out of being a stay at home mum? Why make it into a ‘thing’? We’re all doing our best, whatever that might look like. Whether we work full time, part time or not at all. Day shifts or night shifts, we are all making compromises. But there’s one thing that we all definitely have in common. We are all lucky. Lucky that we are getting to make these choices, or consider them. Lucky that we are in this position as parents in the first place. And that, surely, is all that should matter.
Bio:

Jo blogs at Cup of Toast about her family life, food, adventures and everything in between. She is a mama to 3 boys (aged 6, 4 and 2) and several fur babies. Jo enjoys reading, writing and eating biscuits!

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