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Five Reasons Why my Marriage is (Currently) Working so Well

Five Reasons Why my Marriage is (Currently) Working so Well

Recently we attended a friend’s wedding. The venue was an old barn purposely converted for these kinds of events. It was picturesque and its rooms were filled with loved up couples, all fighting to hold back tears of joy. There’s nothing more romantic than a wedding celebration. Even for the stone hearted among us, it’s hard not to soften even just a little.

As we sat down to the wedding breakfast, the father of the bride stood up to give his speech. The poor guy was finding it so hard to hold it together in front of his radiant daughter, but he managed to part with some good advice for a long and happy marriage. My better half and I have been married for a while now and so I couldn’t help but think about the advice I could give about staying happy in marriage. After some thought, I decided that the recipe for the perfect marriage is difficult to concoct.

What I do know, is that being married is a lot of hard work. It involves a lot of give and take, as well as being incredibly frustrating on occasion. There’s all the good stuff too; having someone to come home to every night, sharing your thoughts, worries, hopes and dreams with someone you love is never to be taken for granted. As much as I can’t give you the recipe for a perfect marriage, I can tell you how we’re currently nailing being wed:

I stay at home to look after the house and the kids –

I imagine this statement will resemble the equivalent of a red rag to a bull for some of you, but one of the reasons our marriage works so well is because I’m always here. Ever since having our first child, I’ve been at home. Granted I’ve managed to carve a career out of writing, but initially it was intended that my role should be ‘stay at home mum‘. This wasn’t forced upon me, it was a mutual decision and it works.

My husband has a very successful career. He works hard and he continues to climb the ladder. All of which would be made much more difficult if I decided that I was going to go back to work full-time, outside of the home. There would have to be a lot more give from his side and that could really affect his progression. That’s something neither of us want to happen. I might be a housewife 70% of the time but I’d rather that, than have my actions impact seriously on the goals of the person I love.

We’ve learnt to communicate adult to adult –

I want you to be aware that no couple is ever perfect, we all have our moments. What my husband and I have learnt over the past few years though, is that to make sure our marriage stays on an even keel we need to make sure we are communicating adult to adult. We don’t play games, we don’t purposely wind each other up out of the realms of jest and we work hard not to raise our voices. Turning disagreements into a rational discussion saves wasting a lot of time and energy.

We’re a team before all else –

Since having children especially, we’ve become a solid family unit. We are a team and we make important decisions together, before any outside factors are considered. Have you ever heard the saying ‘teamwork makes the dream work‘? It’s cheesy, but it’s one of my favourites! We bring up our family together, we graft together and we take time out together. Et voila, teamwork at its best!

We’ve learnt to accept each other’s bad habits and how to let the niggles slide –

We all have bad habits, yes even you. I for example, am a chronic over-thinker and I’m hard work because of it. My husband is a perfectionist and he’s hard work because of it. There have been times in the past where we have completely and utterly clashed as we can be so different, but frankly behaving that way has never gotten us anywhere. Accepting bad habits really is essential for a happy marriage, niggles will always be there – you’ve just got to let them go.

We do go to bed on arguments –

How many times have you been to a wedding and the best man advises never to go to bed on an argument? I’m pretty sure I’ve heard this bandied around at every wedding we’ve been to. Well, I completely disagree! How many times have you woken up after having a total barney the night before and thought, what the hell was the point in that anyway? So often things seem brighter in the morning, which is why I think putting disagreements to one side and getting some kip is a far healthier approach to marriage.

I don’t think it’s possible for anyone to have a marriage that’s perfect, as we get older and wiser though I can’t help but think there are certain ways to go about making life as simple as possible. I can only recommend that you compromise, reassess how you communicate, work together, accept bad habits and don’t waste time on pointless arguments. Maybe I do have a good recipe for marriage after all?

 

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Think you’re Too Old to Find Love? Think Again!

Think you’re Too Old to Find Love? Think Again!

Love is the one thing that we all want in our lives. Sometimes we might think we don’t need it, but at the end of the day it’s always preferable to have that special someone in your life. Some people have one love, others have multiple loves. Some relationships last forever, others run their course. If you find yourself coming out of a relationship that has run it’s course, then you might be afraid to think about finding love again. For a while it might be the last thing on your mind and it’s not uncommon to feel that you’re too old to get back into the game.

What you have to remember is that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with dating, whatever your age. No one should be put off by thinking they’re too old to get back into dating. Everyone deserves to be happy and that includes you! Dating is exciting, it’s fun and even if it doesn’t lead you to love, it can still be a great way to find great friendships with new people. All you have to do is bite the bullet and get yourself out there. Age should never be an issue when it comes to dating and it’s so important to remember that!

Here are four reasons why the dating game is for everyone;

Age should never stop you finding love –

So many people think that dating is for the younger people among us. They think that just because they are over the ages of forty or 50, then they need to hang up their dating clothes. This is just not true! Not only can you date at 50, you can date when you’re 100 if you want to! Age should never stop you finding love. If anything, your life experience should give you the background you need to get stuck right in!   You might be looking for mature dating for over 50s, or you could be looking to find mature cougar women. Whatever it is you need in your life, don’t let your age stop you getting out there to find it.

Your are not your age –

The main thing you have to remember when you’re thinking of getting back on the dating scene, is that you are not your age. It really is just a number and you should never let it, however large, stop you finding the right person for you. Loads of different people all over the world find the time to date. Every race, every gender, every religion and even every tribe. We all want to find love and we should never let anything get in the way of that. Especially not something an insignificant as our age!

Don’t be nervous about dating –

The worst thing you can do is get nervous when you think about dating. Don’t let your nerves stop you heading out and having the time of your life. Don’t let other people’s opinions stop you from meeting that special someone. Not everyone is going to agree with what we do, just like we don’t agree with everything everyone else does. That’s just the way it is. In life, we always regret what we didn’t do rather than what we did. So get yourself out there and enjoy the dating game. Believe me, you really won’t regret it. Especially if you meet the love of your life in the process!

Don’t settle for second best –

Another thing that a lot of people do when they get to a certain age, is settle for second best. They think that because they’re over a certain age, then they have to start a relationship with the first person that comes along. This is so wrong, for so many reasons. You really don’t want to waste your time dating someone, when you don’t really feel anything for them. Not only that, you don’t want to waste their time either. They deserve to find happiness too, so don’t tie each other down for the sake of it. Cut ties and get out there to find the right person for you.

Dating isn’t easy, whether you’re 25 or 55. There are still obstacles that you have to tackle and of course, you’re always at risk of getting your heart-broken. Most importantly though, you are likely to find someone who makes you so happy and who you can’t live without. So this is a reminder to all of those who are sat there thinking you are too old to date. Think again. You’re never too old to be happy!

 

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Three Ways to Stay Safe on a Date

Three Ways to Stay Safe on a Date

Dating these days can be so much fun! You don’t just have to go out for a meal or head to the cinema. There are loads of different ways to meet new people and to hopefully find love. You can head out to do a spot of speed dating or you might fancy using a free dating site to find that special someone. It might even be that you meet people through mutual friends, now that’s free dating at it’s finest! However you choose to meet new people though, you need to make sure that you know how to stay safe on a date.

Now the chances are that you’ll never have a problem when you’re meeting new people. Most individuals make good company and are heading out on dates for the same reason as you, to meet new people! Every now and again though, you might come across someone who isn’t who you thought they were. This is when you have to know what to do and how to keep yourself safe.

 

Here are three ways to stay safe on a date;

 

Remember to #AskforAngela –

The #AskForAngela campaign was originally launched by Lincolnshire county council. Its aim is to make sure that individuals on dates have an easy escape from the person they’re meeting, should they need to. The main concept of #AskforAngela, is that if you feel uncomfortable when you’re out on a date, then all you have to do is go to the bar and ‘ask for Angela’. The staff will then know that you feel threatened or unsafe and will do everything in their power to help you. The staff are able to contact your family for you, to let them know that you need a little help. They can call a taxi to get you home, or they can ask the person causing you to feel this way to leave the venue.

Make sure someone knows where you are going and who you are with –

One of the best ways to keep yourself safe on a date, is to make sure that someone else knows where you are at all times. You might want to text them every now and again, to let them know where you are and if things are going OK. You might even want to give them a few details about the person you are with, so they can hep you out if they need to. The chances are that you won’t ever need any help, but it’s better to be safe than sorry. Tell someone where you are and who you are with! 

Don’t do anything that you don’t feel comfortable with –

Sometimes when we meet new people we ignore our instincts a little, mistaking them for nerves. This is something that you should never do! If your gut is telling you that something isn’t quite right, or that you feel uneasy with any situation, then you need to take a step back. The people who really care for you will never make you do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. So if your date is, then it’s probably time to say goodbye!

 

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Three Reasons you Never Have to Feel Lonely in 2018

Three Reasons you Never Have to Feel Lonely in 2018

As we’re well and truly into 2018, those of you that made New Years resolutions to find love may be finding it a struggle to stick to them. We’re all full of excitement and good will around New Year, but once life gets back to normal it isn’t easy to make the changes that we want to make. If you have found yourself falling off of the wagon a little, now is the time to get back on the horse. It’s not too late to make your resolutions a reality. There’s absolutely no reason why this year can’t be the year that you find love.

There are so many ways that you can meet new people and banish loneliness from your life. All you have to do is want to make a few positive changes in your life, that way you’ll set yourself up for success on the dating front. Forget sitting by yourself of an evening and missing out on all of the things that people do as couples. This year is your year!

 

Here are three reasons you never have to feel lonely in 2018; 

Online dating makes it easier than ever to meet new people –

If you haven’t already ventured into the online dating world, now is the time to do so. There’s absolutely no way anyone can be lonely if they’re using online dating to their advantage. All you have to do is have a little search for the best dating sites. There are sites for every area, so if you’re looking for Surrey singles or you fancy Gloucester dating, there’s a site that’s perfect for your needs.

Once you’ve found the site that’s right for you, then you can begin your search for a partner that’s right for you. You might not fall in love with the first person you meet, but there’s no way you’ll be lonely whilst you’re having fun searching for the person you’re meant to be with.

Every area has fun singles nights that you can attend to meet new people –

A really fun way to meet new people and get out of the house is to attend singles nights in your local area. There are so many different themed nights, such as speed dating! All you have to do is get a group of friends together and head out for a night of fun a lots of laughs! You might be in Devon dating, or you might be in London dating, it doesn’t matter there’s sure to be events local to you that you can head out to. Even if you don’t fall madly in love, you’ll have that much fun, that feeling lonely will be a thing of the past.

You have to believe that this is your year to find love and do something about it –

One of the most important things to remember when you’re feeling a little lonely, is that only you can do something about it. So this year, you need to believe that it’s your year to find love. Promise yourself that you’re going to be proactive about dating and that’s half of the battle!

 

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Three Reasons Online Dating is the Best Way to Find Happiness

Three Reasons Online Dating is the Best Way to Find Happiness

Hands up those who get bored with going out, all dolled up with the intention of meeting someone to date? Too many of us think that we have to leave the house to meet the perfect person to spend time with. These days though, this is just not the case. It’s becoming more and more common for people to find happiness using online dating. Actually, dating online is probably one of the best ways to find happiness as it makes the whole process so simple and easy. Once you get to grips with online dating and find the best dating sites, you’ll wonder why you didn’t jump on the band wagon years ago!

 

Here are three reasons why online dating is the best way to find happiness;

 

It takes away the pressure of ‘old fashioned’ dating –

Dating online opens up a whole new world. There are so many sites to choose from, so it’s worth doing your research to that you find one that suits your needs best. For example, if you’re in Manchester dating, then you could use a site that’s specific to that area. Likewise, if you’re in Grampian dating then all you have to do is find a site near you!

So, forget about getting dolled up and being on your best behaviour. Try logging on, from the warmth and comfort of your own home. You can wear you comfies and really relax before you set out to find the right person for you. One of the best things about dating this way is that you’re more likely to show you date the real you, as your feeling so relaxed in your surroundings.

 

It gives you the space to figure out if you have a connection with someone –

Online dating is the perfect way to find out whether you actually have a connection with someone. Sometimes when you meet some one face to face, it’s hard to relax enough for both sides to show their true selves. So often, people don’t get the right perception of their date as they put on a front in social situations. When you’ve been chatting to someone via online dating sites, it gives you a real opportunity to have in-depth conversations. That way you’ll know whether you actually have a real connection with the other person, or if your relationship could only ever be friendship!

 

It makes it easy to search for love further afield, so you can meet the perfect person for you –

One of the benefits of online dating is that it makes it really easy to meet people, who you wouldn’t necessarily meet if you went out on the town. For example if you’re in Kent dating but you don’t really want to meet Kent singles, then you could use a dating site that is based in a different location. There’s nothing to stop you looking further afield and meeting new and interesting people. You never know you could find the person you’ve been looking for, other than that you’ll have heaps of fun!

 

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Four Reasons Why your Age Shouldn’t Stop you Dating

Four Reasons Why your Age Shouldn’t Stop you Dating

How often have you found yourself believing that you’re too old to find love? If you’ve thought this at least once, then that’s far to often! Love in an amazing thing and everyone should know that they are capable of finding love with a special someone, regardless of their age. No one should have to grow old, not sharing their life with someone who they care for and who can be there throughout the ups and downs of life.

There’s absolutely no reason why people over 40 should write themselves off when it comes to dating. Even if it takes a while to find someone to settle down with, the whole dating process can be enjoyed along the way. There are so many amazing things to do and places to visit, so why not do this whilst meeting new people too? So many special times can be shared and so many wonderful memories made. There’s nothing to say you can’t stay friends with the people you meet, even if you don’t want to spend time with them in a romantic way.

Here are four reasons why your age shouldn’t stop you dating;

Companionship over 40 is good for the soul –

Meeting new people in general really is good for a person. New people bring with them new experiences and fresh ways of thinking. Spending time with someone new can be really refreshing and it can open your eyes to ways of living, that you wouldn’t have entertained before. Heading out to meet new people and spending time getting to know them can make you and your date feel like you have extra purpose in your life. Forget sitting in with a box set on a Saturday night, head out and meet new people. Your soul will definitely thank you for it!

Online dating makes it easier than ever to meet new people –

A really great way to meet new people when you are over 40 is by using an online dating site. There are so many sites out there, such as Older-Dating.com that point you in the right direction when in comes to meeting someone new. Dating sites allow you to search for people who have similar interests to you, so that you know you have something in common before you decide to meet.

Dating sites also allow you to chat to the people you like before you actually meet them in person. This is a really great feature when using online dating, it means you can get the awkward introductions over and done with before you meet them face to face. There’s nothing worse than heading out on a date and feeling nervous about meeting someone for the first time. There’s so much worry about what to talk about and anxiety over getting through awkward silences. If you’ve been chatting to the person before you meet, all of this will done with and you can just get on with enjoying yourself!

Dating over 40 helps you to meet new people in your area –

Dating over 40 can seem like a bit of a task, especially if you don’t find it easy to meet new people in your area. Another great feature of online dating is that you can find people in a similar situation to yourself, who may live closer than you initially realised! Having said that, there’s no reason why you can’t use online dating to find people who live a little further afield. Not only will this allow you meet a completely fresh bunch of people, it will also mean you can visit new places along the way!

You’re never too old to fall in love –

One of the most important things to remember is that you are never too old to fall in love. Whether you are in your twenties or in your forties, there’s absolutely no reason why you shouldn’t be heading out to find someone to share your life with! Think about all of the amazing memories that you could make together and all of the fun you could have along the way. Falling in love is available to everyone and you should always remember this. Don’t fall into the trap of early nights and a hot chocolate, when you could be spending that time meeting someone who will change your life for the better!

The moral of the story? Open yourself up to love and make an effort to find your special someone. It could be the best decision you ever make!

 

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Making Dating Simple: How to Sweep your Date off of their Feet!

Making Dating Simple: How to Sweep your Date off of their Feet!

When we head out on dates, often we really want to sweep our partner off of their feet. We want to do something really special for them, something that they’ll never forget. It’s not always easy to know what to do though. It’s often hard to think of something so amazing, that they’ll always remember it!

Seeing as we aren’t able to read others people’s minds, I’ve come up with a few sure-fire ways you can make your date feel special. They don’t even have to be big things, just as long as your date knows that you’ve put the thought and effort in just for them. Everyone likes to be at the centre of another person’s thoughts, so it’s important that you take some time to put these ideas into action. That way your date will know just how much you care about them.

Here are three ways you can sweep your date off of their feet;

Cook them their favourite meal –

Wherever you are in the country, food is always a good idea for a date. Whether you want to date Lincolnshire singles, or whether you want to date Northamptonshire singles, the easiest way to their heart is to cook them their favourite meal. Taking the time to find out what they love to eat, shows your date that you care about what they like. Even better, taking the time and effort to cook this meal, really shows them that you’re out to impress. Food is always to way to someone’s heart!

Take them to see their favourite band –

Another great way to show your date that you are into them, is to take them to see their favourite band. Heading out to see live music always has such an amazing atmosphere.You might want to date Fife singles, or you might want to date Strathclyde singles. Wherever you are, there are sure to be bands on in your area that your date will love!

Going to see live music together is a great experience and one that you and your date will never forget. Even if you don’t usually listen to the same kind of music, heading out to see them will show your date that you are more than happy to do what makes them happy. There’s no better way to sweep someone off of their feet, than to show them that you’re willing to put your own feelings aside to ensure their happiness!

Buy them an amazing and personal gift –

One of the best ways to sweep someone off of their feet is to buy them a gift that is not only amazing, but is personal to them. For example, if you want to date Exeter singles, you could buy them a gift that represents the area that they’re from. Everyone loves to receive gifts, especially if they have sentimental value. Your date will be sure to be impressed if you get this one right. You’ll have them swept off of their feet in no time!

 

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Four Reasons it’s Time for You to Find Love

Four Reasons it’s Time for You to Find Love

There comes a time in all of our lives when it’s time to find love and settle down. It’s the natural course of life and it’s something that should be embraced! You might be dating in Derbyshire, or you might be dating in Merseyside. Wherever you are, it’s time to turn those dates into a serious search for love!

Being in love some with has so many benefits. It’s an amazing, roller coaster of a journey that you will adore being on. If you’re not convinced that you need a special someone in your life, here are four reasons it’s time for you to find love;

You’ll always have a date for special occasions –

One of the best things about falling in love, is that you’ll always have a date for those special occasions. No longer will you be the only singleton at family weddings and no longer will you be searching for a last-minute date! There’s nothing better than attending events with someone you love, you will be creating memories together that you will look back on fondly in years to come!

You’ll have someone to confide in –

Maybe you’ve been dating in Watford or maybe you’ve been dating in Cheshire. Wherever it is that you’ve been searching for that special someone, once you find them they’ll turn into someone you can confide in. You’ll be able to tell them your secrets and discuss your fears. If you have anything on your mind, you have someone to fall back on for support. This surely has to be a real positive to falling in love!

You’ll always have someone at the end of the phone –

Have you ever experienced something spontaneous and amazing, when all you want to do is pick the phone up and tell someone about it? Well, once you’ve fallen in love you’ll always have someone you can pick the phone up to! Someone that you can send a text to and someone who you can call to share your experience. It’s common for couples to become best friends and I think this is an amazing part of being in love. Your best friend and partner will always be there to listen to you and to take enjoyment out of all of the amazing things that happen in life.

You’ll have someone to plan your future with –

Once you are happy and settled in a loving relationship, it’s the done thing to plan your future together. This could be things like holidays and trips together. You might want to visit famous Buckinghamshire dating sites, or you might want to visit the Highlands of Scotland! Whatever it is that you want out of life, you can sit and plan with the one that you love. There are so many amazing things to do and see, you’ll be able to pool your ideas and devise a plan that will make amazing memories for both of you. The world is your oyster as they say!

 

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Dating Tips – Three Tell-Tale Signs your Date Went Well

Dating Tips – Three Tell-Tale Signs your Date Went Well

We all know that dating isn’t an easy game to play. It can be so nerve-wracking when you meet people for the first time. We spend half of the time worrying about what we look like and what we’re saying. The rest of the time is spent worrying about what our date thinks about us and if it’s going well. Whether you’re dating Glasgow or dating Leicestershire, the thought process is always the same and it can leave us feeling a little confused!

If you often find yourself feeling like this. then there are a few things to look out for that will indicate whether your date went well, or not. You don’t want to analyse the situation too much, but by thinking back to a few specific things about your date, you’re sure to answer a few questions that are worrying your doubtful mind.

Here are three tell-tale signs that your date went well;

You had a lot to talk about –

It doesn’t matter if you’re dating Guernsey, dating Yorkshire, or maybe even dating Manchester, in fact all over the world! The most obvious sign that your date went well is that you had a lot to talk about. A good flow of interesting conversation, with no awkward silences to put you on edge is a sure-fire way to know that your date is interested in you and what you’re all about. If your conversation bypassed small talk and pleasantries, diving straight into meaningful chat, the chances are that you’ll be seeing that person again!

The time passed quickly –

Everyone knows that when they’re not having a good time, the time seems to slow down. You find yourself looking at your watch too frequently and often cut the date short, making your excuses to leave. So, it goes without saying that if your date is going well, the time will just fly by. The date will be over before you know it and you won’t believe that it’s time to leave already. If you feel like this after a date, it’s sure to have gone well!

Your date was tactile and had good body language –

It’s not always easy to read a person’s body language, but there are a few simple things you can look out for to reassure you. One of the most obvious signs is that your date is tactile. If they touch your arm when they’re talking to you for example, you can be pretty certain that they like you! People don’t tend to try to get close to people they’re not into, so take this as a positive sign.

Another thing to look out for is how your date sits around you. If they turn their body away from you or cross their arms over their body, then this might be a sign that they’re just not that into you. If they turn their body towards you though and even lean in a little, then it’s safe to say that they like what they see!

 

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Three Easy Ways to Meet New People and Find Love

Three Easy Ways to Meet New People and Find Love

In this day and age meeting new people is harder than ever. Our lives are so busy, no one has a minute to spare. The trouble with this, is that finding love also becomes hard to achieve. Relationships are put on the back burner, in favour of work and career progression. Once people get out of the habit of meeting new people, in becomes more and more difficult to get back into the swing of dating.

It’s so important that we take the time to concentrate on our personal lives though. After all, everyone needs a little love in their lives! It doesn’t matter whether you’re a young person looking for that special someone or a senior dating, you need to make time to nurture that aspect of your life.

Here are three easy ways to meet new people and find love;

Start online dating –

Online dating is the perfect way to meet new people in your area. There are many adult dating sites. with different themes to make sure you are meeting people who are perfect for you. Through a quick and simple search you are able to find people of the right age, who have similar interests and who live locally. It takes so much of the leg work out of meeting new people. Online dating is the ideal companion to those of us that are living hectic lives.

Attend a local singles night –

Many areas have singles nights at different venues, that allow you to go along and meet new people. You might be in Cardiff dating, or you could be looking for single men Dyfed. Where ever you are and whatever you look for in a companion, you’re sure to meet an interesting bunch of new people near you.

There are also themed singles night that you can attend if you’re up for a little fun. A quick search will alert you to so many different themed nights. Not only will you have a blast, you might just meet the love of your life too!

Take on an evening class –

Another great way to meet people who have similar interests to you, is to take an evening class. Local colleges and universities offer an array of night classes to suit so many different interests. All you have to do is find a class that you know you’ll enjoy. They are easy to come across to, for example; if you’re dating Surrey all you have to do is search the sites of education providers in the Surrey area.

It’s not always easy to find people who share your interests, so this is the perfect way to ensure you’ll have something in common. You’ll never be stuck for something to talk about when you have a guaranteed conversation starter each time you meet. This is a really fun way to meet new people. it gives you the chance to nourish your mind and learn something new. Whilst also giving you the opportunity to find a love that’s built on common ground from the outset!

 

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