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Does Staying at Home with the Kids Mean I Lack Ambition?

Does Staying at Home with the Kids Mean I Lack Ambition?

My husband and I had a conversation recently, mainly about the family life of professionals. He told me that one of his colleagues had informed him that he does so well at work, because his wife ‘lacks ambition‘. What he meant was, his wife had given up her professional role to stay at home with the kids and that it was the right choice for their family. It would seem that he appreciated this ‘lack of ambition‘ though, as he felt it allowed him to progress swiftly in his own career. As you can imagine, I was a little taken aback by his admission.

I’ve previously written about my marriage and I’ve commented on the main reason it’s working so well. That reason was the fact that I stay at home to look after the kids. Yes this is so my husband can progress in his career and yes it meant I had to leave my first business behind. Does it mean I lack ambition though? Am I forever destined to be mother and housewife, with no desire to follow my dreams? I think not.

Ambition doesn’t always wear the same mask –

The thing about ambition is that it means different things to different people. From being a teenager, it was always my ambition to work for myself. I knew I wanted to be my own boss and a lot of hard work got me there. My husband always dreamt of working as a medical professional, he continues to work hard in this field and he will go far. This demonstrates ambition in two different ways, but both are ambition nonetheless.

Stronger than my ambition to build a business, was my desire to become the best mum I could be. It was my ambition to become a stay at home parent, that was and still is the environment in which I want to raise my children. How can that not be ambition? It’s a dream and it takes a lot of working towards, I believe I have succeeded. I have have fulfilled my ambition.

I do always put my husbands work needs before my own, but that’s because I want to, not because I have to. Just because I want him to achieve his goals and because I’m happy to work around his aspirations, doesn’t mean I’m faltering on the ambition front. Ambition doesn’t just have to be associated with career prospects, it covers life as a whole.

There’s more than one way to skin a cat –

The comment this guy made frustrated me most, because my ambition to be self employed will never disappear. That’s why I built up a blogging and freelance writing business from home. Just because people don’t always fulfil their ambition by taking the traditional route, doesn’t mean it’s not achievable. I know from my own experience that anything is possible if you put your mind to it. Referring to your loved one as ‘lacking ambition’ is entirely unacceptable, given that there’s so much to be achieved without leaving the comfort of your own home.

So whatever your ambition may be, whether it’s to rise through the ranks of your company, to be a stay at home parent or to build a business of your own. Never, ever believe that you are lacking in ambition. Never let anyone tell you that you don’t aspire to do anything or be anyone. You are you for a reason and you’re already achieving so much.

 

 

 

 

 

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Working from Home: How to Meet Deadlines When your Children Refuse to Nap

Working from Home: How to Meet Deadlines When your Children Refuse to Nap

Thus far in my blogging career, I’ve been able to complete a sizeable chunk of the hefty workload whilst my children slumbered. I would put them down for their afternoon nap and sit down to a couple of hours work in the afternoon. Then when they went to bed in the evening, I’d grab a few more hours for good measure. It was a good balance and one that will be sorely missed.

The last few months have seen my eldest daughter drop her naps altogether. My youngest does still nap, but not for long during daytime hours. This has thrown a huge spanner in the works where my business is concerned, as I’ve lost a whopping 14 hours of dedicated blogging time each week. At first I found myself in a spin of overwhelm and disorganisation. With even less time in the day to get on top of things, I felt like I was drowning in my work load.

Something had to change. Firstly I had to accept that nap time is no more. I’ve had a good run of 2.5 years of mid-afternoon bliss, but it was time to re-asses our daily routine to keep each of us as happy as can be. After much trial and error, we now have a good little routine going!

 

So, here’s how to meet deadlines when your children refuse to nap:

 

Split your days into activity blocks –

The key to keeping everyone in your house happy, is to allocate of time to meet everyone’s needs. In our house, the littlest still needs a short nap around lunchtime, so our day is divided into three blocks; ‘morning’, ‘downtime’ and ‘the rest of the day’. Our morning and the rest of the day is dedicated to our girls, we take them out, educate them and do everything else that comes with being a parent. Downtime however, is time for me to settle the girls down for an hour in order to get through some of my workload. I often enlist the help of Peppa Pig here, but it’s a good rest for the girls and time for them to recharge for the rest of the day.

Create a dedicated work space –

Having an area that’s just for you is a great way to make sure you meet your deadlines. My husband recently built me a desk area and it means that I can leave unfinished work to come back to later. I’m able to jump back into my chair and continue my project without having to wast time reorganising myself. It also means there are no little people using my documents as scrap paper!

Work into the night, but know when to stop –

I’ve accepted that If I’m to continue working at the level I’ve gotten used to, then burning the midnight oil is a given. As it’s the only real quiet time I have, I leave all of the more complicated projects until after the children have settled for the night. Working too late, too often can quickly lead to burn out though. So it’s important to recognise your limits and to hit the hay early once in a while. Burning the candle at both ends won’t be a benefit to anyone.

Use downtime to catch up on easy tasks –

If the kids are up and you’re finding it difficult to concentrate, tackling tasks that are simple will make you feel like you’ve been productive. It’s still work that has to be done and once you have time to yourself you can concentrate on the more complex projects.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help –

Sometimes things don’t go according to plan and getting things done becomes impossible. That’s when you need to admit defeat and ask for a little help. Whether that’s getting someone to watch the kids whilst you spend some time catching up, or outsourcing work that you just isn’t at the top of your priority list. Don’t try to be superhuman!

 

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Four Easy ways to Make Money from Home

Four Easy ways to Make Money from Home

Ever since I gave up my first business back in 2015, I’ve made it my mission to find legitimate ways of making money from home. For a little while I was a stay at home mum, but like many others before me I needed something else in my life. I needed to feel the purpose that comes from having a business. I missed the excitement of building up my own empire and the rush from striking good deals and making money in my own right.

The good thing about working from home, is that you have the space to create multiple income streams. There’s the opportunity to seek out numerous ways to make cash, all from the comfort and warmth of your own four walls. I for one, have never looked back since I began freelancing. The fact that I make money from home means that I’m always here for my children, as well as constantly feeding my desire to be successful at work!

There are so many ways that you too can make money from home, all it take is effort and a lot of determination. Here are four easy ways you can make money from home;

 

Freelance writing –

Freelance writing is a great way to make money from home. If you love to write and have the skills to produce good quality copy, then this option could be for you. There are numerous online platforms that provide freelancers with work at their skill level, as well as giving them the opportunity to rise through the ranks as they gain experience. The beauty of this role is that you can take on as much or as little work as you wish and payment is usually made swiftly. If this is of interest to you, I’ve written about more about making money from freelance writing HERE! 

 

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Sell unwanted jewellery –

Most of us have jewellery in the house that we no longer wear. Whether they’re pieces that are no longer in fashion or they’re just not your cup of tea anymore, often they sit collecting dust. The fact is though, that you could be sitting on a pile of cash without even realising it! You can sell jewellery for cash with little to no effort, all you have to concentrate on is the reward. With gold prices currently at a record high, now is the time to get searching through your jewellery box. The best bit about it is that you can be paid for your wares in as little as 24 hours.

 

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Complete online surveys –

As much as completing online surveys is never going to make you a millionaire, there’s still the possibility to make a little extra money for a rainy day. A quick Google search will present you with a whole host of survey sites, some pay in cash, others in points that can be exchanged for vouchers and some in gifts. The secret to making money from home with these surveys is volume. They take very little brain power to complete, you can do them whilst sitting in front of the TV of an evening. Do as many as you can in the time that you have and reap the rewards!

 

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Sell unwanted household items –

As with unwanted jewellery, many of us have a house full of things we no longer need nor use. An easy way to make money from home, is to list these items on online marketplaces and auction sites. Someone else is bound to want what you have and you can use the cash to get something that you really need instead. Not only are you set to make a tidy sum from selling your stuff, you’ll also de-clutter your home along the way!

 

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*This post was written in collaboration with Post My Gold. As always, all thoughts and opinions are my own. 

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Vremi Baking Cups – Review & Giveaway

Vremi Baking Cups – Review & Giveaway

We’ve had a lot of fun this week at The Tale of Mummyhood HQ, as we’ve had our baking hats on. We were lucky enough to be sent a selection of Vremi Silicone Baking Cups and the girls couldn’t wait to get messy! I’m the first to admit that baking isn’t my strong point, but with the help of Hubs we managed to create some edible buns that we all enjoyed!

The great thing about these baking cups is that you get so many. With twenty-four in the pack you can make enough cakes for everyone and some for when the kids are finally in bed! They come in 4 different colours, pink, yellow, blue and green, which was great to help us identify who’s cakes were who’s!

 

 

So, how did we get on?

Having only used paper baking cups before, Hubs and I were super impressed with the ease of the Vremi silicone cups. They are so much stronger than the paper ones, so our cakes kept their shape in the oven and there were no spillages because of collapsing sides! They are non-stick too, so when you remove your cake from the cups you get the whole lot, rather than chunks of cake being left on the side of the paper.

As a parent the best thing about these cups is that once they’ve been used, you just throw them in the dishwasher ready to use all over again! This means that there’s no messy washing up to do and there are always baking cups in the house if the girls decide they want to make cakes! I know that our baking cups will get so much use as our girls get into baking. I think the practice will be good for me too!

 

If you’d like the chance to win your own Vremi Baking Cups and Apple Slicer, all you have to do is enter using the form below. Please do take a peek at the terms and conditions…good luck!

 

Win the Vremi Silicone Baking Cups and Apple Slicer #17

*We were sent the Vremi baking cups in return for this review. As always, all thoughts and opinions are my own.

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Home Improvements – Creating the Ideal Office and Home

Home Improvements – Creating the Ideal Office and Home

Ever since we moved into our house over five years ago, we’ve struggled to decide whether or not it would be our forever home. In that time, we’ve gotten married, had 2 children and recently we finally decided that this place is where we’re meant to be. So over the past few months we’ve taken the time to make a few changes to our humble abode, it was time to get our four walls working for us!

 

Our Home Improvements –

The thing about the property we live in, is that it doesn’t have a great deal of storage room. We didn’t really see this as a problem until we had children, but these days we struggle to find the space to store all of the kids toys. It’s also not been easy to find the space to store my work things. Working from home suits me, but it means that I’ve had the find an area to fit an office into our home!

Luckily for me I have a very handy husband and he’s been a busy little bee! He’s created the perfect office for me, with heaps of built-in storage for all of my bits and bobs. I now have a large desk, giving me the space to focus when I need to, he also added a few of my favourite accessories to give my work space character and to make it a happy place to sit when I’m putting in the hours!

Not only did we need this room to include an office space, but it also needs to function comfortably as a dining room. So Hubs found us the ideal round, extendable table that we can all sit around as a family and enjoy our meals. Then once dinner is over the table can be made more compact, so that we have plenty of space to use the rest of the room!

 

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Long Term Home Improvements –

As well as making these small yet effective changes to our home, there are also a few bigger plans that we have in the pipeline! One way to increase the amount of space that we have is to add a conservatory onto the side of our house. I’ve always loved the look of lantern roofs and I know it would make the perfect, bright play room for our girls! Not only would this extra room would provide some much needed space, it would also create the perfect reading room for when I finally get time to chill out! 

Even though our dining room is feeling better than ever before, I can’t help but think it would feel so much better if it had doors that opened up onto our garden. Spending hours at my desk would be made so much nicer during the Summer months if I could open up the room to enjoy the weather at the same time. Hubs and I decided to get a bifold door quote, as these really would make or home perfect for all of us!

Our house is set to be our dream home once all of these improvements have been made. I can’t wait sit back and relax in our perfect little palace!

 

What improvements would you like to make to your home?

 

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*This is a collaborative post.

 

 

 

 

 

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Gingersnap Colour Changing Light Box – Review

Gingersnap Colour Changing Light Box – Review

Recently Hubs and I have spent some time renovating our little palace. We’ve managed to regain a bit of the adult space that disappeared shortly after our first daughter was born. We’ve enjoyed relaxing in our new environment over the past few weeks, but we both felt that there was something missing. After having a big de-clutter, our living area felt bare and in need of a little life! So when I got the chance to review the Gingersnap colour changing light box, I couldn’t wait to spruce up our room with this super cool feature!

Before our light box arrived I spent some time looking over the Gingersnap website. Not only do they have light boxes, they also have vintage lighting and neon lamps, among so much more. I absolutely love the look of the vintage lamps, I’ll definitely be heading back to Gingersnap as we work our way through the other rooms in our house!

Light Box Love

I’ve always loved the look of light boxes and this one does not disappoint. When it arrived the girls and I had a great time sorting through the letter and emoji packs. The guys at Gingersnap also sent over an extra coloured letter pack, perfect for mixing and matching our messages. There are so many emoji’s to choose from and after much consideration, I found the social media icons most apt for this project!

 

 

The best thing about this Gingersnap light box is that, unlike some of the more standard options, it has a colour changing back light. You can choose from the traditional white light, or by clicking the button for a second time you can switch to an array of beautiful bright colours. Our eldest daughter has recently begun to learn her colours, so she’s had a total ball shouting out all of the different colours as they change!

 

 

Our new light box sits pride of place in our living area. I love spending time changing the messages, they’re a real conversation starter when we have company! If you’re after a super cool addition to your home then I can’t recommend this product enough, it’d make a really great gift for friends and family too!

 

Gingersnap would like to offer my readers the chance to win a light box of their own. All you have to do is enter using the form below…good luck!

 

 

Win a Gingersnap Light Box

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Make Money from Home by Putting your Writing Skills into Practice

Make Money from Home by Putting your Writing Skills into Practice

For many people working from home is a dream that they never think will come true. Finding legitimate work that you can undertake from inside own four walls isn’t easy, but it’s not impossible either. One of the best ways to work from home is to take up freelance writing. If you love writing, have top notch grammatical skills and have the drive to work on a self-employed basis, freelancing may just be the career for you.

As a work from home mum, I’ve become well versed in making money from home. It means that I don’t have to stick to the 9-5, that I’m here for my littles and that work is now my passion, not just a means to get by.

So, where can you find work?

There are some great sources of freelance writing work online, you just have to know where to find them. Each of these sites offer the opportunity to to write, learn and progress!

upwork.com

Upwork is almost like a market place for jobs. Once you’ve signed up and completed your profile, you can start applying for work that is at your skill level. Once you get to grips with the system finding work is quick and easy. Upwork isn’t restricted to freelance writing jobs either, have a search of the market place and see what other skills you may have that will line your pockets!

freelancer.com

Freelancer is very similar to Upwork. It’s an online market place for freelance work of different types, from writing to offering your skills as a virtual assistant. Again, all you have to do is set up a profile and start applying for work at your skill level.

uk.copify.com

Copify is an online platform that has work readily available on a daily basis. To become part of the Copify team you have to pass a writing assessment. This means that once your in there’s no applying for, or bidding on projects. You can accept as much, or as little work as you want to and the payment process is super simple!

greatcontent.co.uk

Great Content work very similarly to Copify. There’s an assessment you have to pass to become a Great Content writer, but once  your in there’s work readily available on a first come, first served basis. Payment is quick and easy, meaning there’s no chasing anyone for your money!

 

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All of these sources offer great ways to show off your skill set and become the creative, entrepreneur you’ve always wanted to be. Life as a freelancer offers freedom, job satisfaction and a world of opportunity. There’s no reason why you can’t get in on that action too!  

 

 

 

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Messy Room To Tidy Haven

Messy Room To Tidy Haven

How do you feel when you approach your child’s bedroom? If you find yourself taking a deep breath before you so much as open the door, in preparation for what you’ll find, you know something is wrong! Sure, nearly every parent has to deal with a messy child from time to time – and as long as the mess is confined to their room and not the rest of the house, what’s the harm, right? But if you find that your child’s room looks like a bomb has hit it 99% of the time, you may need to take action. Developing a disregard for untidiness at a young age can cause multiple issues later in life, especially if your child goes on to attend college and has to share a bedroom with a stranger. After all, no one wants to be that annoying, messy roommate! But simply shouting at your child to clear up those things can only get you so far. If you really want to encourage cleanliness in your child, here are a few ways you can go about doing it in a more practical way.

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Show and tell

You can’t expect your child to be able to clean and tidy their room from top to bottom without being shown how. To them, putting their socks away might involve shoving handfuls of them in every drawer available – not neatly placing them in a drawer intended for socks alone. Break things down to your child and explain that everything has its home. If they are constantly wearing creased clothing due to ramming them in the bottom of their wardrobe, take the time to teach them how to fold clothes properly. When it comes to cleaning products, always supervise, as some chemicals can be harmful if not dealt with in the right way.

Create storage

Think about it – does your child really have a problem with tidiness, or does their room just look a mess because there is nowhere for them to store their possessions? There are plenty of storage options you can invest in for your child’s bedroom, whether it is an old-fashioned toy box or floating shelves. It is also worth looking at a website like Cuckooland to see if you could buy a bed with storage already built in. This saves you a lot of hassle and a lot of these beds look pretty cool, too.

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Reward them

A naturally messy child is not going to clean their bedroom unless there is something in it for them. This doesn’t mean to say that you should bribe them to do so but try and teach them that it’s just one of those things you need to do in life. Consider holding back certain privileges until their room has been tidied. This will spark them into action, and once they realise how much easier life is with a tidy room, it will soon become second nature to them.

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