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Three Years of Blogging

Three Years of Blogging

It occurred to me recently that I’m coming up to my three year blogging anniversary. I began, like a lot of mummy bloggers, after the birth of our first daughter. That time has absolutely flown by! Now she’s about to head to school full time and I’m still tip tapping away at this little blog of mine. 

When I started blogging, I didn’t expect it to go on for more than a few weeks. It was something I did to pass the time and to engage my brain, when I felt like all I was doing was changing nappies and sterilising bottles. I got the bug though and I’m proud to say that I carried on. I took the time to learn the ropes, or some of them as blogging is a constant learning curve. I invested time and money into making this little corner of the internet a haven and a job.

Blogging isn’t always sunshine and roses –  

I discovered early on that being a blogger is a lot of hard work. It’s not just about typing a few words and hitting publish. You have to work an incredible amount of hours to produce the right content for you and your readership. You have to learn how to use social media to your advantage and this task can be so exhausting. You could literally run your blog and social media accounts for twenty four hours a day, seven days a week and there would still be more to do.

The worst thing about blogging for me is the comparison game. There are so many amazing bloggers out there and it’s hard not to compare my work to theirs. I read other posts and wish I could write in that way. I scroll past Instagram images and feel envious of the photographic ability of others. This is such a black hole, one that’s hard to get out of if you fall too deeply into it. 

The trick is not to get dragged into the comparison game, it’s not healthy or helpful. It’s also paramount that bloggers take some time off, to avoid feeling completely burnt out. I believe that everyone, bloggers included, should take regular breaks from social media and screens in their entirety. To carry on winning at blogging life, it’s essential to shut out the negative thought patterns and to give yourself some time out. I’ve learnt this the hard way.

Don’t forget the good bits –  

Even though there are areas of blogging that you have to be cautious of, there are so many others that are absolutely amazing! When I started out I had no idea that working hard at blogging could bring with it an immense amount of opportunity. The last three years have been a whirlwind of product reviews, days out, sponsorships and brand ambassadorships. I had pipe dreams of becoming this kind of blogger, but I never actually believed it would happen. 

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve worked hard to get this far. I worked at my blog for a whole year before I could actually call it my job. I made it happen though and I’m still amazed by this each and every day. I’ll be forever grateful for all of the opportunities that have fallen into my inbox, mostly because our girls have had so many experiences that they wouldn’t have had, if I wasn’t a blogger. I’m also grateful for the identity that it has given me outside of being ‘mum’. Through blogging I get to contribute to our lives financially as well as my husband, and this makes me feel so good about myself. 

I hope that this blog of mine continues to thrive for many more years yet. I can’t thank my readers, my sponsors and my family for all of the support that keep The Tale of Mummyhood online!

 

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Bloggers, If I Could Offer you One Piece of Advice…

Bloggers, If I Could Offer you One Piece of Advice…

I don’t mind telling you that over the last few months I’ve suffered complete blogger burnout. I felt like I had completely lost my voice and there were times when I wondered why I’d even begun. The constant writing and endless social media had lost its appeal and I found myself in a rut of self-doubt. I felt like I was drowning in the online world and for a short time at least, I knew I needed to take a break.

Reflection –

The children were off of school around the time of my apparent disinterest in the blogging world, so I took the holidays as a time to reflect on where I wanted to go with this blog of mine. I’ve come a long way since the early days, even if I do say so myself and I soon realised I wasn’t about to let that time and effort be for nothing. The hardest part of blogging for me is time. As my main job is being a parent to our girls, my blog always has to come second. My husband works long shifts and it’s always been the case that I stay at home with the kids. As a grafter though, I find it hard to not to work, so often I find my self being full-time parent, whilst also squeezing in working full-time hours. The other rabbit hole that I got sucked into was comparison. The number games, who’s doing what and how many followers do they have. This is a downward spiral, inducing a whole host of negative thought patterns.

After a while I resolved that I wanted to carry on blogging. I knew that this was the business I wanted to keep building, all I had to do was change the way that I work.

A new approach –

After a lot of thinking and a lot of chatting with other bloggers, I realised that the only way forward is to blog for me. No more worrying about who other bloggers are working with. No more comparing my content to their’s and certainly no more fan girling over the ‘big bloggers‘ who have ‘made it’. I recently found myself shying away from a blogger with a large following, declaring myself as ‘small fry’ whilst feeling rather inadequate.The truth is that we are all in the same boat. We are all baring our souls for a cause that we’re passionate about. There’s no right or wrong way of doing it, only the way that suits each individual best.  My new approach to blogging has witnessed me wave goodbye to such ridiculous notions. I’m working as hard as everyone else and I should never forget that.

So fellow bloggers, if I could offer you one piece of advice it’s to do things your own way. Blog for you, to make you happy and to make your business work. Don’t compare yourself to everyone else, you are you for a reason and you need to remember that. There’ll always be someone around the corner to judge, but if you keep working hard with your head held high, you’ll lose sight of people like that in no time.

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#Blogstravaganza #80

#Blogstravaganza #80

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast!

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

 

#Blogstravaganza News!

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#Blogstravaganza #78

#Blogstravaganza #78

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast!

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

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#Blogstravaganza #77

#Blogstravaganza #77

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast!

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

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With the new GDPR guidelines coming into force very soon, I have a new GDPR compliant form for those who would like to receive #Blogstravaganza reminders via email each week. If you’d like to join the list, please do SIGN UP HERE!

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My favourite post from last week was this one from The Next Best Thing to Mummy! Grab your badge here:

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It would be great to continue to spread some love over on Instagram, please do remember to use the #Blogstravaganza tag on your images! Here are a couple of my favourites from this week!

 

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I'll let you into a secret. We were at a supposedly family friendly festival 2 weeks ago and it was dreadful. Today we have also been at a family friendly festival and it has been amazing. We have watched Cbeebies favourites onstage, met the Gruffalo, practiced circus skills, said hello to some parrots, eaten some great food, met Bumblebee, driven a car and much more. We can't wait for tomorrow…Geronimo you have been amazing. If you are anywhere near Knebworth come tomorrow for round 2. It is non stop fun #awanderfulchildhood #capturingtheday #followyoursunshine #freespiritedchildhood #Blogstravaganza #lovelifeoutside #moretoexploreoutdoors #myhappyviews #mycolourfulkids #myhappycapture #outdoorsfamilylife #pixel_kids #rememberingthesedays #snaphappybritmums #todaysmomentintime #travelmadfam #ukexplore #ukftb #wanderlustkids #wearetravelmums #whatevertheweatherkids #worldoflittles #bucketlist #happiestplaceonearth

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#Blogstravaganza #76

#Blogstravaganza #76

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast! 

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

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With the new GDPR guidelines coming into force very soon, I have a new GDPR compliant form for those who would like to receive #Blogstravaganza reminders via email each week. If you’d like to join the list, please do SIGN UP HERE!

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It would be great to continue to spread some love over on Instagram, please do remember to use the #Blogstravaganza tag on your images! Here are a couple of my favourites from this week!

Don’t forget the join the #Blogstravaganza – Opportunities, Blog Share & Support group on Facebook.  If you want to share your posts, get some advice from fellow bloggers or simply have a chat, do head over and check it out!

 

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#Blogstravaganza #75

#Blogstravaganza #75

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast! 

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

#Blogstravaganza News!

With the new GDPR guidelines coming into force very soon, I have a new GDPR compliant form for those who would like to receive #Blogstravaganza reminders via email each week. If you’d like to join the list, please do SIGN UP HERE!

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My favourite post from last week was this one from One Frazzled Mum! Grab your badge here:

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It would be great to continue to spread some love over on Instagram, please do remember to use the #Blogstravaganza tag on your images! Here are a couple of my favourites from this week!

Don’t forget the join the #Blogstravaganza – Opportunities, Blog Share & Support group on Facebook.  If you want to share your posts, get some advice from fellow bloggers or simply have a chat, do head over and check it out!

 

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#Blogstravaganza #74

#Blogstravaganza #74

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast! 

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

#Blogstravaganza News!

With the new GDPR guidelines coming into force very soon, I have a new GDPR compliant form for those who would like to receive #Blogstravaganza reminders via email each week. If you’d like to join the list, please do SIGN UP HERE!

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My favourite post from last week was this one from The CubKit! Grab your badge here:

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It would be great to continue to spread some love over on Instagram, please do remember to use the #Blogstravaganza tag on your images! Here are a couple of my favourites from this week!

Don’t forget the join the #Blogstravaganza – Opportunities, Blog Share & Support group on Facebook.  If you want to share your posts, get some advice from fellow bloggers or simply have a chat, do head over and check it out!

 

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Back to Full-Time Blogging – Why I’ve Hung up my Scissors, Again.

Back to Full-Time Blogging – Why I’ve Hung up my Scissors, Again.

Over the past three years I’ve been a complete yo-yo where work is concerned. I wanted to be there for my children, so I said goodbye to hairdressing. Then, after the littlest was born, I thought it might be nice to get out the house again for a few hours. So I went back to the old routine for one day a week, but guess what? It turns out that wasn’t for me either.

Sometimes I think I know what I want, others I’m completely lost and struggle to know if I’m making the right decisions. The fact is though, that I make a good wage from blogging and freelance writing. Don’t get me wrong, I put the hours in. Too many sometimes, if you ask my husband. I love blogging and I just can’t see the point in pouring my energies into a second job that I’m just not so taken with. So I quit.

 

Working around family –

Another reason that me working became an issue, is because of my husband’s hectic work schedule. He’s works so hard in a career that he loves and is constantly progressing. It’s been difficult fitting his shifts around my weekly work day, he managed it for me, but it was a real pain. The thing is I’m a drifter and I’ll pick up different lines of work whenever the mood takes. For him, it’s who he is and frankly that’s more important to me than one day a week to myself.

One of the main reasons I chose to give up my hairdressing role, is that blogging allows me the freedom to work around all members of the family. This is so important right now as the biggest is due to start nursery very soon. I want to be the one that drops her off. I want to be the one that picks her up. I don’t want to miss anything, especially when I’m lucky enough to have choices. The fact is that I don’t have to work and it’s about time I started appreciating the freedom that my situation gives me.

 

Money doesn’t make you happy –

As I touched on earlier, I work hard at home building up my blogging and freelance writing business. I make a wage and I’m proud of that. I’m always looking for more income streams too, which is why I took the hairdressing job in the first place. The money called to me and for that reason, I really don’t believe I thought things through properly. Until a few months later when I felt as though I was chasing my tail. I had even less hours during the week to get all of my work done and I was getting even less sleep than before. Not to mention being a full time mum to two under 3.

The truth is that money doesn’t make you happy. Family makes you happy, hobbies make you happy and working a job you love can make you happy. Grabbing at every penny available does not.

 

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#Blogstravaganza #72

#Blogstravaganza #72

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast! 

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

 

#Blogstravaganza News!

With the new GDPR guidelines coming into force very soon, I have a new GDPR compliant form for those who would like to receive #Blogstravaganza reminders via email each week. If you’d like to join the list, please do SIGN UP HERE!

 

Featured Blogger

My favourite post from last week was this one from Ready to Mum! Grab your badge here:

 

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It would be great to continue to spread some love over on Instagram, please do remember to use the #Blogstravaganza tag on your images! Here are a couple of my favourites from this week!

 

Don’t forget the join the #Blogstravaganza – Opportunities, Blog Share & Support group on Facebook.  If you want to share your posts, get some advice from fellow bloggers or simply have a chat, do head over and check it out!

 

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