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Three Years of Blogging

Three Years of Blogging

It occurred to me recently that I’m coming up to my three year blogging anniversary. I began, like a lot of mummy bloggers, after the birth of our first daughter. That time has absolutely flown by! Now she’s about to head to school full time and I’m still tip tapping away at this little blog of mine. 

When I started blogging, I didn’t expect it to go on for more than a few weeks. It was something I did to pass the time and to engage my brain, when I felt like all I was doing was changing nappies and sterilising bottles. I got the bug though and I’m proud to say that I carried on. I took the time to learn the ropes, or some of them as blogging is a constant learning curve. I invested time and money into making this little corner of the internet a haven and a job.

Blogging isn’t always sunshine and roses –  

I discovered early on that being a blogger is a lot of hard work. It’s not just about typing a few words and hitting publish. You have to work an incredible amount of hours to produce the right content for you and your readership. You have to learn how to use social media to your advantage and this task can be so exhausting. You could literally run your blog and social media accounts for twenty four hours a day, seven days a week and there would still be more to do.

The worst thing about blogging for me is the comparison game. There are so many amazing bloggers out there and it’s hard not to compare my work to theirs. I read other posts and wish I could write in that way. I scroll past Instagram images and feel envious of the photographic ability of others. This is such a black hole, one that’s hard to get out of if you fall too deeply into it. 

The trick is not to get dragged into the comparison game, it’s not healthy or helpful. It’s also paramount that bloggers take some time off, to avoid feeling completely burnt out. I believe that everyone, bloggers included, should take regular breaks from social media and screens in their entirety. To carry on winning at blogging life, it’s essential to shut out the negative thought patterns and to give yourself some time out. I’ve learnt this the hard way.

Don’t forget the good bits –  

Even though there are areas of blogging that you have to be cautious of, there are so many others that are absolutely amazing! When I started out I had no idea that working hard at blogging could bring with it an immense amount of opportunity. The last three years have been a whirlwind of product reviews, days out, sponsorships and brand ambassadorships. I had pipe dreams of becoming this kind of blogger, but I never actually believed it would happen. 

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve worked hard to get this far. I worked at my blog for a whole year before I could actually call it my job. I made it happen though and I’m still amazed by this each and every day. I’ll be forever grateful for all of the opportunities that have fallen into my inbox, mostly because our girls have had so many experiences that they wouldn’t have had, if I wasn’t a blogger. I’m also grateful for the identity that it has given me outside of being ‘mum’. Through blogging I get to contribute to our lives financially as well as my husband, and this makes me feel so good about myself. 

I hope that this blog of mine continues to thrive for many more years yet. I can’t thank my readers, my sponsors and my family for all of the support that keep The Tale of Mummyhood online!

 

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Bloggers, If I Could Offer you One Piece of Advice…

Bloggers, If I Could Offer you One Piece of Advice…

I don’t mind telling you that over the last few months I’ve suffered complete blogger burnout. I felt like I had completely lost my voice and there were times when I wondered why I’d even begun. The constant writing and endless social media had lost its appeal and I found myself in a rut of self-doubt. I felt like I was drowning in the online world and for a short time at least, I knew I needed to take a break.

Reflection –

The children were off of school around the time of my apparent disinterest in the blogging world, so I took the holidays as a time to reflect on where I wanted to go with this blog of mine. I’ve come a long way since the early days, even if I do say so myself and I soon realised I wasn’t about to let that time and effort be for nothing. The hardest part of blogging for me is time. As my main job is being a parent to our girls, my blog always has to come second. My husband works long shifts and it’s always been the case that I stay at home with the kids. As a grafter though, I find it hard to not to work, so often I find my self being full-time parent, whilst also squeezing in working full-time hours. The other rabbit hole that I got sucked into was comparison. The number games, who’s doing what and how many followers do they have. This is a downward spiral, inducing a whole host of negative thought patterns.

After a while I resolved that I wanted to carry on blogging. I knew that this was the business I wanted to keep building, all I had to do was change the way that I work.

A new approach –

After a lot of thinking and a lot of chatting with other bloggers, I realised that the only way forward is to blog for me. No more worrying about who other bloggers are working with. No more comparing my content to their’s and certainly no more fan girling over the ‘big bloggers‘ who have ‘made it’. I recently found myself shying away from a blogger with a large following, declaring myself as ‘small fry’ whilst feeling rather inadequate.The truth is that we are all in the same boat. We are all baring our souls for a cause that we’re passionate about. There’s no right or wrong way of doing it, only the way that suits each individual best.  My new approach to blogging has witnessed me wave goodbye to such ridiculous notions. I’m working as hard as everyone else and I should never forget that.

So fellow bloggers, if I could offer you one piece of advice it’s to do things your own way. Blog for you, to make you happy and to make your business work. Don’t compare yourself to everyone else, you are you for a reason and you need to remember that. There’ll always be someone around the corner to judge, but if you keep working hard with your head held high, you’ll lose sight of people like that in no time.

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#Blogstravaganza #77

#Blogstravaganza #77

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast!

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

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It would be great to continue to spread some love over on Instagram, please do remember to use the #Blogstravaganza tag on your images! Here are a couple of my favourites from this week!

 

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I'll let you into a secret. We were at a supposedly family friendly festival 2 weeks ago and it was dreadful. Today we have also been at a family friendly festival and it has been amazing. We have watched Cbeebies favourites onstage, met the Gruffalo, practiced circus skills, said hello to some parrots, eaten some great food, met Bumblebee, driven a car and much more. We can't wait for tomorrow…Geronimo you have been amazing. If you are anywhere near Knebworth come tomorrow for round 2. It is non stop fun #awanderfulchildhood #capturingtheday #followyoursunshine #freespiritedchildhood #Blogstravaganza #lovelifeoutside #moretoexploreoutdoors #myhappyviews #mycolourfulkids #myhappycapture #outdoorsfamilylife #pixel_kids #rememberingthesedays #snaphappybritmums #todaysmomentintime #travelmadfam #ukexplore #ukftb #wanderlustkids #wearetravelmums #whatevertheweatherkids #worldoflittles #bucketlist #happiestplaceonearth

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Back to Full-Time Blogging – Why I’ve Hung up my Scissors, Again.

Back to Full-Time Blogging – Why I’ve Hung up my Scissors, Again.

Over the past three years I’ve been a complete yo-yo where work is concerned. I wanted to be there for my children, so I said goodbye to hairdressing. Then, after the littlest was born, I thought it might be nice to get out the house again for a few hours. So I went back to the old routine for one day a week, but guess what? It turns out that wasn’t for me either.

Sometimes I think I know what I want, others I’m completely lost and struggle to know if I’m making the right decisions. The fact is though, that I make a good wage from blogging and freelance writing. Don’t get me wrong, I put the hours in. Too many sometimes, if you ask my husband. I love blogging and I just can’t see the point in pouring my energies into a second job that I’m just not so taken with. So I quit.

 

Working around family –

Another reason that me working became an issue, is because of my husband’s hectic work schedule. He’s works so hard in a career that he loves and is constantly progressing. It’s been difficult fitting his shifts around my weekly work day, he managed it for me, but it was a real pain. The thing is I’m a drifter and I’ll pick up different lines of work whenever the mood takes. For him, it’s who he is and frankly that’s more important to me than one day a week to myself.

One of the main reasons I chose to give up my hairdressing role, is that blogging allows me the freedom to work around all members of the family. This is so important right now as the biggest is due to start nursery very soon. I want to be the one that drops her off. I want to be the one that picks her up. I don’t want to miss anything, especially when I’m lucky enough to have choices. The fact is that I don’t have to work and it’s about time I started appreciating the freedom that my situation gives me.

 

Money doesn’t make you happy –

As I touched on earlier, I work hard at home building up my blogging and freelance writing business. I make a wage and I’m proud of that. I’m always looking for more income streams too, which is why I took the hairdressing job in the first place. The money called to me and for that reason, I really don’t believe I thought things through properly. Until a few months later when I felt as though I was chasing my tail. I had even less hours during the week to get all of my work done and I was getting even less sleep than before. Not to mention being a full time mum to two under 3.

The truth is that money doesn’t make you happy. Family makes you happy, hobbies make you happy and working a job you love can make you happy. Grabbing at every penny available does not.

 

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Three Commitments Every Blogger Needs to Make!

Three Commitments Every Blogger Needs to Make!

Once you’ve been bitten by the blogging bug, it’s impossible not to make a commitment to your corner of the internet. If you blog purely for the love of writing, you still have to pour hours of your life into crafting perfectly worded pieces. If you blog for a living, you have to work hard at building your business too. Whatever drives you to write and to grow your blog, you have to make commitments for it to work.

When I first started blogging I had no idea how much it would take over my life. Now two years in, I live and breathe blogging. I think about work from waking up, to going to bed. It can get a little overwhelming sometimes, but I can honestly say I’ve never had such a passion for what I do before. As with any job, there are good points and bad points. I don’t necessarily enjoy spending hours staring at a computer screen, but I do enjoy what I get out of it. Sometimes I wish I could go a whole day without having to look at my phone, but my blog wouldn’t be where it is today if I hadn’t spent the last couple of years glued to my iPhone.

Everyone’s blogging commitments differ depending on what they’re trying to achieve. To make your mark as a blogger though here are three commitments you definitely need to make!

Commit to working in the evening when the kids are finally asleep –

Parenting is a job in itself and sometimes finding time to blog during the day is impossible. Some days I have the best of intentions, but as my eldest gets older and naps less, sitting down to my laptop before 7pm is near on impossible. So in order to keep up with the work load and to keep my blog moving in the right direction, working after the kids have gone to bed is essential. I know so many bloggers who work into the wee, small hours too. It seems it’s the way forward for the parenting blogger!

 

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Commit to spending far too many hours a day on social media –

Prior to starting my blog in 2016, I wasn’t very good at social media. If I’m honest, it’s still not my forte. Alas, in order to get content out there, perfecting the art of social media is a must for bloggers all over the world. That means spending far more time on your channels that you really want to, with the aim of building your audience and boosting your traffic. It’s time to admit defeat now!

 

 

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Commit to taking hundreds of photographs on a daily basis –

As parents, we probably take a larger than average number of pictures on a daily basis anyway. As bloggers though, we spend even more time snapping the same image over and over to get them just right. Then we lose a few more hours editing them to make them look blog post and Instagram ready. Blogging means we need endless images to share with our readership, so this a commitment we have to be comfortable with. Now’s the time to invest in a masses of cloud storage, you’re going to need it!

 

 

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The Ways of a Woman with Ambition

The Ways of a Woman with Ambition

I’ve never described myself as a woman with ambition before. My usual take on life is more sit on the fence, rather than fight for what I believe in. I’ve always worked hard, but I’ve never had a passion for what I’ve done. I’ve always been happy enough to do an honest days work, without needing to push the boundaries or seek ways to continue to learn and grow.

I’m not exactly sure when things changed. I suppose it was sometime after having children, probably during the time I was pregnant with our second. I began writing and steadily things began to change. I found time to write and I found time to learn, I still do. After a while I began to realise that I didn’t have to let the world pass me by, I could join in the fun and make something of myself along the way.

My world is now full of opportunity, I learn something new each and every day. Educating myself doesn’t seem like the chore it used to. I have fire in my belly and I have a constant need to feed it, to keep it burning. Cheesy I know, but it’s hard to describe just how much passion I have for what I do and for all of the amazing things I’m yet to learn.

 

New plans for 2018 –

Over the past year especially, The Tale of Mummyhood has gone from strength to strength. I have so many ideas and plans in the pipeline for my little corner of the internet. 2018 will be a time of new beginnings for me too, with the launch of my second blog Salubrious Place! Earlier in 2017 I had the idea to start another blog with more of a focus on health, beauty and wellbeing. Areas that I have so much interest in, but don’t always fit well with my first blog.

I dabbled with Salubrious Place when I initially had the idea, but the time just didn’t seem right. I didn’t have it planned out well enough and found myself becoming overwhelmed, a little like spinning plates. I’ve had many months to plan now though, so I’m determined for 2018 to be the year I really get Salubrious Place off of the ground.

So now I have two blogs, that are in a lot of ways connected, but also very separate. I’m ready for the work load and even more than that, I’m ready for the learning curve! 

 

Finding time for the day job –

As well as all of this, late in 2017 I was offered an opportunity to go back to hairdressing one day a week. This isn’t something I’d been planning on doing, but it’s another string to my bow and something I just couldn’t say no to. It’s still a self-employed role and I choose the hours that I work, which means I can fit it around Hubs’ shifts to avoid any childcare issues.

I must admit, the first few weeks were hard. I’ve never left the girls to go out to work before and as much as I know people do it all of the time, it wasn’t the norm for our family. I very nearly quit before I’d even begun as I was so bothered by having to leave them. Within a year or so though, both girls will be at nursery and that’ll mean I have to leave them whether I like it or not.

This year I’m going to need to be on top of my game to achieve my goals and to grow every aspect of my business further. Determination, organisation and passion are the ways of a woman with ambition! 

 

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#MumisBest Guest Post – Jess from The Prosecco Mum

#MumisBest Guest Post – Jess from The Prosecco Mum

Welcome to another instalment of my new guest series #MumisBest!  #MumisBest is all about the ever-growing SAHM/working mum debate.  I really want this series to highlight that there’s no right or wrong way, but whatever works for you and you family.  If you’d like to take part do get in touch, I’d love to hear from you!  For now, I will leave you in the hands of Jess from The Prosecco Mum!

The subject of this blog came at a time when I’ve been starting to realise how quickly my maternity leave is going and just how soon I’m going to be back at my desk working, whilst my littlest cub enters the big bad world of nursery and big cub starts a new term in kindergarten before embarking on her big school adventures!

As my bio suggests, I’m not what I’d call a maternal mum. I’m definitely not all Cath Kidston floral and home baking. If truth be told, quite often my kids drive me insane. Though that’s not to say I don’t love them an insane amount, I do. I just also like to keep a balance of ‘Jess and Mummy’ – personally, I could never be a stay at home mum (SAHM). I enjoy work, so with both children I have chosen to return to work when they were 6.5 months old.

That doesn’t mean that it’s easy juggling work and a baby…and I write this having only ever worked whilst having one child – October could be interesting when there’s two of them to get dressed, fed and out the door. That’ll be a whole other blog in itself I’m sure!

Pre-babies I went to work full time, I worked hard and then when I finished what I had to do I went home and chilled…sometimes that was on time, sometimes it was a couple of hours past ‘home time’. Hell, sometimes we just spontaneously went out for dinner when I came in too.

I often overindulged at the weekend, rolled in to work with a hangover on Monday, took every second of my lunch break and had frequent visits to the toilets perusing Instagram (on a friends recommendation.. never Facebook or Whatsapp, that’s too visible).

Anyway, that was then. Life BK (before kids).

Now, I work part time but continue to try to fit five days worth of work into three. I don’t roll in with hangovers, I barely take a lunch break and I don’t even have time for a poo. [If I could just get over the pooing at work phobia]. But these days there’s the mind battle of whether to work four days instead of three, a person who still wants a career as opposed to a ‘swan in, swan out’ part timer.

Every day is a balancing act.

But then, there’s the other side. The guilt of being, quite frankly, a shit mother. I don’t always take my daughter to nursery in the morning and sometimes I don’t even pick her up either, daddy will do it. I just can’t seem to get up and leave my desk at 5pm, so I get home just as she’s going to bed then sit racked with guilt that I’ve missed out on that precious hour with her before she hits the sack and I see her for thirty minutes the next morning before I go again.

But I’ve never been a maternal, earth mother, stay at home mum type. Quite frankly, one child at home all day everyday would drive me crazy, two of them would most certainly drive me to the bottle! Not only that but I’d spend far too much money on trying to entertain them and myself – SMP is dire and I’ve never really been one to stick within a budget so I’m often going cap in hand to my husband for a ‘top up’. I also fear if I became a SAHM then the hubster may expect that I’m going to run a tight ship with cleaning schedules, lunches and dinners planned and prepped and become an overall domestic goddess. That’s enough to get me back into the daily grind. Feather dusters really aren’t my thing.

Being a part time working mum is the perfect balance for me – and the children. I get to fire my brain up from 9-5 three days a week, have adult conversation, not have to listen to Billy & Bam Bam, Shimmer and Shine or Ryder to the rescue, Sir, earn my own money and drink hot tea. Meanwhile, the kids get to spend their days with their friends whilst being constantly entertained with painting, dancing, teddy bears picnics and trips to the woods instead of being dragged to do chores with me – food shopping and visiting the bank/post office isn’t high on their ‘must do’ list.

So what’s the best bit of my working day? Getting to relieve my job share (nursery/grandparents dependent on day) and do my other ‘job’ from 5pm-9am, so for me I really have the best of both worlds.

 

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Finding your Blogging Feet – Success Tips from Experienced Bloggers

Finding your Blogging Feet – Success Tips from Experienced Bloggers

Entering the blogging world can be extremely daunting. Not only is there immense amount of work to get through, but there are bloggers out there who just seem to be nailing it. For those that have just opened their social media accounts, seeing others with tens of thousands of followers can certainly stop you in your tracks. Initially, reaching those figures seems so out of reach.

All bloggers have to start somewhere though. A good following and readership isn’t handed to anyone on a plate. All of these people have had to work incredibly hard to become as successful as they are. They also have to continue grafting to keep up with the fast pace of blogging, if they want to stay at the top of their game. Considering just how experienced some of these great bloggers are, I thought it would be a good idea to pick their brains. To find out the one thing they continue to do that has helped them succeed and that continues to help them progress!

The one thing I always try to remember is that social media doesn’t always reflect reality. As a blogger, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by how successful someone else is. You just have to remember that they’re human too and that they’ve had to work damn hard to get where they are. It’s not sunshine and roses for everyone, all of the time! In my experience it’s best to use someone else’s success as something to aspire to, not something to be envious of.

 

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What makes those kick-ass bloggers, so kick-ass?!

 

Lyndsay from Fizzy Peaches: ‘For me, it’s got to be sheer determination and perseverance! It’s really a 24/7 job and you can’t take your finger off the pulse for two seconds. People think I’m mad for working on Sunday evenings and all the way through my maternity leave, but I’m really pleased I have as I’m seeing the rewards for it now.’

Jodie from Maidenhead Mum:  ‘I will always remember having a ‘lightbulb’ moment over photography. I’d always used smart phone photos and figured that was OK as blogging was meant to be a ‘quick and simple’ thing. Switching to DSLR quality photos has made a huge difference and opened so many doors for me. I’ve invested in a mirrorless camera which gives pro results but which is small enough for me to take everywhere.’

Beth from Twinderelmo: ‘Being surrounded by positive inspiring bloggers. Without some of my lovely blogging friends I would never have had the balls to believe in myself and ask for higher fees which has hugely benefited myself and my family.’

Pete from Household Money Saving:  ‘Focusing on SEO with the help of Yoast. It took me a while to realise the importance of keywords, so people can find you through search engines.’

Samantha from North East Family Fun: ‘Increasing the amount I post definitely helped (I have posted 5-7 times per week for the last 3 years) and teaching myself SEO. My blog can easily have over 2000 views per day if I do nothing at all thanks to good SEO on older posts.’

Laura from Edinburgh with Kids: ‘I’m definitely still working on this but having self-belief and not under estimating my own worth. I still sometimes feel like a fraud in amongst very talented people but realising that people do want to work with me (and pay me!) helps!’

Jennifer from My Mummy’s Pennies: ‘A good network of blogging friends who I can turn to for support and advice.’

Eva from Captain Bobcat: ‘Other bloggers. Without the knowledge they’ve shared with me  (and I keep learning something new every day) I could have never reached where I am now.’

 

A huge thankyou to all who made this post possible!

 

 

 

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#MumisBest Guest Series – Romina from Mini Mummi Blogger

#MumisBest Guest Series – Romina from Mini Mummi Blogger

Welcome to another instalment of my new guest series #MumisBest!  #MumisBest is all about the ever-growing SAHM/working mum debate.  I really want this series to highlight that there’s no right or wrong way, but whatever works for you and you family.  If you’d like to take part do get in touch, I’d love to hear from you!  For now, I will leave you in the hands of Romina from Mini Mummi Blogger!

 

I’m a first time mummy to a beautiful baby boy. I’m sure most of you would agree that, by the third trimester, your pregnancy feels never-ending! Aside from constant nausea until about 16 weeks, my pregnancy was pretty uneventful until late into my second trimester. I ended up with symphysis pubis dysfunction (https://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/symptoms-and-solutions/symphysis-pubis-dysfunction), and more than once had to work from home for several days in a row because it hurt too much to walk (and couldn’t really move, in any case!). Pregnancy is a singular experience – yes, you are performing a miracle, but you’ve got to endure relentless symptoms and pressures along the way! Needless to say, by the middle of my third trimester, I was well and truly ready to go on leave. At the end of the Christmas closure at the office, I went straight into my maternity leave one month early.

After several years without a proper break, I was looking forward to some downtime. Retrospectively, I think I wasted most of that time sitting on the couch binge watching Downton Abbey and a bunch of other shows I can’t even list now. I wish I had done something more productive and rewarding with that time.

My labour was pretty intense: I was induced twenty-four hours after my water broke because I wasn’t getting enough contractions. Obviously I don’t have any prior experience to compare it to, but the contractions got really full on really quickly and there was barely any respite in between. After nine hours, an episiotomy, and a vacuum, my gorgeous little man came into the world. Despite the elation and boundless love I felt, I was still pretty knocked out by the birth and it took several weeks for me to start feeling somewhat normal. Coupled with the difficulty of breastfeeding in the first couple of months (that’s another story that I won’t go into here), my son was about 3 1/2 months old before I could really start doing “things”.

We’ve gone for a lovely walks in the sun, read books, played with a variety of toys (that I have to keep rotating because somebody is very inquisitive and gets bored playing with the same thing for too many days in a row), and even started baby swimming lessons! I adore my little man and I love spending time with him. But sometimes, I miss doing things that I did before, like reading a novel, doing a musical at the local community theatre, or even working on my uni course. Now that he’s almost 7 months old, I’ve started finding pockets of time here and there to indulge in some of my own hobbies. I’ve really enjoyed putting together my own mummy blog, and realised that I’m at my best when I have something productive and rewarding to focus on. That doesn’t mean that I don’t find taking care of my baby rewarding or productive, of course it is. I’m talking about something that is just for me, for my own satisfaction, and my own sanity.

While I wish I didn’t have to leave my son to go back to work, the cost of living and other things mean I do you have to. I’m lucky enough to have a job that provides flexibility and understanding, which helps; and I also don’t have to go back full time, which I’m grateful for. So, as I pass the halfway mark of my maternity leave and am staring “return to work” in the face, I’m forced to think about what that means for me. If being a stay-at-home mum was an option, would I actually want that?

If I’m honest, the answer is no. I’m the type of person who needs to be challenged in an intellectual environment, as well. I love writing and thinking and learning – in fact, I’ve barely stopped studying since I first went to university a good 13 years ago. I don’t just have to go back to work, I want to. There’s nothing wrong with staying at home to raise your family, if that’s what you want and if you can afford that option. My own mother was a stay-at-home mum until we were teenagers; that worked for us because we didn’t have much family around to help look after us kids, and my dad was able to support us on a single salary. But that just isn’t for me. And I’m lucky that my son has two grandmothers itching to mind him!

Equally, there’s nothing wrong with going back to work part time or full time, even if you can afford not to. Some mothers need to feel that they are contributing financially to their family, or like they are “someone” besides a mother. Every mum needs to do what suits her best, and fits in with her own circumstances. After all, if a mother is operating at her best, feeling confident and fulfilled in all aspects, she will be better able to care for her children.

I dread the prospect of walking out the door on my way to work and seeing my bub’s sad little face because his mummy is leaving him behind. But, such is life. My ideal scenario would be to have my own business, and be able to work from anywhere. The best of both worlds! It isn’t an option at the moment, but it’s in the cards. I guess I’ll just wait and see!

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Mini Mummi Blogger is a first time mummy to a beautiful baby boy. Currently on maternity leave, she is looking to put her writing/publishing experience to good use through her blog, helping other mummies navigate through the wealth of often conflicting (and, sometimes, even discouraging) information out there about pregnancy and motherhood. She believes that every mummy knows what’s best for her own baby – even first time mums!

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#MumisBest Guest Post – Louise from Lou-Ekai!

#MumisBest Guest Post – Louise from Lou-Ekai!

Welcome to another instalment of my new guest series #MumisBest!  #MumisBest is all about the ever-growing SAHM/working mum debate.  I really want this series to highlight that there’s no right or wrong way, but whatever works for you and you family.  If you’d like to take part do get in touch, I’d love to hear from you!  For now I will leave you in the hands of Louise from Lou-Ekai!

 

Motherhood can be challenging! Everyone tells you this but I suppose you don’t actually realise until you have your bundle of joy.

It’s challenging in a number of ways, emotionally it’s challenging because no matter how confident you are with parenting your child, there’s always that voice of doubt in your mind, questioning “am I doing the right thing?” It’s physically draining and also mentally when you haven’t had a full nights sleep.

I didn’t realise how challenging it would be, and becoming a single mother while I was pregnant, I didn’t realise that it would be much harder than I anticipated. Although I embrace being a single mum, I have so much anxiety and questions I wish I could ask someone, but nobody has the answers. This is our journey as mother and child and I hope to give him the best child hood I can provide.

Now the lovely summer weather is out I like to get out and about with my son. We either go to the park some point in the day, or we go to a stay and play group.

I’ve been looking into swimming lessons recently, and art and craft groups specially for under 5s. I think he’d like that. I think what’s important is that he gets a lot of stimulation and experiences, he loves messy play, older children (it fascinates him that they can ride bikes, can run so fast and can do things such as jumping or skipping) and he loves different environments, so I try to do different things every week if I’m feeling up to it and if he’s well within himself.

I’m a 20 year old single mum who isn’t currently working, but I go to study at university this year October which I’m nervous about because it will be the first time I am leaving my son.

Even though he is staying with family, when he’s 2 I would like to put him in nursery one day a week just so he has social stimulation and endless play. I’ve been trying to look for a Play-based nursery but can’t seem to find any in my area.

Every day seems like it’s on repeat. I wake up, do breakfast, get him and myself dressed and then we end up going out doing activities or sometimes we stay in. By the end of the day my carpets are obliterated, there’s food smashed everywhere, toys in every room and I need to clean up every inch of my home ready for it to be destroyed again tomorrow.

Because I breastfeed and didn’t introduce a bottle for expressed milk, on the night he doesn’t sleep unless I’m feeding him. He won’t settle when my mum has had him in the past so I rarely get a break. If it’s one of my friends birthday or an event, I have to plan in advance and whenever he wakes up, I have to come home because he just does not settle without my breast milk.

He’s currently 17 months coming up to 18 months, and my plans for breastfeeding is to continue until he self-weans himself which he is showing signs of. He doesn’t want the milk during the day if he’s very active, it’s just the night where he’s dependent on it. I went on a breastfeeding course and learned a lot about self-weaning. They normally do this above 18months although there’s stories of babies self-weaning before that.

Even though motherhood is challenging on every aspect, and your life changes for this beautiful human being, it’s worth it. We can’t deny as mothers that some days are harder than others, but speaking to other mums and realising that’s completely normal to feel that way, is a huge weight off your shoulders.

We are only human, and we must realise to not be so hard on ourselves. All we can do is try our best!

 

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