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Going the Distance – The Diary of a Nervous Traveller

Going the Distance – The Diary of a Nervous Traveller

I’ve spoken about being an anxious person before and I don’t want to flood this platform with mental health posts. However important I think it is to talk about it. Over the past few weeks though I’ve had a bit of a revelation and I wanted to share my success, as someone who previously relied on other people to get along in life. As I write this, I’m on a train by myself, travelling long distance for the first time in my life. The best thing is, I’m OK with it!

Usually my husband would travel with me, even if he had no need to. He would busy himself whilst I worked, purely to make me feel better about being in strange cities and so that I didn’t have to stay in a hotel room by myself. A year ago I wouldn’t have entertained travelling long-distance to work by myself. I would have shut it down immediately, not even taking the time to think it through. The worst thing about this is that I set myself up to miss out on so much. I was so intent on worrying about what will never happen, that I turned down opportunities just to ‘save myself‘.

Finding the courage to go it alone –

I know that to some people this may seem trivial. Travelling for work is something that happens every day for so many individuals. It’s just work and they do what they have to do to make a living. I know this, so I’m not sure why I’d blown the whole scenario up in my head. Trains were scary to me, something I was genuinely afraid of. How could I possibly catch a train, change platforms and get to my destination all on my own?

Guess what? I could and I can! When I got the details through for this work trip, I agreed to it before I had the chance to think about it. As a mother, the last thing I want to do is pass on my irrational fears to my children. They need to see me being strong and getting on with everyday life, without restricting my own experiences or theirs. The world doesn’t have to be a scary place and they need to realise that as much as I do.

I have to admit that on the run up to this trip, I worried myself sick. I didn’t want to do it and I was imagining every single negative scenario under the sun. On the morning I travelled though I felt good, because I knew I’d done it. I was going to grab a pastry and a coffee. I was going to work on the train and I was going to a job that I absolutely love.

Positivity breeds positivity –

The best thing about pushing myself and grabbing this opportunity with both hands, is that I felt much more positive about my future prospects and working life. I feel good about myself knowing that I’ve knocked down those barriers and I know that a fear of travelling will never hold me back again.

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Bloggers, If I Could Offer you One Piece of Advice…

Bloggers, If I Could Offer you One Piece of Advice…

I don’t mind telling you that over the last few months I’ve suffered complete blogger burnout. I felt like I had completely lost my voice and there were times when I wondered why I’d even begun. The constant writing and endless social media had lost its appeal and I found myself in a rut of self-doubt. I felt like I was drowning in the online world and for a short time at least, I knew I needed to take a break.

Reflection –

The children were off of school around the time of my apparent disinterest in the blogging world, so I took the holidays as a time to reflect on where I wanted to go with this blog of mine. I’ve come a long way since the early days, even if I do say so myself and I soon realised I wasn’t about to let that time and effort be for nothing. The hardest part of blogging for me is time. As my main job is being a parent to our girls, my blog always has to come second. My husband works long shifts and it’s always been the case that I stay at home with the kids. As a grafter though, I find it hard to not to work, so often I find my self being full-time parent, whilst also squeezing in working full-time hours. The other rabbit hole that I got sucked into was comparison. The number games, who’s doing what and how many followers do they have. This is a downward spiral, inducing a whole host of negative thought patterns.

After a while I resolved that I wanted to carry on blogging. I knew that this was the business I wanted to keep building, all I had to do was change the way that I work.

A new approach –

After a lot of thinking and a lot of chatting with other bloggers, I realised that the only way forward is to blog for me. No more worrying about who other bloggers are working with. No more comparing my content to their’s and certainly no more fan girling over the ‘big bloggers‘ who have ‘made it’. I recently found myself shying away from a blogger with a large following, declaring myself as ‘small fry’ whilst feeling rather inadequate.The truth is that we are all in the same boat. We are all baring our souls for a cause that we’re passionate about. There’s no right or wrong way of doing it, only the way that suits each individual best.  My new approach to blogging has witnessed me wave goodbye to such ridiculous notions. I’m working as hard as everyone else and I should never forget that.

So fellow bloggers, if I could offer you one piece of advice it’s to do things your own way. Blog for you, to make you happy and to make your business work. Don’t compare yourself to everyone else, you are you for a reason and you need to remember that. There’ll always be someone around the corner to judge, but if you keep working hard with your head held high, you’ll lose sight of people like that in no time.

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The Pressures of Being a Blogger

The Pressures of Being a Blogger

For some reason, some people believe that being a blogger is a walk in the park. Often all they see is what we get; the days out, the ‘free’ stuff, easy money made from messing around on social media. If I’m being honest I get why people think this, it does appear to be an easy choice for those that want to make a few quid. I hate to disappoint those with such an opinion though, I’m afraid it’s much harder work that us bloggers are letting on!

What people don’t see is the stressful side of the job. They don’t see all of the hard work that goes into maintaining a blog, the technical side that sees one task take literally days to complete. They don’t see the day-to-day mundane side of blogging. The things we have to do each and every day, that’s right no days off, just to maintain a presence and keep things ticking over. They also don’t realise how hard it is to maintain multiple social channels. Suddenly the fun side of social media becomes a chore as we try to make our mark on the influencer world. If it was as easy as clicking publish, we’d all be millionaires.

The harsh reality of becoming a blogger –

In actual fact, blogging is not all sunshine and roses. It can be incredible stressful at times and can leave us full-timers wondering why we bothered starting up this ‘blogging thing‘ in the first place. Yes there are perks to the job, but as with every other job that has benefits, they have to be worked hard for. I know I’m not alone when I say I worked on my blog solidly for an entire year before I made a dime from it. Blogging is a labour of love and it’s not to be taken lightly. Doesn’t seem so glamorous now, hey?!

This summer I stepped away from my blog for a few weeks. I felt like I wanted to take stock and reevaluate my direction. As it turns out, I was just a little burnt out, all I needed was time away from the screen to get my spark back. You see, because blogging is such an all-consuming job we don’t get to take holidays where we can just switch off. You can guarantee that I lost money in those few weeks and as a blogger that was a conscious decision I had to make. Take time out for myself and my family and make less money, or carry on full speed ahead missing out on quality time with my girls but make a packet. Not an easy decision, but I’m confident I made the right one. Just another on of the pressures of being a blogger.

 

To highlight just how stressful this line of work can be, I got in touch with some of my fellow bloggers to find out what they find most difficult about the job;

Victoria from Lylia Rose: ‘The never ending amount of work to do and playing every role – copywriter, accountant, photographer, receptionist, website designer, applying for jobs daily, etc. It can be overwhelming sometimes and I feel like I need to clone myself!’

Mandi from Big Family Organised Chaos: ‘Uncertainty! Will you get enough paid work in this month to cover the bills, will the payments you are due be paid on time, will you end up doing a full working week with no money to show for it, and why are you still working at midnight because you HAVE to get that post written before the deadline but the children have needed you for everything all day!’

Nicola from Mummy to Dex: ‘Personally, I find it stressful when I have to negotiate fees. I always worry I’ve put people off with what I charge. I guess I suffer from imposter syndrome and doubt my capabilities as a blogger.’

Nickie from Typecast: ‘Comparing yourself with other bloggers. Seeing other bloggers work on a campaign you thought you pitched well for but didn’t get. Finding enough hours in the day to hit deadline.’

Emma from The Mini Mes and Me: ‘When clients don’t pay on time and you have to chase and chase and chase them for money owed. I think sometimes they forget that blogging is often the main income for many.’

Lisa from That British Betty: ‘I get frustrated that I can’t spend as much time as I’d like to on my blog – I KNOW I could make it a success if I had more time. I work 45 hours a week in PR so often come home tired and don’t feel like doing even more writing! I also miss out on cool brand events as I can’t drop everything and attend an event at 2pm on a Tuesday.’

Michaela from Adventures of a Yorkshire Mum: ‘When people assume that everything is an ad. People commenting on Instagram ‘aren’t you supposed to #ad this’ annoys me as, if it was an ad, I would mention it. And I don’t want to have to write ‘this is not an ad’ on every post I do! ‘

Natalie from Plutonium Sox: ‘The thing that annoys me the most is that people assume because I’m at home I’m not working. I had a deadline to meet for a post this morning, so had to get it written yesterday. Youngest is still on half days at school this week so I literally had a couple of hours in the morning and a couple of hours in the evening. So instead of being able to get my head down and work, I helped my dad with some land registry searches in the morning and helped my husband with building a bed in the evening. When we move I’m putting a home office at the far end of the garden and a ‘sod off’ sign on the front door.’

 

Thankyou to all who made this post possible!

 

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#Blogstravaganza #73

#Blogstravaganza #73

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast! 

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

 

#Blogstravaganza News!

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#Blogstravaganza #70

#Blogstravaganza #70

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast! 

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

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#Blogstravaganza #67

#Blogstravaganza #67

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast! 

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

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It would be great to continue to spread some love over on Instagram, please do remember to use the #Blogstravaganza tag on your images! Here are a couple of my favourites from this week!

 

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#Blogstravaganza #66

#Blogstravaganza #66

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast! 

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

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A recent birthday celebration saw our house was filled with the laughter of 8 giddy girls (and 2 giddy grown ups) as the partied to little mix, Taylor swift and Justin timber lake. They had an amazing time being pampered and having their hair put up in bows! I tried to watch how they did this but missed it every time 🙄 The difference this year was made by fab friends (one helped with the party, the other had our 2 year old), a sister in law (@cakedesignbycharl ) who makes the most amazing cakes and a party entertainer (@justforgirlzparties1 )that literally took over meaning I could watch my little girl and the massive smile that permanently adorned her face 💕💫 #girlsbirthdayparty #talkingmums #bowinhair #hairstylesforgirls

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Living and NOT Letting Live – When Blogging Gets Ugly

Living and NOT Letting Live – When Blogging Gets Ugly

This post has been on my mind for a little while now. At first I just put it to the back of my mind, I wasn’t going to voice my opinion. I thought I’d carry on in my own little world and ignore the, quite frankly tripe, that’s been popping up in the blogging community.

Now please don’t get me wrong, the majority of the community are supportive. They have nailed writing for them without having to resort to criticising the way another person chooses to blog. These people are the back bone of the blogging community and I’ll always be grateful that we’ve all been able to share this journey together.

What business of theirs is it anyway?

 

Recently I’ve come across a number of posts that discredit the way a lot of us make a living from blogging. They seem to have a problem with sponsored posts, reviewing items and working with brands. They hate it even more when we dare to share these posts with our audience. What frustrates me about these individuals, is that they seem to think it’s OK to put down the way others choose to keep a roof over the heads of their family. They’re vocal about their, in my opinion, ill-founded issues with the way another person works damn hard to put food on the table.

 

It’s this kind of negativity that really bothers me about the blogging world. This self-righteous attitude from a select number of individuals really gets my goat.

 

First of all, I wonder what business of theirs is it? Why do they care so much? Why do they think it’s OK to publicly put people down for their choice of profession? Secondly, I wonder what’s missing from their lives. I wasn’t brought up to bully people, be it online or face to face. Something is obviously amiss for these people to think that it’s OK to behave in this way. If you’re one of those people and you’re reading this, dismissing the notion that you’re a bully, then you’re very much mistaken. When you actively ridicule another person, when you go out of your way to point out their ‘faults’ and to exercise your own ‘superiority’, you are a bully and it’s nothing to be proud of.

 

Live and let live –

 

I’m a huge believer in the idea of living for myself and letting others do the same. There are so many bloggers out there, all doing what they need to do for themselves. Some do it to make a living, others do it because they love to write and some do it for a little bit of both. What every blogger needs to remember is that it’s OK to blog in the way that suits them best. There’s no reason and certainly no need to put someone else down because they do things in a different way to yourself.

 

We’re all adults and we’re all investing time into our own little corners of the internet, let’s play nice shall we?

 

 

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#Blogstravaganza #62

#Blogstravaganza #62

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza!

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

I have some very exciting news for you all this week! I’m sure you’ll all be really pleased to hear that Jo from Cup of Toast will be joining #Blogstravaganza as a permanent host! Jo is an absolute superstar and I’m sure you’ll all agree that it’s amazing to have her on board! There’ll be a few little changes over the next week or two, so please do bear with us! 

This week we’re also joined by The Elephant Mum! Don’t forget to tag @theelephantmum in your tweets when you link and comment on her wonderful post!

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It would be great to continue to spread some love over on Instagram, please do remember to use the #Blogstravaganza tag on your images! Here are a couple of my favourites from this week!

 

Don’t forget the join the #Blogstravaganza – Opportunities, Blog Share & Support group on Facebook.  If you want to share your posts, get some advice from fellow bloggers or simply have a chat, do head over and check it out!

 

If you’d like to be added to the #Blogstravaganza mailing list, for a weekly reminder of us going live, please do drop me a message and I’ll add you! 

 

 


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#Blogstravaganza #61

#Blogstravaganza #61

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza!

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

#Blogstravaganza news! I’m on the look out for weekly guest co-hosts for #Blogstravaganza, if you fancy joining in drop me a line! 

This week we’re joined by Nicole from Tales from Mamaville! Don’t forget to tag @Mamavilletales in your tweets when you link and comment on her wonderful post! Thankyou for taking the reins this week!

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It would be great to continue to spread some love over on Instagram, please do remember to use the #Blogstravaganza tag on your images! Here are a couple of my favourites from this week!

 

Don’t forget the join the #Blogstravaganza – Opportunities, Blog Share & Support group on Facebook.  If you want to share your posts, get some advice from fellow bloggers or simply have a chat, do head over and check it out!

 

If you’d like to be added to the #Blogstravaganza mailing list, for a weekly reminder of us going live, please do drop me a message and I’ll add you! 

 

 

 


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