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Three Years of Blogging

Three Years of Blogging

It occurred to me recently that I’m coming up to my three year blogging anniversary. I began, like a lot of mummy bloggers, after the birth of our first daughter. That time has absolutely flown by! Now she’s about to head to school full time and I’m still tip tapping away at this little blog of mine. 

When I started blogging, I didn’t expect it to go on for more than a few weeks. It was something I did to pass the time and to engage my brain, when I felt like all I was doing was changing nappies and sterilising bottles. I got the bug though and I’m proud to say that I carried on. I took the time to learn the ropes, or some of them as blogging is a constant learning curve. I invested time and money into making this little corner of the internet a haven and a job.

Blogging isn’t always sunshine and roses –  

I discovered early on that being a blogger is a lot of hard work. It’s not just about typing a few words and hitting publish. You have to work an incredible amount of hours to produce the right content for you and your readership. You have to learn how to use social media to your advantage and this task can be so exhausting. You could literally run your blog and social media accounts for twenty four hours a day, seven days a week and there would still be more to do.

The worst thing about blogging for me is the comparison game. There are so many amazing bloggers out there and it’s hard not to compare my work to theirs. I read other posts and wish I could write in that way. I scroll past Instagram images and feel envious of the photographic ability of others. This is such a black hole, one that’s hard to get out of if you fall too deeply into it. 

The trick is not to get dragged into the comparison game, it’s not healthy or helpful. It’s also paramount that bloggers take some time off, to avoid feeling completely burnt out. I believe that everyone, bloggers included, should take regular breaks from social media and screens in their entirety. To carry on winning at blogging life, it’s essential to shut out the negative thought patterns and to give yourself some time out. I’ve learnt this the hard way.

Don’t forget the good bits –  

Even though there are areas of blogging that you have to be cautious of, there are so many others that are absolutely amazing! When I started out I had no idea that working hard at blogging could bring with it an immense amount of opportunity. The last three years have been a whirlwind of product reviews, days out, sponsorships and brand ambassadorships. I had pipe dreams of becoming this kind of blogger, but I never actually believed it would happen. 

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve worked hard to get this far. I worked at my blog for a whole year before I could actually call it my job. I made it happen though and I’m still amazed by this each and every day. I’ll be forever grateful for all of the opportunities that have fallen into my inbox, mostly because our girls have had so many experiences that they wouldn’t have had, if I wasn’t a blogger. I’m also grateful for the identity that it has given me outside of being ‘mum’. Through blogging I get to contribute to our lives financially as well as my husband, and this makes me feel so good about myself. 

I hope that this blog of mine continues to thrive for many more years yet. I can’t thank my readers, my sponsors and my family for all of the support that keep The Tale of Mummyhood online!

 

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Going the Distance – The Diary of a Nervous Traveller

Going the Distance – The Diary of a Nervous Traveller

I’ve spoken about being an anxious person before and I don’t want to flood this platform with mental health posts. However important I think it is to talk about it. Over the past few weeks though I’ve had a bit of a revelation and I wanted to share my success, as someone who previously relied on other people to get along in life. As I write this, I’m on a train by myself, travelling long distance for the first time in my life. The best thing is, I’m OK with it!

Usually my husband would travel with me, even if he had no need to. He would busy himself whilst I worked, purely to make me feel better about being in strange cities and so that I didn’t have to stay in a hotel room by myself. A year ago I wouldn’t have entertained travelling long-distance to work by myself. I would have shut it down immediately, not even taking the time to think it through. The worst thing about this is that I set myself up to miss out on so much. I was so intent on worrying about what will never happen, that I turned down opportunities just to ‘save myself‘.

Finding the courage to go it alone –

I know that to some people this may seem trivial. Travelling for work is something that happens every day for so many individuals. It’s just work and they do what they have to do to make a living. I know this, so I’m not sure why I’d blown the whole scenario up in my head. Trains were scary to me, something I was genuinely afraid of. How could I possibly catch a train, change platforms and get to my destination all on my own?

Guess what? I could and I can! When I got the details through for this work trip, I agreed to it before I had the chance to think about it. As a mother, the last thing I want to do is pass on my irrational fears to my children. They need to see me being strong and getting on with everyday life, without restricting my own experiences or theirs. The world doesn’t have to be a scary place and they need to realise that as much as I do.

I have to admit that on the run up to this trip, I worried myself sick. I didn’t want to do it and I was imagining every single negative scenario under the sun. On the morning I travelled though I felt good, because I knew I’d done it. I was going to grab a pastry and a coffee. I was going to work on the train and I was going to a job that I absolutely love.

Positivity breeds positivity –

The best thing about pushing myself and grabbing this opportunity with both hands, is that I felt much more positive about my future prospects and working life. I feel good about myself knowing that I’ve knocked down those barriers and I know that a fear of travelling will never hold me back again.

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The Pressures of Being a Blogger

The Pressures of Being a Blogger

For some reason, some people believe that being a blogger is a walk in the park. Often all they see is what we get; the days out, the ‘free’ stuff, easy money made from messing around on social media. If I’m being honest I get why people think this, it does appear to be an easy choice for those that want to make a few quid. I hate to disappoint those with such an opinion though, I’m afraid it’s much harder work that us bloggers are letting on!

What people don’t see is the stressful side of the job. They don’t see all of the hard work that goes into maintaining a blog, the technical side that sees one task take literally days to complete. They don’t see the day-to-day mundane side of blogging. The things we have to do each and every day, that’s right no days off, just to maintain a presence and keep things ticking over. They also don’t realise how hard it is to maintain multiple social channels. Suddenly the fun side of social media becomes a chore as we try to make our mark on the influencer world. If it was as easy as clicking publish, we’d all be millionaires.

The harsh reality of becoming a blogger –

In actual fact, blogging is not all sunshine and roses. It can be incredible stressful at times and can leave us full-timers wondering why we bothered starting up this ‘blogging thing‘ in the first place. Yes there are perks to the job, but as with every other job that has benefits, they have to be worked hard for. I know I’m not alone when I say I worked on my blog solidly for an entire year before I made a dime from it. Blogging is a labour of love and it’s not to be taken lightly. Doesn’t seem so glamorous now, hey?!

This summer I stepped away from my blog for a few weeks. I felt like I wanted to take stock and reevaluate my direction. As it turns out, I was just a little burnt out, all I needed was time away from the screen to get my spark back. You see, because blogging is such an all-consuming job we don’t get to take holidays where we can just switch off. You can guarantee that I lost money in those few weeks and as a blogger that was a conscious decision I had to make. Take time out for myself and my family and make less money, or carry on full speed ahead missing out on quality time with my girls but make a packet. Not an easy decision, but I’m confident I made the right one. Just another on of the pressures of being a blogger.

 

To highlight just how stressful this line of work can be, I got in touch with some of my fellow bloggers to find out what they find most difficult about the job;

Victoria from Lylia Rose: ‘The never ending amount of work to do and playing every role – copywriter, accountant, photographer, receptionist, website designer, applying for jobs daily, etc. It can be overwhelming sometimes and I feel like I need to clone myself!’

Mandi from Big Family Organised Chaos: ‘Uncertainty! Will you get enough paid work in this month to cover the bills, will the payments you are due be paid on time, will you end up doing a full working week with no money to show for it, and why are you still working at midnight because you HAVE to get that post written before the deadline but the children have needed you for everything all day!’

Nicola from Mummy to Dex: ‘Personally, I find it stressful when I have to negotiate fees. I always worry I’ve put people off with what I charge. I guess I suffer from imposter syndrome and doubt my capabilities as a blogger.’

Nickie from Typecast: ‘Comparing yourself with other bloggers. Seeing other bloggers work on a campaign you thought you pitched well for but didn’t get. Finding enough hours in the day to hit deadline.’

Emma from The Mini Mes and Me: ‘When clients don’t pay on time and you have to chase and chase and chase them for money owed. I think sometimes they forget that blogging is often the main income for many.’

Lisa from That British Betty: ‘I get frustrated that I can’t spend as much time as I’d like to on my blog – I KNOW I could make it a success if I had more time. I work 45 hours a week in PR so often come home tired and don’t feel like doing even more writing! I also miss out on cool brand events as I can’t drop everything and attend an event at 2pm on a Tuesday.’

Michaela from Adventures of a Yorkshire Mum: ‘When people assume that everything is an ad. People commenting on Instagram ‘aren’t you supposed to #ad this’ annoys me as, if it was an ad, I would mention it. And I don’t want to have to write ‘this is not an ad’ on every post I do! ‘

Natalie from Plutonium Sox: ‘The thing that annoys me the most is that people assume because I’m at home I’m not working. I had a deadline to meet for a post this morning, so had to get it written yesterday. Youngest is still on half days at school this week so I literally had a couple of hours in the morning and a couple of hours in the evening. So instead of being able to get my head down and work, I helped my dad with some land registry searches in the morning and helped my husband with building a bed in the evening. When we move I’m putting a home office at the far end of the garden and a ‘sod off’ sign on the front door.’

 

Thankyou to all who made this post possible!

 

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#Blogstravaganza #81

#Blogstravaganza #81

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast!

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#Blogstravaganza #80

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#Blogstravaganza #79

#Blogstravaganza #79

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast!

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#Blogstravaganza #78

#Blogstravaganza #78

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast!

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How many ice creams have you eaten recently? . . I'm not a big ice cream person really but lately I have had so many with it being so hot. I'm not a fan of the heat so I'm loving the cooler, brezzier weather today. I have to admit, this ice cream was amazing and a meal all on its own from @theshakelab . . It was definitely what we needed after a busy day out at @intutraffordcentre and @traffordcity on Sunday #manchester #visitmanchester #traffordcity #traffordcentre #intutraffordcentre #whatsoninmanchester #shakelab #theshakelab #wafflecones #icecream #summerdays #sunshine #heatwave #britishsummer #pblogger #kcacols #blogstravaganza #daysoutinmanchester #ukdaysout #daytrips #ukdaytrip #weekends #familylife #familytime #chillfactore #sealifemanchester

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#Blogstravaganza #77

#Blogstravaganza #77

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast!

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I'll let you into a secret. We were at a supposedly family friendly festival 2 weeks ago and it was dreadful. Today we have also been at a family friendly festival and it has been amazing. We have watched Cbeebies favourites onstage, met the Gruffalo, practiced circus skills, said hello to some parrots, eaten some great food, met Bumblebee, driven a car and much more. We can't wait for tomorrow…Geronimo you have been amazing. If you are anywhere near Knebworth come tomorrow for round 2. It is non stop fun #awanderfulchildhood #capturingtheday #followyoursunshine #freespiritedchildhood #Blogstravaganza #lovelifeoutside #moretoexploreoutdoors #myhappyviews #mycolourfulkids #myhappycapture #outdoorsfamilylife #pixel_kids #rememberingthesedays #snaphappybritmums #todaysmomentintime #travelmadfam #ukexplore #ukftb #wanderlustkids #wearetravelmums #whatevertheweatherkids #worldoflittles #bucketlist #happiestplaceonearth

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Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast! 

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

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Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast! 

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

#Blogstravaganza News!

With the new GDPR guidelines coming into force very soon, I have a new GDPR compliant form for those who would like to receive #Blogstravaganza reminders via email each week. If you’d like to join the list, please do SIGN UP HERE!

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