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Does Staying at Home with the Kids Mean I Lack Ambition?

Does Staying at Home with the Kids Mean I Lack Ambition?

My husband and I had a conversation recently, mainly about the family life of professionals. He told me that one of his colleagues had informed him that he does so well at work, because his wife ‘lacks ambition‘. What he meant was, his wife had given up her professional role to stay at home with the kids and that it was the right choice for their family. It would seem that he appreciated this ‘lack of ambition‘ though, as he felt it allowed him to progress swiftly in his own career. As you can imagine, I was a little taken aback by his admission.

I’ve previously written about my marriage and I’ve commented on the main reason it’s working so well. That reason was the fact that I stay at home to look after the kids. Yes this is so my husband can progress in his career and yes it meant I had to leave my first business behind. Does it mean I lack ambition though? Am I forever destined to be mother and housewife, with no desire to follow my dreams? I think not.

Ambition doesn’t always wear the same mask –

The thing about ambition is that it means different things to different people. From being a teenager, it was always my ambition to work for myself. I knew I wanted to be my own boss and a lot of hard work got me there. My husband always dreamt of working as a medical professional, he continues to work hard in this field and he will go far. This demonstrates ambition in two different ways, but both are ambition nonetheless.

Stronger than my ambition to build a business, was my desire to become the best mum I could be. It was my ambition to become a stay at home parent, that was and still is the environment in which I want to raise my children. How can that not be ambition? It’s a dream and it takes a lot of working towards, I believe I have succeeded. I have have fulfilled my ambition.

I do always put my husbands work needs before my own, but that’s because I want to, not because I have to. Just because I want him to achieve his goals and because I’m happy to work around his aspirations, doesn’t mean I’m faltering on the ambition front. Ambition doesn’t just have to be associated with career prospects, it covers life as a whole.

There’s more than one way to skin a cat –

The comment this guy made frustrated me most, because my ambition to be self employed will never disappear. That’s why I built up a blogging and freelance writing business from home. Just because people don’t always fulfil their ambition by taking the traditional route, doesn’t mean it’s not achievable. I know from my own experience that anything is possible if you put your mind to it. Referring to your loved one as ‘lacking ambition’ is entirely unacceptable, given that there’s so much to be achieved without leaving the comfort of your own home.

So whatever your ambition may be, whether it’s to rise through the ranks of your company, to be a stay at home parent or to build a business of your own. Never, ever believe that you are lacking in ambition. Never let anyone tell you that you don’t aspire to do anything or be anyone. You are you for a reason and you’re already achieving so much.

 

 

 

 

 

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The Ways of a Woman with Ambition

The Ways of a Woman with Ambition

I’ve never described myself as a woman with ambition before. My usual take on life is more sit on the fence, rather than fight for what I believe in. I’ve always worked hard, but I’ve never had a passion for what I’ve done. I’ve always been happy enough to do an honest days work, without needing to push the boundaries or seek ways to continue to learn and grow.

I’m not exactly sure when things changed. I suppose it was sometime after having children, probably during the time I was pregnant with our second. I began writing and steadily things began to change. I found time to write and I found time to learn, I still do. After a while I began to realise that I didn’t have to let the world pass me by, I could join in the fun and make something of myself along the way.

My world is now full of opportunity, I learn something new each and every day. Educating myself doesn’t seem like the chore it used to. I have fire in my belly and I have a constant need to feed it, to keep it burning. Cheesy I know, but it’s hard to describe just how much passion I have for what I do and for all of the amazing things I’m yet to learn.

 

New plans for 2018 –

Over the past year especially, The Tale of Mummyhood has gone from strength to strength. I have so many ideas and plans in the pipeline for my little corner of the internet. 2018 will be a time of new beginnings for me too, with the launch of my second blog Salubrious Place! Earlier in 2017 I had the idea to start another blog with more of a focus on health, beauty and wellbeing. Areas that I have so much interest in, but don’t always fit well with my first blog.

I dabbled with Salubrious Place when I initially had the idea, but the time just didn’t seem right. I didn’t have it planned out well enough and found myself becoming overwhelmed, a little like spinning plates. I’ve had many months to plan now though, so I’m determined for 2018 to be the year I really get Salubrious Place off of the ground.

So now I have two blogs, that are in a lot of ways connected, but also very separate. I’m ready for the work load and even more than that, I’m ready for the learning curve! 

 

Finding time for the day job –

As well as all of this, late in 2017 I was offered an opportunity to go back to hairdressing one day a week. This isn’t something I’d been planning on doing, but it’s another string to my bow and something I just couldn’t say no to. It’s still a self-employed role and I choose the hours that I work, which means I can fit it around Hubs’ shifts to avoid any childcare issues.

I must admit, the first few weeks were hard. I’ve never left the girls to go out to work before and as much as I know people do it all of the time, it wasn’t the norm for our family. I very nearly quit before I’d even begun as I was so bothered by having to leave them. Within a year or so though, both girls will be at nursery and that’ll mean I have to leave them whether I like it or not.

This year I’m going to need to be on top of my game to achieve my goals and to grow every aspect of my business further. Determination, organisation and passion are the ways of a woman with ambition! 

 

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