*This is a collaborative post.
Just like the majority of the population, I’ve spent the last few weeks glued to Love Island. It’s the first series I’ve ever watched and I’ll admit that it fast became my guilty pleasure! If you’re unfamiliar with the concept of Love Island, basically it’s set in a beautiful villa somewhere in Spain. A few incredibly good looking males and females set up home there for a few weeks over the summer and all we have to do is sit back and watch love blossom. Or not.
Many of the contestants go into the villa with a Match Me Happy mentality. They want to be swept off of their feet and live happily ever after with their holiday romance. I’m told that in previous series’, there have actually been love matches. There have even been engagements and babies since some residents left the villa. When I watch these people, living out their lives on national television, I can’t help but think they’ve got it right! They’re dating in a way that hasn’t always been popular, but in this day and age I honestly believe it’s the best way to go about it.
I know people who still use free dating sites to meet people and I know others that still like to date people they’ve known for some time. Both of these are great ways to actually get a date, but I believe it’s the way the Love Islanders handle themselves with their dates, that really makes a difference!
Here’s why I think dating in the modern age has changed for the better;
Women and men are more confident –
I can’t help but think that in times gone by, confidence was a real issue when it came to dating. Things had to be done ‘properly‘ and for that reason, I don’t think people knew how far they cold go when they met someone they liked. Walking out with the wrong person could be frowned upon, so there was so much pressure to get it right. Pressure in this circumstance does nothing for romance though and would have really affected people’s confidence levels.
In this day and age things are much more open. This allows people to head out there and be confident with the people that they meet. There’s no pressure and there’s no shame if things don’t work out. Nothing boosts confidence more than the feeling of freedom!
No one settles for second best –
Settling for second best is nearly always a disaster when it comes to dating. Today though, I think that this happens less and less. Life has so many paths, it’s not all about marriage and children in double-quick time. I think this allows people to spread their wings further as they know they’re not going to be ‘left on the shelf‘. There are so many options available to everyone these days, they know they don’t just have to settle for the first person that comes along.
The ‘try before you buy’ culture is a good thing –
This might be an unpopular opinion, but I really believe that the whole ‘try before you buy‘ thing is good. After all, in life we don’t just take people’s word for it, we try things out. Sometimes we like what we’re doing and we’ll do it again, other times we realise it isn’t for us and we move on. You get the picture, right? No one wants to be stuck with something that they don’t really like. So heading out on lots of dates and really getting to know someone, before you settle down can only make things better in the long run.
People aren’t afraid to stand up for what they know they deserve –
The thing that I’ve noticed time and time again whilst watching Love Island, is that these guys and girls know what they deserve. More importantly, they aren’t afraid to stand up for themselves if they don’t feel they’re getting it. I think it’s safe to say that they represent a huge proportion of today’s daters too. Fewer and fewer people are allowing themselves to be treated badly and walked all over!
I do believe that this years contestants have set the bar high. They’re setting a good example to viewers who may be worried about getting on the dating scene. They know what they want and they aren’t afraid to hang around until the perfect person for them walks into their life. Surely, that can only be a good thing?