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The Power of Women – Am I being Drawn in by Feminism?

The Power of Women – Am I being Drawn in by Feminism?

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Up until recently, I would never have identified as a feminist. In fact, I would have said I sat right at the other end of the scale. It wasn’t until I made it my mission to learn more throughout 2018, that I came across a book with the potential to instigate a significant shift in my views and beliefs. It forced my brain to think in a way that has never been that natural to me. I began to see my life from an entirely different perspective and I liked it.

A History of Britain in 21 Women by Jenni Murray opened up a whole new world for me. One that I’m completely unfamiliar with, but also one that I was eager to explore. As much as I’m not going to be burning my bra any time soon, I don’t think I’ve ever fully appreciated what we as women are capable of achieving. As well as what the women before us dedicated their lives to, in order to secure a better future for the generations to come.

 

 

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Hypocrisy –

 

Unfortunately, I’m not sure I’m able commit to feminism entirely. You see, I really love it when my husband holds a door open for me. I also like it when he does what we call the ‘blue jobs’ around the house. Surely this makes me a hypocrite? I’m sure a determined feminist would revolt at the use of such terminology.  

I want to be a strong woman, who is successful in motherhood, housekeeping and business. Yes, in that order. We have very traditional roles over here, my husband is the ‘bread’ winner and I am ‘mother and maid’. Truthfully, I wouldn’t have it any other way. I want my strengths and qualities as the female of the species to be recognised, but I also want to be treated like a lady once in a while.

It’s obvious from those revelations, that I’m never going to be recognised as hardcore feminist. I’m always going to pass the ‘male’ jobs over to my husband without a seconds thought. I’m also going to continue being the one that keeps our household ticking over nicely. I’ve no intention of changing.

Having said that, I’m definitely going to continue to work towards achieve my goals in business. I know that with hard work and determination I’m capable of reaching them, alongside being the best mother and wife that I can be. I’m also going to spend my life empowering our girls, teaching them to believe that anything is possible whatever their gender. They need to know that they are capable of making their wildest dreams come true – woman or not.

 

Unity –

 

Most of all, I’m going to teach our girls that great things can happen when people work together. By pooling resources, brains and hard graft, men and women can work alongside each other to achieve the unachievable. I don’t believe that men don’t need women, or that women don’t need men to make something of themselves. I believe that there is a mutual need, that’s requires nurture if we want to flourish as human beings.  Team work definitely makes the dream work.  Maybe I’m not being drawn in by feminism after all.

 

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76 Replies to “The Power of Women – Am I being Drawn in by Feminism?”

  1. I’ve always identified feminism as embracing the same rights that the male sex is given. Not that we actually have to take on the “man’s role” but that we could switch places and he stay at home while she works to support the family. I also love having my door held open, but I love that I could rip it open myself if I wanted 🙂

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  2. YOur feelings are very similar to mine, we need to work together not against each other, hubby and I always say it’s a team x

  3. Wanting your hubby to hold a door open for you isn’t against feminism. If you do it then it’s just called manners! Feminism for me is about equal opportunities which works both ways. If a man wants stay at home, he shouldn’t be ridiculed for it, just as a woman shouldn’t be discriminated against for working.

  4. We run our household in a similar way to you. I believe feminism is about having the freedom to make a choice. I could go out to work and be the breadwinner, open the doors to men, take my own bins out, but my husband and I like the roles we have chosen. That’s ok. I’m not being made to feel tied to the kitchen sink, or needing to have hubby change the lightbulbs. Feminism shouldn’t be rigid in my view. I feel we all should have the same chances in life. That’s feminism to me x

  5. I don’t think that splitting responsibilities makes you anti-feminist, to me feminism is more about seeking equality rather than having rules imposed purely because we are female. I love that my husband and I balance out roles at home, but him being the breadwinner, for example, doesn’t mean that I am incapable of making a political vote or having an opinion on business matters. This topic always gives food for thought 😉 xx

  6. I honestly believe that feminism, at least my version of feminism, isn’t about pulling down men. It’s not about being a man hater. It’s about sisterhood more than anything. I don’t fit the normal stereotype of a feminist either.

  7. I’m still trying to work out when people decided feminisim was bad? How have we gone back to the 1950’s mentality (that women are useless?). You want equal pay for the same job? You’re a feminist. You think your opinion is equally valid to your husband’s? You’re a feminist. You don’t think you’re stupider than any man in the room with the same education/qualifications? You’re a feminist. It has nothing to do with doors being held open. I’m old, and I’m astounded at the rise of ‘but I’m not a feminist’ as if being a feminist is man hating or bad. Let me tell you, look at how Nixon marketed healthcare as a negative in America – that’s exactly what has happened with feminism. #GlobalBlogging

  8. My concern with the rise of feminism is the belief that, as a woman, we should want it all and want to do it all and that by not wanting that it makes us less of a person? I want to bring my daughter up to know that it’s fine to do whatever she wants with her future (within reason!). That if she wants to stay at home and let a man bring in the money then that’s fine as long is it’s what she wants. I worry that women can end up taking on everything purely to prove that they are capable when it’s really just not necessary!

  9. I’m currently researching feminism for a piece I’m writing and I hear a lot of this feeling I completely agree with you it’s tricky and I’m not sure where I stand yet on it all. It is an eye opener and a really interesting topic! Xx

  10. You sound like a feminist to me. It’s all about choice, not rejecting everything feminine. It’s about respecting women as individuals and not assuming we all want the same thing.

  11. I appreciate this post. Provoking the thoughts that you can be feminine and have bold goals for yourself. The Hubbs and I are very traditional in our roles as well. But that does not mean that I “can’t” do things if I choose to do them. These are the values I want for my girls, to be themselves, and reach for the stars. If they want to reach them alone, that’s great. If they want to team up with a husband and reach them, that’s great too! Thanks for sharing! #Blogstravaganza

  12. I think hardcore feminism is just going to die down as people realise that it’s silly. And feminism should be about a woman being able to do or be what she wants. Not being pushed into it. If a woman wants the door held for her and to have a man do the ‘male’ jobs then there’s nothing wrong with that.

    Interesting read!

  13. I was raised to be respectful to all people. I was also raised to say things like “ladies first” and hold a door open for a lady. Around the house I do the bind and the DIY. My upbringing was in now way anti-women but at time lately I’ve certainly felt like it could be seen that way. I have a mum, 3 sisters, a wife and 4 daughters – women are all around me!

  14. I never understand why we can’t all be and do what we want to. Everything seems to have a label these days doesn’t it? You know what you want lovely and that’s empowering in itself. Your girls will see that too, which is fantastic. #Blogstravaganza

  15. Interestingly I was having this conversation with my 17 year old daughter last week. She doesn’t feel like a feminist but I was telling her that was because she has the freedom to do and act as she pleases already because of our grandmothers and great grandmothers. It’s important not to take this freedom for granted. I firmly believe that feminism is all about choices and maintaining our choices. It’s not about burning our bras and turning our noses up at a man holding a door for us. As long as woman have the same voice as men, we have the choice to speak up for our rights. #blogstravaganza

  16. I really don’t like these labels, sometimes we should worry less about what people think or say and just do what we think any good person should do. #Blogstravaganza

  17. When I think of feminism I think of woman having the same rights as a man, as being equals. We run our home similar to you. Both of us had demanding roles and when we decided on the family I reduced my hours as I wanted to ‘raise the kids’ and he became bread winner. We then share the tasks round the home with me picking up more of the ‘home’ tasks. We also have pink and blue jobs but it is a joke. I can pick up a hammer just as he can dust the house. We are a team. That’s what works. Teaching our children that we are equals. #TriumphantTales

  18. I love the idea of unity in terms of feminism. If we are feminists, shouldn’t we all be working together? I also think though that just loving ourselves for who we are can show our daughters how to be strong. Or that may be my flu brain talking. #blogstravaganza

  19. My interpretation of feminism is that men and women are equal. So personally want my daughter to know that the choice is hers to make, should she want to be a stay at home mum in the future, fine if she makes that choice. The same if she decided to be the breadwinner for her family. But like others have said I too hate labels and we shouldn’t all have them or be defined by them #blogstravaganza

  20. I’m not one for labels. I find there is a lot of negative association with the word “Feminist” and usually brings about a lot of debates, controversy or extremists. Yet, I am very much like you, like that my hubby holds the door open for me. I empower and support my daughter to do and be anything she wants to be, lead by example & continue to work towards achieving my goals in business & very much believe in equal rights and choice… I don’t know. I feel like I just sit on the fence when it comes to the words Feminism & Feminists…. #Blogstravaganza

  21. This is a very thought provoking post. I feel quite similarly to you. Sort of. I like being with the kids and letting my husband do the bins but equally I want to be successful in my own business and not be responsible for all the housework. It’s confusing! Thanks for linking up to the #bigpinklink this week.

  22. Great post, I think most of us are guilty of being a feminist when it suits us! I think the important thing is that we have all the choices open to us, if we still decide to stay home, or let our husbands open doors for us then that’s our decision. Having the choice is the most important part of equality #Blogstravaganza

  23. I like the honesty of your post! I’ve never identified myself as a feminist either. But I do expect to be considered as being of as much worth regardless of my sex/gender, and to not be put down in any way just because I’m a woman x #Blogstravaganza

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