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Fours ways to Drop Hints you want to become Engaged

Fours ways to Drop Hints you want to become Engaged

You can’t really complain when you’ve been in a relationship with your partner for a few years and are now living together. Yet, something seems missing. Could this be the fact that you’re ready to become engaged, though your other half doesn’t appear to have given it a thought?

If that’s the case, marquise engagement ring stockist Angelic Diamonds has four ways to make your boyfriend aware that you want him to pop the question:

Be honest

The simplest method can often be the best in this scenario, so just have a chat with your partner about where you would like your relationship to go. It needn’t be an awkward conversation; just discuss with your partner why you want to get married and he should soon start to understand just how much he means to you. Sometimes people have the same fears and doubts within a relationship, but they are just too afraid to address them with each other. By talking about your future together, he’ll know that you want to be a part of it.

Become your partner’s go-to guy

Does it feel as though you and your boyfriend have assigned roles in your relationship? It’s time that you become your other half’s go-to guy as well as girlfriend then. If you’re constantly being left behind for the guys, then this is going to put a strain on his ability to propose and take you seriously.

Try to take an interest in his hobbies, for example, or arrange to exercise together whenever possible. If you can be part of his whole life, rather than just someone he spends time with, then he’ll feel like you’re indispensable. Once you get to this point in your relationship, then he’ll feel like proposing, as he can’t spend his time without you!

Arrange things with married couples

Your partner could be reluctant to ask for your hand in marriage because of being worried or anxious about married life. Try to resolve this by hanging around with friends who are happily married, as well as family members who also have children. This will make him realise that you’re comfortable with him being around others in more serious relationships.

The ups and downs of married life will likely be exposed when you hang out with married friends and family members, but at the very least if should also get your boyfriend picturing a wonderful married life with you. Although men who have parents that are divorced sometimes struggle to trust this commitment, replacing negative feelings with positive ones in this type of environment may help to bring him around to your way of thinking.

Try some tough love

Have the nice methods failed? Then it may be time to be cruel to be kind in order to take your relationship to the next level. If you don’t see your relationship heading in the right direction, and things are flatlining, try and find his pulse again by telling him you may move out.

That might be too dramatic an approach for some. If this is the case, use a different approach and make a decision like changing careers or going out with your friends more and don’t ask for your partner’s advice beforehand. Although he knows that you’re always there for him, this will make him feel that he isn’t being as included as he should be, and he’ll start to wonder why. Keeping him on his toes in this way will make him realise that he needs to put the effort in (by proposing!) so that he can get your undivided effort and attention in the future.

 

*This is a collaborative post.

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Reflections as my Littlest Turns One

Reflections as my Littlest Turns One

I’m struggling to believe that a whole year has passed since the littlest of my girls was born.  This time last year I was waddling around waiting, not so patiently to be induced.  Excited to meet our second born and even more excited not to be pregnant, after carrying my first and second for what was very nearly eighteen months straight.

My labour progressed very quickly after being induced and in the early hours of the morning, in a birthing pool the littlest arrived after just one push – this is to date one of my proudest parenting moments!  I remember my midwives being really relaxed with me as an ‘experienced’ second mum.  I’d only had ten and a half months practice though, so this definitely didn’t feel like the case.

 

 

Fast forward a year and here I am, a mother of two and armed with enough experience to write a book.  Hubs and I feel like it’s been one of the hardest and one of the most amazing years of our lives.  We’ve battled with endless sleepless nights, first steps and first words. Twice over!  Hubs had a career change and I went back to work, both were difficult decisions but ones that were right for our family.

Going on our first holiday as a family of four was real highlight.  It was the first child friendly holiday we’ve ever been on and we loved it.  Maybe it was the hot tub on the veranda that swung it for us?!  Truthfully, we found that holidaying with littles was absolutely knackering but enjoying our time together was bliss!

 

 

Christmas was such a happy time too, we had a fun-filled day together and couldn’t see the carpet for presents.  Our living room still looks like a toy shop, there are so many I just can’t contain them anymore!

Now we are heading into the Summer with two toddlers.  I don’t get to sit down for more than five seconds at a time and I can’t remember the last time I drank my tea hot.  It’s set to be an amazing year full of milestones and the making of memories!

 

 

So, Happy Birthday Littlest!  Thankyou for being the amazing, funny and lovable little girl that you are.  You’ve made our family complete!

 

 

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Explaining Terrorism – They won’t be Young Forever

Explaining Terrorism – They won’t be Young Forever

As more details emerge from the London attacks, my heart sinks lower and lower.  The families of the victims are at the forefront of my mind.  I’m in a state of mourning, not only for the lives that have been lost but for the world that was.  Once again, it has been changed forever.

As I watch the news I find myself becoming anxious and upset, fearful of the what has become of our beautiful world.  Why should we have to walk down the street and worry about terrorism?  Why should I think twice about taking my girls to their capital city, to show them this amazing place full of excitement and history?

As new headlines emerge I am grateful that I don’t have to explain the situation to my girls.  I’m glad that they’re too young to understand and to worry about the bad things that happen in the world.  I’m only too aware though that they are growing up fast, that they won’t always be too young to understand.  One day they will see the news and have questions, they will want to know why one human being would do this to another.  What do I say then?  How can I possibly begin to explain it?

When attacks like this happen I spend my time worrying about the future of my children, of all our children.  What kind of world are they growing up in?  I’m again consoled by their ages, whilst they are young and under my roof I can keep them safe.  But they won’t be young forever.

Everyone who was involved in the attacks have shown us that there is good in the world.  The emergency services, the passers by who stopped to help and those who sadly lost their lives in a bid to save others.  All of these people have shown that for every ounce of bad in the world, there is so much more good.

So when the time comes that my girls will need their questions answered.  I will tell them that there are bad people in the world, but for every bad person there are so many good.  For every bad deed there are so many more amazing things happening all around them.

For now though I’m glad I don’t have to explain it and I’m glad my children go to bed at night without worrying.

 

 

 

 

 

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Hyperemesis Gravidarum – What You Need to Know

Hyperemesis Gravidarum – What You Need to Know

Hyperemesis Gravidarum is the name given to severe vomiting during pregnancy.  So severe in fact,  that it can cause women to become dehydrated and lose weight.

I suffered from HG during both of my pregnancies, each time not believing that I would be able to get through it.  It’s hard to admit, but there were also times when I regretted my situation as this illness can be so debilitating.

When you have HG it is almost as if time stands still, you cant go back but you don’t know how to move forward – knowing how to get out of bed would be a start.

Drawing from my own personal experiences with the condition, here are a few things you need to know:

  • Hyperemesis Gravidarum is not just morning sickness.  HG is far worse.  Not only are you feeling sick but you are constantly being sick.  Hanging your head over the toilet for the thirtieth time in less than twenty four hours, feeling faint and dizzy, being in a constant state of exhaustion and feeling like your head is going to explode is extreme.  Don’t get me wrong, sickness of any kind is not pleasant and I feel for anyone with morning sickness. HG however, is on another level and it is not to be taken lightly.
  • Dry crackers are not going to cut it.  You can eat crackers until your mouth feels like the bottom of a bird cage, you will still feel sick and be sick.  I lost count of the amount of times crackers were pushed under my nose, only to be thrown back no more than thirty seconds later.  My advice is eat what you can when you can.  Even if that happens to be a couple of chocolate biscuits, or a double cheese burger.  You’re probably going to throw it back up anyway, so you may as well enjoy the bits you do get to eat!  A few calories are better than none so it’s always worth a shot.
  • ‘Stick your ginger where the sun doesn’t shine’ (shamefully, these are my words!).   This one does again relate to food, but it deserves its own point!  I used to love ginger – cake, biscuits, gingerbread men – you name it.  In my early days of HG before I was medicated my friends, family and even my GP told me ginger would do the trick.  It did NOTHING! Now I can’t stand the stuff, I am nearly six months post-partum and the thought of ginger still makes me feel nauseous.  I know you’re trying to be helpful, really I do – but f**k off with your ginger!
  • Don’t let anyone tell you ‘you just have to get through it’.  Seven weeks into my first pregnancy I literally could not stop being sick.  Water, food and sips of energy drink all came back up to say ‘Hi’.  Medical professionals hadn’t taken my condition seriously enough.  One particular consultant said ‘I don’t care about sickness, everyone gets that’.  Funnily enough this was a MALE consultant.  Therefore it wasn’t long until I was admitted into hospital,  suffering from dehydration.  I spent a night on IV fluids and anti-emetics, surrounded by people who understood that I was ill.  I left hospital the next day with a package of medication, that would see me through the next few months.  To this day I cannot thank these people enough – they made my first pregnancy less traumatic and more bearable than I could ever have imagined.
  • It’s OK to medicate.  I know that medication during pregnancy is a very personal choice, it’s certainly not for everyone.  If this is something you are open to though and you are advised only by your Doctor, it is OK.  It can mean a less traumatic pregnancy, you will most probably be able to eat bits and function day to day.  I’m not saying they are miracle drugs, you’re still going to feel like s**t – but being able to get out of bed makes HG life a bit more bearable.
  • Accept help.  This is not always easy, but accepting help takes the pressure off.  If the house wants cleaning or the children need looking after call in some favours, lean on those around you.  It won’t be forever but HG is a serious condition, there is no shame in accepting help whilst you are not at your best.
  • You will get through it.  It doesn’t seem like it now but it will pass.  By the end of this horrific journey you will have a squidgy little munchkin, and it will all have been worth it.  You won’t look back on those days fondly.  There are people out there to guide you if you need help coming to terms with your experience.  Just know that one day it will be over, you are strong enough to get there.  Just take each minute as it comes!

 

It turns out that HG doesn’t discriminate, here are a few celebrity sufferers :

    • The Duchess of Cambridge, Kate Middleton had HG during both of her pregnancies.
    • The Saturdays singer, Frankie Bridge suffered during her second pregnancy.
    • Property guru Kirstie Allsopp has been a sufferer.
    • Nineteenth century English novelist Charlotte Bronte.  Charlotte Bronte was thought to have died from the condition, around four months into her first pregnancy.
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Mummy Friends – United We Stand

Mummy Friends – United We Stand

This week Little E has had the most unsettled week she has had since she was born.  We have had a week of all day grumpiness, tears and bedtime screaming!  Babies cry though right?  I would normally agree, but in comparison to my first-born Little E has been a dream.  I love you Baby J but you were such a screamer!

So when Monday came and Little E’s temperament had changed almost over night, we were worried, very worried!  As Hubs has been working long shifts this week, the majority of the childcare has been left in my capable hands!  Unsettledness during the day, teamed with two hours worth of bedtime screaming has been tiring to say the least.  With no husband on hand to whinge to, who do we call?  Mummy friends!

There was a time before children when Mummy friends did not exist in my life.  When your out on the town until the early hours.   Drinking too much and calling for the kebab you know your going to regret eating in the morning, the last thing your thinking about is children.  Fast forward two years to a time when you just aren’t cool enough to be out on the town, or just too damn knackered, you realise that Mummy friends are where it’s at.  Then you start to wonder what you ever did without them!

This week I have been spurred on by the mutual understanding of parental shittiness, by a fellow Mummy who feels my pain.  Being able to pick up the phone at 3am, knowing you’re going to get a reply almost straight away because they are up too is extremely cathartic!  We have laughed, smiled, whined and moaned, reminisced and then moaned some more!

Now that we are approaching the end of the week Little E seems to be getting back to her usual quiet and contented self.  Her cries have been replaced by smiles and she’s back to sleeping at night!  Hooray!

With this in mind, for this weeks Thankful Thursday…I want to give a HUGE shout out to all the Mummy friends out there.  Especially my own, who have gotten me through another one of those damn phases!  So thankyou guys, for listening to the moans and cheering me on.  I am so thankful to be on this crazy parenting ride with you, you’re the best!

 

What are you thankful for this week?

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Positivity Breeds Positivity…

Positivity Breeds Positivity…

Life passes us by in a flash.  We are always so busy, there are little people to keep alive, work needs to be done, homes need to be run and that’s just the start of it.  A lot of the time our lives are planned to the very last detail, in an attempt to make it run as smoothly as possible.  Especially on those days that just don’t have enough hours.

Mostly we get on with this just fine, we fly from one day to the next keeping our heads just nicely above water, but sometimes we can get stuck in a rut.  Sometimes the days start to pass in a blur, and we wonder where our direction has disappeared to.  These are the days that negativity can take over, and you know what they say – ‘negativity breeds negativity’.

After the birth of my second child my days quickly turned into constant blur, living from hour to hour, just getting by.  Life seemed to lose all significant meaning, tiredness took over and the daily grind felt almost impossible.  Three months in I found myself striving for change, I felt the need to lose the negativity that clouded my life, to become positive and continue to be positive whatever the weather.

Here are some tips on how to bring more positivity into your life, apply them and watch it grow!

  • Choose to see the good in life – lets face it life throws crap our way.  Some days it feels like we have more than our fair share of crap thrown at us, and its so easy to get bogged down in the rubbish.   Eventually we can end up feeling like nothing good ever happens.  This is not true.  Every day something good happens, even if it’s only a small thing – the sun shining, an extra ten minutes in bed (yeah right!), a simple ‘I love you’ from those we care about.  Focus on the good, even if its tiny, focus on it!

 

  • Eat right- now don’t get me wrong we all deserve a treat once in a while, but a healthy and balanced diet makes us feel better on the inside.  When our bodies feel good it’s easier for our minds to feel good!

 

  • Be thankful- look closely, see what you have.  Someone else may be richer, they may have a nicer car or a bigger house.  Who cares?  Look around you and take stock of your life, what you have is priceless, be thankful for it.

 

  • Know your triggers and take care of them- we all have triggers: actions, songs, situations, people.  Triggers affect how we think and feel and they can change our mind set before we’ve even realised its happened.  Know what your triggers are, learn how to take care of them and manage them.  If that song comes on, turn it off – you get the idea.

 

  • See the bigger picture- when bad things happen it’s frustrating and upsetting.  Often right in that moment it can feel impossible to deal with.  Take a step back and look at the bigger picture, does it really matter?  Will you care about this after a few days have passed?  Will it continue to affect you or is it momentary? The chances are by tomorrow you will be completely over it, save yourself  from being drawn into a negative cycle.  Step back and let it go.

 

  • Act positively- even if you aren’t feeling all that positive, act it anyway.  The more you act positive the more you will feel it and eventually that mind set will be your default.  Keep at it!

 

  • Smile- just smile.  Smiling instantly makes us happier, even if it’s just for a split second.  Keep smiling, seconds add up!

So there we have it, these simple but effective tips can help us shift those negative feelings that are harbouring in the crevices of our minds.  Let’s stop with the negativity and let positivity breed positivity!

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