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Bloggers, If I Could Offer you One Piece of Advice…

Bloggers, If I Could Offer you One Piece of Advice…

I don’t mind telling you that over the last few months I’ve suffered complete blogger burnout. I felt like I had completely lost my voice and there were times when I wondered why I’d even begun. The constant writing and endless social media had lost its appeal and I found myself in a rut of self-doubt. I felt like I was drowning in the online world and for a short time at least, I knew I needed to take a break.

Reflection –

The children were off of school around the time of my apparent disinterest in the blogging world, so I took the holidays as a time to reflect on where I wanted to go with this blog of mine. I’ve come a long way since the early days, even if I do say so myself and I soon realised I wasn’t about to let that time and effort be for nothing. The hardest part of blogging for me is time. As my main job is being a parent to our girls, my blog always has to come second. My husband works long shifts and it’s always been the case that I stay at home with the kids. As a grafter though, I find it hard to not to work, so often I find my self being full-time parent, whilst also squeezing in working full-time hours. The other rabbit hole that I got sucked into was comparison. The number games, who’s doing what and how many followers do they have. This is a downward spiral, inducing a whole host of negative thought patterns.

After a while I resolved that I wanted to carry on blogging. I knew that this was the business I wanted to keep building, all I had to do was change the way that I work.

A new approach –

After a lot of thinking and a lot of chatting with other bloggers, I realised that the only way forward is to blog for me. No more worrying about who other bloggers are working with. No more comparing my content to their’s and certainly no more fan girling over the ‘big bloggers‘ who have ‘made it’. I recently found myself shying away from a blogger with a large following, declaring myself as ‘small fry’ whilst feeling rather inadequate.The truth is that we are all in the same boat. We are all baring our souls for a cause that we’re passionate about. There’s no right or wrong way of doing it, only the way that suits each individual best.  My new approach to blogging has witnessed me wave goodbye to such ridiculous notions. I’m working as hard as everyone else and I should never forget that.

So fellow bloggers, if I could offer you one piece of advice it’s to do things your own way. Blog for you, to make you happy and to make your business work. Don’t compare yourself to everyone else, you are you for a reason and you need to remember that. There’ll always be someone around the corner to judge, but if you keep working hard with your head held high, you’ll lose sight of people like that in no time.

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The Pressures of Being a Blogger

The Pressures of Being a Blogger

For some reason, some people believe that being a blogger is a walk in the park. Often all they see is what we get; the days out, the ‘free’ stuff, easy money made from messing around on social media. If I’m being honest I get why people think this, it does appear to be an easy choice for those that want to make a few quid. I hate to disappoint those with such an opinion though, I’m afraid it’s much harder work that us bloggers are letting on!

What people don’t see is the stressful side of the job. They don’t see all of the hard work that goes into maintaining a blog, the technical side that sees one task take literally days to complete. They don’t see the day-to-day mundane side of blogging. The things we have to do each and every day, that’s right no days off, just to maintain a presence and keep things ticking over. They also don’t realise how hard it is to maintain multiple social channels. Suddenly the fun side of social media becomes a chore as we try to make our mark on the influencer world. If it was as easy as clicking publish, we’d all be millionaires.

The harsh reality of becoming a blogger –

In actual fact, blogging is not all sunshine and roses. It can be incredible stressful at times and can leave us full-timers wondering why we bothered starting up this ‘blogging thing‘ in the first place. Yes there are perks to the job, but as with every other job that has benefits, they have to be worked hard for. I know I’m not alone when I say I worked on my blog solidly for an entire year before I made a dime from it. Blogging is a labour of love and it’s not to be taken lightly. Doesn’t seem so glamorous now, hey?!

This summer I stepped away from my blog for a few weeks. I felt like I wanted to take stock and reevaluate my direction. As it turns out, I was just a little burnt out, all I needed was time away from the screen to get my spark back. You see, because blogging is such an all-consuming job we don’t get to take holidays where we can just switch off. You can guarantee that I lost money in those few weeks and as a blogger that was a conscious decision I had to make. Take time out for myself and my family and make less money, or carry on full speed ahead missing out on quality time with my girls but make a packet. Not an easy decision, but I’m confident I made the right one. Just another on of the pressures of being a blogger.

 

To highlight just how stressful this line of work can be, I got in touch with some of my fellow bloggers to find out what they find most difficult about the job;

Victoria from Lylia Rose: ‘The never ending amount of work to do and playing every role – copywriter, accountant, photographer, receptionist, website designer, applying for jobs daily, etc. It can be overwhelming sometimes and I feel like I need to clone myself!’

Mandi from Big Family Organised Chaos: ‘Uncertainty! Will you get enough paid work in this month to cover the bills, will the payments you are due be paid on time, will you end up doing a full working week with no money to show for it, and why are you still working at midnight because you HAVE to get that post written before the deadline but the children have needed you for everything all day!’

Nicola from Mummy to Dex: ‘Personally, I find it stressful when I have to negotiate fees. I always worry I’ve put people off with what I charge. I guess I suffer from imposter syndrome and doubt my capabilities as a blogger.’

Nickie from Typecast: ‘Comparing yourself with other bloggers. Seeing other bloggers work on a campaign you thought you pitched well for but didn’t get. Finding enough hours in the day to hit deadline.’

Emma from The Mini Mes and Me: ‘When clients don’t pay on time and you have to chase and chase and chase them for money owed. I think sometimes they forget that blogging is often the main income for many.’

Lisa from That British Betty: ‘I get frustrated that I can’t spend as much time as I’d like to on my blog – I KNOW I could make it a success if I had more time. I work 45 hours a week in PR so often come home tired and don’t feel like doing even more writing! I also miss out on cool brand events as I can’t drop everything and attend an event at 2pm on a Tuesday.’

Michaela from Adventures of a Yorkshire Mum: ‘When people assume that everything is an ad. People commenting on Instagram ‘aren’t you supposed to #ad this’ annoys me as, if it was an ad, I would mention it. And I don’t want to have to write ‘this is not an ad’ on every post I do! ‘

Natalie from Plutonium Sox: ‘The thing that annoys me the most is that people assume because I’m at home I’m not working. I had a deadline to meet for a post this morning, so had to get it written yesterday. Youngest is still on half days at school this week so I literally had a couple of hours in the morning and a couple of hours in the evening. So instead of being able to get my head down and work, I helped my dad with some land registry searches in the morning and helped my husband with building a bed in the evening. When we move I’m putting a home office at the far end of the garden and a ‘sod off’ sign on the front door.’

 

Thankyou to all who made this post possible!

 

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#Blogstravaganza #76

#Blogstravaganza #76

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast! 

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

#Blogstravaganza News!

With the new GDPR guidelines coming into force very soon, I have a new GDPR compliant form for those who would like to receive #Blogstravaganza reminders via email each week. If you’d like to join the list, please do SIGN UP HERE!

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My favourite post from last week was this one from Daydreamer Mum! Grab your badge here:

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It would be great to continue to spread some love over on Instagram, please do remember to use the #Blogstravaganza tag on your images! Here are a couple of my favourites from this week!

Don’t forget the join the #Blogstravaganza – Opportunities, Blog Share & Support group on Facebook.  If you want to share your posts, get some advice from fellow bloggers or simply have a chat, do head over and check it out!

 

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#Blogstravaganza #75

#Blogstravaganza #75

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast! 

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

#Blogstravaganza News!

With the new GDPR guidelines coming into force very soon, I have a new GDPR compliant form for those who would like to receive #Blogstravaganza reminders via email each week. If you’d like to join the list, please do SIGN UP HERE!

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My favourite post from last week was this one from One Frazzled Mum! Grab your badge here:

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It would be great to continue to spread some love over on Instagram, please do remember to use the #Blogstravaganza tag on your images! Here are a couple of my favourites from this week!

Don’t forget the join the #Blogstravaganza – Opportunities, Blog Share & Support group on Facebook.  If you want to share your posts, get some advice from fellow bloggers or simply have a chat, do head over and check it out!

 

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#Blogstravaganza #74

#Blogstravaganza #74

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast! 

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

#Blogstravaganza News!

With the new GDPR guidelines coming into force very soon, I have a new GDPR compliant form for those who would like to receive #Blogstravaganza reminders via email each week. If you’d like to join the list, please do SIGN UP HERE!

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My favourite post from last week was this one from The CubKit! Grab your badge here:

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It would be great to continue to spread some love over on Instagram, please do remember to use the #Blogstravaganza tag on your images! Here are a couple of my favourites from this week!

Don’t forget the join the #Blogstravaganza – Opportunities, Blog Share & Support group on Facebook.  If you want to share your posts, get some advice from fellow bloggers or simply have a chat, do head over and check it out!

 

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Building an Online Business – A Blogger’s Memoir

Building an Online Business – A Blogger’s Memoir

If you’d have told me three years ago, that I would find myself with a lucrative online business I wouldn’t have believed you. Prior to writing my first blog post, I hadn’t picked up a laptop in years. I had no need to. I was a hairdresser, who’d just had her first baby. I had no intention of going back to work, so the closest I got to technology was the TV remote for a Netflix binge.

Then one day, I discovered Instagram. I was drawn in by the world of hashtags, likes and Insta businesses. So I created an account, started posting a few snaps and soon realised that I could really make something out of this. That’s when I created my blog and The Tale of Mummyhood was born. Building my blog wasn’t easy though, I had to learn so much along the way. There’s a lot that goes on behind the scenes of blogging and I know from experience that it’s not for the idle among us!

 

One step at a time –

One of the things that made me start writing was that I always thought I could do better than hairdressing. There I said it. Shoot me. I’ve always had a little niggle that I should have weighed up my options more. I’m not taking anything away from the passionate hairdressers among us though, some of those guys are incredible and they’ve found their calling. Me though? Not so much. I was always in it for the money and I can tell you that if you’re a self-employed hairdresser, there’s a lot to be made.

My background however, meant that I really had to take building an online business one step at a time. Some days I would stay up until the wee, small hours. Trying to work something out, that I could now do in seconds. I had to persevere and I had to open my mind and be willing to learn. Not only that, in this game you have to continue to learn. Soak up everything you can from those around you and don’t ever think you’ve cracked it. You haven’t, there’s always something new to get your teeth stuck in to. There’s no end in sight and I had to make my peace with that.

 

Making time –

I once read that the a large proportion of blogs are abandoned within three months of them being set up. The prime reason for this, is that the creators just don’t find the time to write. They don’t put the hours into their social media platforms and they don’t take time to engage with their potential audience. I get it, I really do. It’s time-consuming and hard, but it’s essential if you want to make your blog a success.

I put an incredible amount of hours into my website. I love it like a third child and nurture it each and every day. The trouble is, there’s ALWAYS something to do. As with all kinds of technology things don’t always run as smoothly as they should. You have to be completely on the ball and take the time to rectify any problems that smack you in the face on a quiet Sunday morning. Yep, us bloggers have to work Sundays.

I didn’t realise until I was too far in, that blogging seeps into every aspect of your life. You can’t go on a day out with the family, without taking a million photos. As well as mentally planning which bits you intend to write about. You can’t go to bed without working for an hour, or three, on your social media platforms. If you let it, blogging becomes all-consuming. I swear you could work 24/7 and there’d still be more to do.

 

A family friendly business –

The thing I’m most proud of when it comes to my blog, is that I’ve succeeded in  building a family friendly business. I get to be the worker that I want to be, as well as being the parent I want to be. It’s been a bit of a bumpy road at times and like many other bloggers before me, I’ve contemplated shutting the whole lot down. When I step back and look at what I’ve built though, I know that every hour, every tear and every bit of frustration has been worth it!

 

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#Blogstravaganza #73

#Blogstravaganza #73

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast! 

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

 

#Blogstravaganza News!

With the new GDPR guidelines coming into force very soon, I have a new GDPR compliant form for those who would like to receive #Blogstravaganza reminders via email each week. If you’d like to join the list, please do SIGN UP HERE!

 

Featured Blogger

My favourite post from last week was this one from This Mummy Rocks! Grab your badge here:

 

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It would be great to continue to spread some love over on Instagram, please do remember to use the #Blogstravaganza tag on your images! Here are a couple of my favourites from this week!

 

 

 

Don’t forget the join the #Blogstravaganza – Opportunities, Blog Share & Support group on Facebook.  If you want to share your posts, get some advice from fellow bloggers or simply have a chat, do head over and check it out!

 

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Back to Full-Time Blogging – Why I’ve Hung up my Scissors, Again.

Back to Full-Time Blogging – Why I’ve Hung up my Scissors, Again.

Over the past three years I’ve been a complete yo-yo where work is concerned. I wanted to be there for my children, so I said goodbye to hairdressing. Then, after the littlest was born, I thought it might be nice to get out the house again for a few hours. So I went back to the old routine for one day a week, but guess what? It turns out that wasn’t for me either.

Sometimes I think I know what I want, others I’m completely lost and struggle to know if I’m making the right decisions. The fact is though, that I make a good wage from blogging and freelance writing. Don’t get me wrong, I put the hours in. Too many sometimes, if you ask my husband. I love blogging and I just can’t see the point in pouring my energies into a second job that I’m just not so taken with. So I quit.

 

Working around family –

Another reason that me working became an issue, is because of my husband’s hectic work schedule. He’s works so hard in a career that he loves and is constantly progressing. It’s been difficult fitting his shifts around my weekly work day, he managed it for me, but it was a real pain. The thing is I’m a drifter and I’ll pick up different lines of work whenever the mood takes. For him, it’s who he is and frankly that’s more important to me than one day a week to myself.

One of the main reasons I chose to give up my hairdressing role, is that blogging allows me the freedom to work around all members of the family. This is so important right now as the biggest is due to start nursery very soon. I want to be the one that drops her off. I want to be the one that picks her up. I don’t want to miss anything, especially when I’m lucky enough to have choices. The fact is that I don’t have to work and it’s about time I started appreciating the freedom that my situation gives me.

 

Money doesn’t make you happy –

As I touched on earlier, I work hard at home building up my blogging and freelance writing business. I make a wage and I’m proud of that. I’m always looking for more income streams too, which is why I took the hairdressing job in the first place. The money called to me and for that reason, I really don’t believe I thought things through properly. Until a few months later when I felt as though I was chasing my tail. I had even less hours during the week to get all of my work done and I was getting even less sleep than before. Not to mention being a full time mum to two under 3.

The truth is that money doesn’t make you happy. Family makes you happy, hobbies make you happy and working a job you love can make you happy. Grabbing at every penny available does not.

 

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#Blogstravaganza #72

#Blogstravaganza #72

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast! 

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

 

#Blogstravaganza News!

With the new GDPR guidelines coming into force very soon, I have a new GDPR compliant form for those who would like to receive #Blogstravaganza reminders via email each week. If you’d like to join the list, please do SIGN UP HERE!

 

Featured Blogger

My favourite post from last week was this one from Ready to Mum! Grab your badge here:

 

Tale of Mummyhood
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It would be great to continue to spread some love over on Instagram, please do remember to use the #Blogstravaganza tag on your images! Here are a couple of my favourites from this week!

 

Don’t forget the join the #Blogstravaganza – Opportunities, Blog Share & Support group on Facebook.  If you want to share your posts, get some advice from fellow bloggers or simply have a chat, do head over and check it out!

 

Tale of Mummyhood
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#Blogstravaganza #71

#Blogstravaganza #71

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza, with myself and Jo from Cup of Toast! 

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

 

#Blogstravaganza News!

With the new GDPR guidelines coming into force very soon, I have a new GDPR compliant form for those who would like to receive #Blogstravaganza reminders via email each week. If you’d like to join the list, please do SIGN UP HERE!

 

Featured Blogger

My favourite post from last week was this one from View from the Beach Chair! Grab your badge here:

 

Tale of Mummyhood
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It would be great to continue to spread some love over on Instagram, please do remember to use the #Blogstravaganza tag on your images! Here are a couple of my favourites from this week!

 

Don’t forget the join the #Blogstravaganza – Opportunities, Blog Share & Support group on Facebook.  If you want to share your posts, get some advice from fellow bloggers or simply have a chat, do head over and check it out!

 

Tale of Mummyhood
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