As soon as you start blogging, you realise that you’re exposing your world for all to see. As with all social media, things can be commented on, shared and liked; but not always in a positive way. It may seem like a very private affair at first, writing on your own gives you a sense of isolation. As soon as you hit publish though, your innermost thoughts are out there for everyone to see.
Writing a blog is about doing something you love, but it does include a hell of a lot of work. So if you’re going to spend all of your time worrying about what you’re publishing, you have to ask yourself whether you can overcome the fear of exposure. Or decide if it’s time to throw in the towel. There have been times when I’ve thought about quitting for this reason, but I wouldn’t be where I am today if I’d quit.
Here are a few tips to help you overcome the fear of exposure in the blogging world;
Don’t write about anything you wouldn’t talk about in the real world –
I never write about anything that I’m not willing to discuss face to face. Even if you try to keep your blog a secret from your nearest and dearest, social media has a way of rearing its ugly head when you least expect it. Often a fear of exposure comes when we’re writing about something we wouldn’t usually tell others. The best way to get over it? Don’t do it! There are better ways to create content than selling your sole.
Don’t be controversial if you can’t handle the backlash –
Some bloggers are really good at being controversial. They love the banter with their readership and they aren’t afraid to stand their ground. If this is you, great! Having a controversial approach to blogging comes with its downsides though, not everyone is going to be on your side and you have to be ready for that. Blogs can be interesting without intentionally winding people up, so if you aren’t ready for the backlash keep those extra strong opinions to yourself.
Develop a thick skin –
Whether you write content that is controversial or not, you’ll find that the blogging world isn’t always kind. For this you have to be ready. Blogs are so personal that at some point, you’ll come across someone that doesn’t agree with what you’re saying. Learn to take comments from these people on the chin and let them go. If you find yourself getting upset at every little comment, this game probably isn’t for you.
I asked my fellow bloggers how they feel about exposure in the blogging world. here’s what they had to say:
Tina from Mother Geek: ‘I don’t think I did until my Mum died. As daft as that sounds, I was always worried something I said would upset her. Now she’s no longer with us, I don’t give a hoot what people think.’
Vicky from The Mummy Bubble: ‘Once I made friends in the blogging community and engaged with people, it felt less scary to be open about having a blog. There are so many lovely people in the blogging world!’
Erica from The Incidental Parent: ‘I write about living with Crohn’s, once you’ve written about almost pooing yourself in Sainsbury’s you lose your inhibitions. I think as Vicky (above) says having blogger friends helps too, you can run things past them and they can support you.’
Vicki from Mumma and Her Monsters: ‘Honestly I’ve learnt to not care what anyone thinks anymore you either love me or hate me I’m just like Marmite. If I was really bothered I wouldn’t hardly post anything I do now!’
Carly from Mom of Two Little Girls: ‘I started off blogging anonymously but after I became more confident I started slowly sharing with family. I will never forget the first time a fellow school run mum said – are you that blogger? I felt so exposed and vulnerable. But after her kind words it gave me the confidence to be more open and admitting that yes, I am a blogger and I can be proud of my content.’
Rebecca from Becca Blogs it Out: ‘I blog about my mental health a fair bit, which a lot of my less-close friends might not have been aware of before, so it is scary, every time I hit the “publish” button on one of those posts. But I think it’s important to talk about things that scare us, because it might help others who are scared of the same things. The messages I receive after I publish posts about mental health make it worth the fear.’