I don’t mind telling you that over the last few months I’ve suffered complete blogger burnout. I felt like I had completely lost my voice and there were times when I wondered why I’d even begun. The constant writing and endless social media had lost its appeal and I found myself in a rut of self-doubt. I felt like I was drowning in the online world and for a short time at least, I knew I needed to take a break.
The children were off of school around the time of my apparent disinterest in the blogging world, so I took the holidays as a time to reflect on where I wanted to go with this blog of mine. I’ve come a long way since the early days, even if I do say so myself and I soon realised I wasn’t about to let that time and effort be for nothing. The hardest part of blogging for me is time. As my main job is being a parent to our girls, my blog always has to come second. My husband works long shifts and it’s always been the case that I stay at home with the kids. As a grafter though, I find it hard to not to work, so often I find my self being full-time parent, whilst also squeezing in working full-time hours. The other rabbit hole that I got sucked into was comparison. The number games, who’s doing what and how many followers do they have. This is a downward spiral, inducing a whole host of negative thought patterns.
After a while I resolved that I wanted to carry on blogging. I knew that this was the business I wanted to keep building, all I had to do was change the way that I work.
A new approach –
After a lot of thinking and a lot of chatting with other bloggers, I realised that the only way forward is to blog for me. No more worrying about who other bloggers are working with. No more comparing my content to their’s and certainly no more fan girling over the ‘big bloggers‘ who have ‘made it’. I recently found myself shying away from a blogger with a large following, declaring myself as ‘small fry’ whilst feeling rather inadequate.The truth is that we are all in the same boat. We are all baring our souls for a cause that we’re passionate about. There’s no right or wrong way of doing it, only the way that suits each individual best. My new approach to blogging has witnessed me wave goodbye to such ridiculous notions. I’m working as hard as everyone else and I should never forget that.
So fellow bloggers, if I could offer you one piece of advice it’s to do things your own way. Blog for you, to make you happy and to make your business work. Don’t compare yourself to everyone else, you are you for a reason and you need to remember that. There’ll always be someone around the corner to judge, but if you keep working hard with your head held high, you’ll lose sight of people like that in no time.