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Month: July 2017

Work Ethic – Seeing Mummy Work isn’t a Bad Thing

Work Ethic – Seeing Mummy Work isn’t a Bad Thing

Have you ever picked up your phone in front of your children and felt guilty? Have you ever spent time on your laptop, whilst your children have been in the same room? I have, a lot.

When I first started to call this writing lark my work, I tried my best to confine my working hours to when the kids were napping or in bed at night. It just wasn’t enough though. I’ve been self-employed for many years and I know what it takes to build a business. I know that an hour here and there will not suffice. Work does leak into the hours that my children are wakeful and do you know something? That’s OK.

At first I felt a tremendous amount of guilt. I thought that my children shouldn’t see me on my phone or laptop. They should have my undivided attention, no matter what. I was the one that chose to give up my business to bring up my children, who was I to decide to build up another in the mean time?

I know, ridiculous right? Building up a business is an amazing achievement. The first time I did it, I literally had no choice. It was sink or swim and do you know something? I swam, exceptionally well. I put in the time and effort it takes to build up an incredibly successful business and that’s something to be proud of.

So you see, it makes no sense that I’ve felt guilty for working in front of my children. It makes no sense that I’ve tried to shelter them from witnessing the hard work that goes into making something of yourself. Surely this is something they should witness.

I’ve come to realise that the hours I spend working on my blog, the effort I put into writing for some amazing causes and brands should be recognised, not pushed to the side. So what if mummy is on social media, it paid for the last holiday we enjoyed as a family. So what if mummy is constantly taking photographs, it paid the electric bill last month.

The most important thing to take from this is that having drive and ambition is an amazing trait and it’s one that should be celebrated. Your children seeing you on social media, writing blog posts and replying to emails just demonstrates what it takes to be successful in the world of work.

 

Looks like a working weekend with the troops 💻 #work #mygirls

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#Blogstravaganza #30

#Blogstravaganza #30

Hello and welcome to #Blogstravaganza!

Happy Friday one and all, I hope you’ve all had a great week! Thankyou to all you lovely linkers, it’s absolutely fabulous to have you join in each week!

#Blogstravaganza news! I’m on the look out for weekly guest co-hosts for #Blogstravaganza, if you fancy joining in drop me a line! 

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Working from Home – Three Lessons I Learned the Hard Way

Working from Home – Three Lessons I Learned the Hard Way

Working from home is the perfect set up for my family and I.  Doing so has so many positives for us. As is often the case though, things don’t always go according to plan. Here are three major lessons that working from home has taught me the hard way!

Life likes to get in the way –

I’m the queen of organisation. I have a diary and a set schedule that I try my hardest to stick to on a daily basis. I never have enough time, so the hours that I do get to work are valuable. The trouble with working from home without childcare is that I can plan and schedule as much as I like, but life always gets in the way! Being at home means I’m almost always the first port of call. Even if Dad’s at home, finding peace outside of nap time is a rare and wonderful occurrence! As I type this, I’m on a plastic phone to Peekaboo from the Twirlywoos. You get the picture.

You’re always at work –

There’s no break from work. I don’t get to leave the office on a Friday afternoon for a well deserved rest and I don’t get to shut the laptop, letting things wait until Monday. Don’t get me wrong I love what I do, but it’s definitely not for the faint hearted!

Having a work from home profession also means that a whole day can pass before I realise that I’ve not stepped out of the front door. For that reason planning a jaunt is essential, otherwise I really am always at work!

Early nights become a thing of the past –

Working from home whilst bringing up two young children, means that the majority of my working hours occur after they’ve gone to bed. It’s rare that I go to bed any earlier than 12am and if truth be told I could always fit a few more hours in. Luckily I accepted that sleep was a thing of the past when I had children. It’s amazing how our bodies adjust, that’s not to say an early night and a lie in wouldn’t be nice though!

 

 

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#WorkshopWednesday – How to Beat Writers Block

#WorkshopWednesday – How to Beat Writers Block

Welcome to #WorkshopWednesday, my weekly feature with a focus on all things blogging! Each week there’ll be tips, tricks and advice on how to get your blog running like a well oiled machine!

 

As a blogger and a freelance writer, I’ve had more than my fair share of writers block. There’s nothing worse than sitting down to work and having words fail you. I’ve even found that writer’s block can hit when you have topics in mind. Often we have a million and one ideas whirring around in our brains, but none of them seem to land on the page!

Fear not! I’ve developed some great ways to get the juices flowing when writer’s block kicks in. No more staring at a blank page and no more procrastinating on social media, hoping that inspiration will hit. Here are my top tips:

Take a break –

This might seem really obvious but when work has been hectic, taking a break can make all the difference. When I’ve had a busy week, it’s not unusual for me to run of words towards the end of it. Even if it’s just a stroll around the block, it’ll give you time to clear your head. Everyone needs a break sometimes, taking one will have you back on top form before you know it!

Change where you write –

If you’re usually cooped up inside when you’re working, why not move into the garden? If the weather is rubbish maybe try a local cafe. Taking yourself away from the norm can give your mind the freedom it needs to explore, a bit of people watching is good for the imagination too!

Get your inspiration from Google –

If’ it’s blog post ideas that you need, there are numerous title generators that can be found through a simple google search. The algorithms aren’t always on point, but they can help to kick-start your thought processes. Even a search for ‘blog post ideas’ can get you going. The internet is full of content that can be inspiring to writers and bloggers, you just have to find it!

Quote yourself happy –

I’m a huge lover of the quotes that circle the web. There are some really inspirational and motivational memes out there that people love to share. Do a quick search and have a read, some of them really give you the kick up the bum you need to get cracking!

 

Don’t let writers block hinder your progress, get typing!

 

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#BabyLove My Toddler Life – Children’s Book Review

#BabyLove My Toddler Life – Children’s Book Review

We love reading over here at The Tale of Mummyhood HQ. We have a library to rival the the best of them, so when we get the chance to review the latest children’s books we jump at the chance!  This week we were sent #BabyLove My Toddler Life, written and illustrated by Corine Dehghanpisheh, not only was it fun to read to our girls but it also sends an important message to us adults!

Corine Dehghanpishe is a award winning author and My Toddler Life is the second book in her #BabyLove series, after the first instalment My Social Life. My Toddler Life is based on a little boy who finds his mums phone and goes ahead and uses it without her say so. We’ve all been there right?  However when she explains quality time is for playing and having fun, not for using smartphones, it really hits home how much time we spend on our devices and how much we miss because of it!

 

Author & Illustrator Corine Dehghanpishe

 

Corine has illustrated the book beautifully. It’s bright and colourful, which is perfect for keeping the littles interested and wanting to find out more! I personally love that the book is so current, in that it’s based around our love for the hashtag and our technology. I also love that it relays the subtle message that even though we all use our tablets and phones, sometimes we just need to put them down and live in the present moment!

 

If you’d like the chance to win your own copy of #BabyLove My Toddler Life, all you have to do is enter our giveaway using the form below, please do take a peek at the terms and conditions…good luck!

 

 

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#MumisBest Guest Post – Pam’s Bake and Baby Blog

#MumisBest Guest Post – Pam’s Bake and Baby Blog

Welcome to another instalment of my new guest series #MumisBest!  #MumisBest is all about the ever-growing SAHM/working mum debate.  I really want this series to highlight that there’s no right or wrong way, but whatever works for you and you family.  If you’d like to take part do get in touch, I’d love to hear from you!  For now I will leave you in the hands of Pam’s Bake and Baby Blog!

Be yourself, Be happy.
When I got married at 24 I didn’t want a family, but as I approached my late 20’s I felt a pull to be a mother. Now at 32 I have a 3 year old son and a 1 year old daughter. For a while I couldn’t quite believe that this was my life. In fact shortly after having my second child I freely admit I had a ‘what the hell have I done’ moment!

I went back to work after 9 months maternity leave both times. I work in the rail industry and the option for flexi time or part time hours wasn’t an option, so I went back full time – 48 hours a week. I work 12 hour shifts days and nights and although it sounds horrendous it actually means that I get a lot of time off and more time with the kids than if I worked a mon-fri job. It means that we need less childcare as I work weekend and evening so husband is able to cover a lot of it.

Before I had children I would complain about the shifts, about how tired I was working such long hours. Now I don’t have days off. I have two children and a house to look after but much less time to deal with everything. I won’t lie it can be a struggle. And after my first child I took a while to get into a routine. There were tears, arguments and struggles. But now me and hubby are on the same page. He is super supportive of my choices and pulls his weight at home (most of the time!). I can’t stress how important this has been and understand this is not the same for everyone.

I shock a lot of people when I tell them that I enjoy working. When I was at home on maternity leave I felt like a huge part of myself was missing. I struggled to find a happy place and (this still makes me cringe to say but) I felt unfulfilled. Being a stay at home mum wasn’t for me. There I’ve said it. It is the hardest job I can imagine. There is no salary, no bonus for meeting targets and no appraisals to let you know how to improve.

I recently wrote a piece about ‘mummy guilt’ and what everyone thinks about everyone else. Working mums tend to look at stay at home mums with envy. They falsely believe that the mums at home are in their pjs until lunchtime, watching telly then doing incredible crafty, fun mum stuff with the kids every day. They are jealous that the stay at home mums get to attend school events and can seemingly do what they like. Stay at home mums look at working mums and are insanely jealous of their freedom. Freedom to have  a break, go for a pee in peace and get an actual lunch break. They would kill to be wearing something other than mum gear and to have something else on their minds.  Then you have the part time working mums. They have a bit of both sets of guilt. Guilty that they feel they aren’t able to give their all at work in the hours available. Guilty they aren’t doing enough at home. Guilt is a bitch!

We are also bad at hating on each other. In the last year I have heard stay at home mums say they can’t believe that a mother would want to work full time – why bother having kids? Is a statement I hear a lot. Working mums are similarly as bad at dishing out the insults, branding stay at home mums lazy. Why can’t we respect each other more!

Last year I had a breakthrough after I admitted that I enjoyed working. Instead of apologising for doing what was best for me, I am embracing it! Being a working mum makes me happy. But I have also came to the conclusion that we will never ‘have it all’. Whatever you choose then chances are you will have to sacrifice something. And that can be ok as long as you accept this.

To the working mums out there, feeling torn in two I salute you. To the stay at home mammas rocking motherhood, I salute you. To the mothers not having many good days with the littlies, they will get older and leave home someday so I salute you. To the mums waddling though with their eyes half shut I salute you!
There’s no need to be superwoman – that role is old! Be yourself, be happy.

Bio.

Pam Lorimer
32
Wife of 8 years-been with hubby for 15 years since i was 17,my first love!
Mother of a 3 year old boy and 1 year old girl.
I work in the rail industry and have done for 11 years now. Previous jobs include a chemical technician in a cheese factory, a mental health support worker and a waitress.
I started blogging last year as a way of getting some writing out there. I have written on and off since I was a teen but never seem to have enough time lately (never dedicate any time to it!) So the blog has been the perfect platform to express myself and I have met so many supportive men and women through it.

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Diggerland Yorkshire – A Fun Day Out for all the Family

Diggerland Yorkshire – A Fun Day Out for all the Family

Now that the Summer is upon us, we love nothing more than getting out and exploring. Our girls are at perfectly inquisitive ages and their enthusiasm and excitement when we go out for the day is amazing to see. So recently, when we were offered the opportunity to visit Diggerland in Yorkshire, we just couldn’t say no!

So how did we get on?

On arrival our girls were completely awestruck by the amount of diggers all in one place! There were so many fun things for them to do each way they turned, they didn’t know which way to run first! We’d read on the Diggerland website that they had a new range of Little Tikes play zones which sounded perfect for them, so we decided that’s where we would head to!

As soon as J and E saw the Little Tikes play zone, they couldn’t get in there quick enough. The littlest jumped straight into a cozy coupe and the biggest dived to one of the may water tables that surrounded her.  All of the water tables had different elements, with diggers, flumes, fishing rods and much more. It was a scorcher of a day, so they were a great way to keep the girls cool too!



It took us a while to convince the girls to explore the rest of the site, they were having more than enough fun where they were! With the promise of another visit before we left, we strolled around the rest of the park. There are so many rides to choose from! We were a little restricted due to our eldest daughters height, but at 0.8m this was to be expected. Nevertheless there are more than enough rides to keep children of her age happy. Hubs was in his element as he took her on the diggers to knock down skittles and to hook a duck, it was perfect father and daughter time. They absolutely loved the go carts too!


As well has having the outdoor rides, Diggerland also has an indoor soft play and picnic area. Our girls love soft play, so this was an added bonus and they couldn’t wait to go inside. This area offered the perfect end to our day out, with a bouncy castle to play on too which the kids loved!

Overall, we had a fabulous day out at Diggerland and we’ll definitely be returning. As our girls get older there will be so much more for them to do, as well as all of the activities they enjoyed on this visit! We all left with smiles on our faces and the girls were absolutely shattered, I call that a parenting win – thankyou Diggerland!

 

*We were given entry to Diggerland, Yorkshire in exchange for an honest review. All thoughts and opinions are my own, 

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#WorkshopWednesday – How to Instantly Increase your Productivity

#WorkshopWednesday – How to Instantly Increase your Productivity

Welcome to #WorkshopWednesday, my weekly feature with a focus on all things blogging! Each week there’ll be tips, tricks and advice on how to get your blog running like a well oiled machine!

 

Procrastination is one of the hardest things we battle when it comes to getting out heads down and working. There’s always something that seems more important at the time. Whether it’s errands that can usually wait or the devil that’s social media, we all have little habits that can seriously affect our productivity.  However, when we do finally knuckle down and get some work done, the feeling of satisfaction that comes with a good days work takes some beating!

As a work at home parent it’s far too easy for me to let procrastination get in the way, so I’ve developed a few little life hacks to instantly improve productivity…

Create a to-do list –

Creating a to-do list in priority order is a great way to improve productivity. Without organisation it can be easy for your workload to become overwhelming, so take some time to figure out what’s most important and what can wait until later.

Plan tasks –

Drawing up a quick plan prior to completing tasks, helps to walk you through the process step by step. It’s easy for our minds to wander as we stop halfway to think about the next bit, so have a direct route to completion avoiding all detours along the way!

Allocate time slots to complete tasks –

Allow tasks the time they deserve, no more and no less. Giving yourself these deadlines means you know that tasks will be completed, without eating into your time elsewhere.

Restrict social media usage –

We all love a bit of social media, but it’s one of the top ways we find to waste valuable hours when we should have been working. Restrict yourself to twenty minutes of social media per day, whether it’s in the morning to kick start your day or in the evening to unwind. Don’t while away hours reading about your mum’s, neighbour’s, dog when you could have been finishing the post that’s been sat in your drafts for the last week!

 

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Working from Home – Are you Ready to Take the Leap?

Working from Home – Are you Ready to Take the Leap?

Do you dream of working from home, but the possibility of it just seems a million miles away? Are you scared to make that jump from employed to self-employed, even though it’s what you’ve always wanted? Sound familiar? You’re in the right place! 

When I had children I had a vision of working from home, so that I could be the one to look after our girls. For us, nursery wasn’t an option and so I had to find a way to build a business inside of my own four walls. After a lot of blood sweat and tears, OK maybe not blood but you get the picture, I’ve managed to set myself up in professional blogging and freelance writing. I have a passion for my work, which is something I’ve never had before and I’m bringing in the bucks, helping to support my little family. I’m living proof that your dreams can become your reality!

It goes without saying that making the jump is daunting and incredibly hard work, but failing because you’re scared to begin is not the answer.

Thinking about biting the bullet? Here are some things that you should consider:

Passion and drive –

What makes you want to get up in the morning? Take some time to think about where your passions lie and what you’re good at. Let this positive thought process build your confidence and give you the lift you need to believe in yourself and your abilities.

Goals and achievements –

Set yourself goals. Where do you want to be six months, a year or even 5 years from now? Setting realistic targets will give you something to work towards. As you achieve your goals, the feeling of satisfaction will add fuel to your fire, giving you drive and confidence to achieve more.

Pros and cons –

Think about how working from home will affect your life. Changes to your work will also have an effect on the people around you. Therefore, it’s essential that you know you’re making the right decision before you go for it!

Scheduling your workload –

Working from home requires a strict schedule in order for your business to thrive. Take some time to work out a routine that fits in well around all other aspects of your life. Testing out your new routine before putting it into place is a great way to see how your lives will tick over, should you make the transition to working from home.

It’s also important to know that with a new venture will come setbacks, that’s life. The key to success though is to work through the tough times and learning from them, but don’t let them break your spirit!

 

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Kick Start your Career: Inspire – Blogging for Beginners eBook

Kick Start your Career: Inspire – Blogging for Beginners eBook

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I started my blog; The Tale of Mummyhood at a time in my life when I needed more. Being a stay at home parent wasn’t enough for me, I need to be in business to thrive. I have drive and ambition that I felt was slipping away from me, I needed a passion outside of being a mother.

I wrote Inspire – Blogging for Beginners, to help out anyone who wants to make a positive change in their life. Learning how to blog professionally takes an immense amount of work. Inspire – Blogging for Beginners cuts out the middle man, helping you to lay the foundations for a successful career in blogging with ease!

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