I’ve made no secret about how hard I find being a stay at home Mum. As much as I try my hardest day in and day out, sometimes I just need a break. I need time away from my precious cargo to breathe the air that adults breathe.
I used to think that I liked routine and organisation. Previously my workday followed a structured time table, I knew where I was going to be and at what time. When my day ended however, I became free. My evenings and weekends were my own.
At present my days are structured from start to finish. We wake up, we get dressed and I feed my brood. We play, we read then it’s snack time. We play some more, have dinner then nap. This goes on until bedtime then I start on the house. I sort and I clean ready to do it all again the very next day. The same routine and the same times. We all know how much babies like routine, so I stick to ours as much as possible to keep my babies happy.
Sometimes these days become tiresome. The days when I feel like I am constantly trying to keep two very grumpy babies from crying. When the washing pile is as high as the ceiling and the ironing isn’t far behind. The constant niggle at the back of my mind as I think about what meals I am going to make, and if they will get eaten. Entertaining children who’s minds are constantly on the go, and usually doing so on minimal amounts of sleep.
Not everyday as a SAHM is like this. Some days fly by with smiles and giggles, but that doesn’t mean that sometimes a break isn’t needed. This is when the parent guilt kicks in. As parents we can feel awful knowing that sometimes we need space from our own children. We struggle to comprehend why parenting doesn’t always come naturally.
We need to put a stop to parent guilt and accept that sometimes it’s OK, not to be OK. We need to realise that what we do is damn hard. Whether you stay at home, work-full time or part-time, being a parent is the most trying thing a lot of us will ever do. It’s amazing, rewarding and fulfilling. Whilst at the same time being tedious, relentless and wearing.
Taking a break, having time out to rest without feeling guilty for it can replenish the soul. It allows us return home feeling refreshed, ready to tackle what the monkeys have to throw our way.
Happy parents make for happy children. Taking a break from the humdrum of everyday life once in a while is OK – you definitely deserve it!