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Explaining Terrorism – They won’t be Young Forever

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As more details emerge from the London attacks, my heart sinks lower and lower.  The families of the victims are at the forefront of my mind.  I’m in a state of mourning, not only for the lives that have been lost but for the world that was.  Once again, it has been changed forever.

As I watch the news I find myself becoming anxious and upset, fearful of the what has become of our beautiful world.  Why should we have to walk down the street and worry about terrorism?  Why should I think twice about taking my girls to their capital city, to show them this amazing place full of excitement and history?

As new headlines emerge I am grateful that I don’t have to explain the situation to my girls.  I’m glad that they’re too young to understand and to worry about the bad things that happen in the world.  I’m only too aware though that they are growing up fast, that they won’t always be too young to understand.  One day they will see the news and have questions, they will want to know why one human being would do this to another.  What do I say then?  How can I possibly begin to explain it?

When attacks like this happen I spend my time worrying about the future of my children, of all our children.  What kind of world are they growing up in?  I’m again consoled by their ages, whilst they are young and under my roof I can keep them safe.  But they won’t be young forever.

Everyone who was involved in the attacks have shown us that there is good in the world.  The emergency services, the passers by who stopped to help and those who sadly lost their lives in a bid to save others.  All of these people have shown that for every ounce of bad in the world, there is so much more good.

So when the time comes that my girls will need their questions answered.  I will tell them that there are bad people in the world, but for every bad person there are so many good.  For every bad deed there are so many more amazing things happening all around them.

For now though I’m glad I don’t have to explain it and I’m glad my children go to bed at night without worrying.

 

 

 

 

 

56 Comments

  • Sinéad (shinnersandthebrood.com) March 25, 2017 at 7:39 am

    So many awful things in the world to have to explain. Explaining how the good offset the bad seems to be a good place to start. #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 25, 2017 at 4:11 pm

      It’s hard to know where to start isn’t it x

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  • Mainy - myrealfairy March 25, 2017 at 7:50 am

    It is very hard to explain it to children for me. I was so consumed with the news on the day it happened that I couldn’t keep up with the questions my boys had at first. They have unfortunately seen these acts before and are old enough to worry about them. Such heartbreaking scenes once again.
    Mainy

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 25, 2017 at 4:11 pm

      It really is heartbreaking, thanks for stopping by x

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  • Making Little People March 25, 2017 at 9:46 am

    I agree with you, it’s horribly sad. I don’t even know where to begin when my eldest asks why horses can’t fly, never mind why people would want to kill other people. Tough times. So we just have to plough on and make sure we bring our children up with great morals #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 25, 2017 at 4:12 pm

      So true xx

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  • Daydreamer mum March 25, 2017 at 10:02 am

    That’s the take I’ve tried with my youngest . Focus on the good people. Be of the good people. So hard to explain though like you say, how one human being can do this to another #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 25, 2017 at 4:12 pm

      Thankyou xx

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  • Aleena Brown March 25, 2017 at 10:22 am

    This is something that has been playing on my mind this week too. I’m so glad that I don’t have to explain it yet, mainly because what concerns me is the inevitability of different opinions. I have a different opinion to Mr C, and my parents have different opinions too. Aunts, uncles, cousins, friends and family all have different opinions, and while most of their opinions are formed perfectly reasonably, I think it will be so hard to explain to the children from an in-biased point of view. #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 25, 2017 at 4:14 pm

      It really will be hard, I’m not looking forward to the day I have to start trying to explain xx

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  • Mom Of Two Little Girls March 25, 2017 at 10:57 am

    It’s so true. I’m also glad I don’t have to explain it to them. It’s just too tragic and the future is so scary.
    #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 25, 2017 at 4:15 pm

      Xxx

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  • Briony March 25, 2017 at 12:59 pm

    It’s tough isn’t it. I’m also thankful L is too little too need an explanation just yet but I think I’ll go with honesty. That I don’t understand it all myself, I don’t understand how people can do this to each other but that we must do all we can to be kind and helpful and understanding. To not let fear of anything run our lives. But he hasn’t asked me the questions yet, so who knows how I’ll actually handle it. #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 25, 2017 at 4:15 pm

      I think honesty is always a good place to start! It’s so true that we shouldn’t let fear run our lives xx

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  • and Jacob makes three March 25, 2017 at 3:00 pm

    Totally agree. I don’t know how to explain these things to children. It’s so hard. #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 25, 2017 at 4:16 pm

      It really is xx

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  • Becki March 25, 2017 at 3:33 pm

    It is a scary world we live in, although I’m of the mind that, sadly, it’s always been this way. But with social media and our reliance on the TV for our news, we just hear about it more these days. They will not beat us, it’s hard not to be afraid but their assault on our day to day life, and values, will not make us live our lives differently. Love, and good, will win. #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 25, 2017 at 4:16 pm

      That’s so true, we do here so much more these days xx

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  • For the love of jars March 25, 2017 at 8:45 pm

    It’s difficult to know what to tell children. I think back to stories of my parent’s childhood and hearing of evacuations and war and it makes me realise that things haven’t changed so much. As you say, there will always be bad people in the world it’s part of life, it’s just up to us to bring our children up to be different, strong and good people. #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 27, 2017 at 6:27 am

      So true, thankyou xx

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  • Sarah surrey mama March 25, 2017 at 9:54 pm

    I also worry about what I’ll say to my girls when j do need to explain things like this. I think in this day and age it’ll be honesty as they’ll find out elsewhere so easily I’d prefer to explain it properly. #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 27, 2017 at 6:28 am

      That’s true, I think it’s better to come from us than elsewhere xx

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  • thesingleswan March 25, 2017 at 10:38 pm

    i am glad that Cygnet is only 2 and I don’t have to think about trying to explain terrorism to him yet. I know the time will come though. Thanks for this post. Pen x #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 27, 2017 at 6:29 am

      I’m in the same boat as you, I’m so glad they are still young. Thankyou x

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  • Lisa | Pass The Prosecco Please March 26, 2017 at 7:30 am

    It’s a scary world we live in, and social media makes it so much bigger and worse. #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 27, 2017 at 6:29 am

      So true x

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  • Sara Bussandri March 26, 2017 at 2:13 pm

    It’s a really tough one – we didn’t say anything to the children, but my eldest (aged 8 in Y3) was told at school, by his teacher. They are always told. And we never do. That’s probably all wrong, but how can you?? And yes, how can you think that wherever you are, as normal as your day might be, you never know. I keep thinking about those families who lost their loved ones… because they were ‘in the wrong place at the wrong time’, except that… why? It shouldn’t have been the wrong place and the wrong time. None of this makes any sense. And it’s so so scary for our children 🙁 #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 27, 2017 at 6:29 am

      It’s just so hard to get it right isn’t it! Xx

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  • Laura Beresford March 26, 2017 at 5:07 pm

    I waited until the morning to tell my older 2 (I didn’t want nightmares) but I told them what had happened and reassured them that this was a one off and they were safe. We talked about faith and tolerance, acceptance and love. Hate has no place in our lives. #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 27, 2017 at 6:29 am

      Here here xx

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  • tootingmamat March 26, 2017 at 5:58 pm

    Two weeks after we moved to Paris we had the November 13 attacks. We had to be up front with the kids they are of an age when they understand these things. Also schools were in lock down, all school trips cancelled, trips to the park with school stopped. It was pretty scary for the, And now there are armed police everywhere. Though it’s become part of our life here in Paris, we can’t allow them to stop us from living and valuing our freedom – that’s what I want my kids to understand. #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 27, 2017 at 6:30 am

      Oh that time was just horrific. It’s true that you can’t allow them to stop you from living your life xx

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  • mums army March 26, 2017 at 6:05 pm

    I couldn’t sleep the other night as I just kept thinking of the children waiting at the school gates for their mum who never came. I am such a worrier since having children and it’s heartbreaking and terrifying and at the moment I’m living in a bubble as my children are still so young I don’t have to try and explain it to them, as how on earth can you explain such a heinous act? Just have to hope that goodness will prevail xx #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 27, 2017 at 6:31 am

      I was the same, it’s just horrific xx

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  • sillydaddychronicles March 26, 2017 at 8:21 pm

    I know exactly what you mean! Having to explain to your kid why someone would do such a thing is a nightmare. When we were first talking about having kids. I was focusing on the awkwardness that would be the Sex talk! #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 27, 2017 at 6:31 am

      Ha, I’ve It even thought about that on! Another can of worms! Xx

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  • Muffin top mummy March 26, 2017 at 8:40 pm

    Luckily mine is only a baby so she has no idea. It’s something I think we have to be so careful with as we don’t want to scare our little ones, but they also need honesty. A delicate balance I suppose! #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 27, 2017 at 6:32 am

      It will be so hard not to frighten hem whilst trying to help them understand xx

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  • Anna March 26, 2017 at 9:02 pm

    It’s so hard to know whether to flower stuff up or tell it as it is. I wish I could whisk my children away to live in perfect little bubble sometimes #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 27, 2017 at 6:32 am

      Me too! Xx

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  • Biscuit Please Mummy March 26, 2017 at 9:25 pm

    I feel the same. I love all the ‘look for the helpers’ messaging I’ve seen this week. #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 27, 2017 at 6:32 am

      It seems like a good way forward xx

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  • Jo March 26, 2017 at 9:43 pm

    It is scary. With our boys, we acknowledge that there is bad but focus on the good, and what we can do to have a positive impact and help people. I do worry for their future, but I try to remember the quote “I life lived in fear is a life half lived”. #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 27, 2017 at 6:33 am

      Love that quote xx

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  • tinmccarthy March 26, 2017 at 10:05 pm

    as our daughters get older it gets harder and harder to strike a balance of education and honesty and protection. #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 27, 2017 at 6:33 am

      It really is, how are we supposed to get it right?! X

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  • Jakijellz March 27, 2017 at 8:36 pm

    I know what you mean. My Little Man is getting so much more aware of things that are going on. I swear he is 4 going on 14! I try to shield these kind of things from him for now. He doesn’t need to know about these kind of things at such a young age – but like you, the time will come when he asks the questions from things he’s seen or heard elsewhere and I need to be prepared for that. You have the perfect answer. One for the memory bank to use at a later date. Great post. #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 28, 2017 at 12:28 pm

      It’s so hard to know what to do isn’t it. I’ll shelter mine from it for a good while yet! x

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  • Amy @ Arty apple March 28, 2017 at 7:18 am

    Such a tricky one, knowing when to explain things properly and when to protect them from it. I think my kids are still too little but the day is coming…. x

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 28, 2017 at 12:27 pm

      It’s so difficult x

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  • Rachel March 28, 2017 at 7:44 pm

    I am also dreading that age when my son is old enough to ask questions. I read something the other day from a mum though, who said that she is completely honest with her kids about what is going on, in a really basic way without too many details. What she does though, is focus on the good…the citizens who helped out, and the emergency services who went above and beyond. That, I hope, will turn a terrible event into something more positive.
    #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 30, 2017 at 1:19 pm

      I think that’s the best way to handle it, so difficult though! x

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  • Mad Mommy March 28, 2017 at 9:12 pm

    Good job, kids are often forced to grow up and not be kids anymore. The longer you can protect them from the horrors of the world and allow them to maintain there innocence the better. #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 30, 2017 at 1:20 pm

      Totally agree! x

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  • Autumn's Mummy March 29, 2017 at 3:52 pm

    This was something I have been thinking about over the last week too. In a way I wish my LO could just stay innocent and unknowing forever and not troubled by the bad in the world. It’s true what you say though, there was so much more good than bad that day. The emergency services were amazing! #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood March 30, 2017 at 1:15 pm

      I wish they didn’t have to know about that sort of thing too! x

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