We live in a world where people are too quick to judge. As individuals, we work hard to make ourselves and our families happy. We make decisions that will hopefully be a benefit to us. Decisions that we feel are right and decisions that we have often turned over in our minds for a very long time before acting on them.
So why do people feel like it’s ok to judge? Why do people feel they have the right to an input?
Having children makes the whole decision process ten times harder. We don’t just have ourselves and/or our partners to think about. We have little people who rely on us entirely, we are responsible for their being. They are the centre of every decision that we make, big or small.
Going back to work is absolutely the right decision for our family. An unhappy mum does not make for a happy family, changes had to be made. I’m starting off working one day a week and who knows, if I like it I may increase them.
When I go back my children will be in the care of my husband, their dad. As we have two under two nursery costs would be through the roof, so this is the best situation for us and one that I think will benefit both my husband and our children.
What frustrates me most is feeling that I have to justify my decision and surrounding pressures mean I’ve spent months feeling guilty about wanting to go back. These days there is no ideal, we live in a modern world where it’s ok for a woman to want to work. It’s ok for her to be independent and be someone outside of her own four walls, being chained to the kitchen sink is a notion that belongs in the dark ages.
Even though there’s no longer an ideal, people still feel they have the right to judge. One situation does not take precedence over another. Some may work full-time and some may not work at all. Remind me again what it has to do with anyone else? I mean don’t get me wrong we all have an opinion, but that doesn’t mean we have to voice it. Believe me, when someone is excited about a decision they have made, they don’t want to hear your put downs. They don’t want to deal with your attitude and they certainly don’t want to feel judged.
So instead of making someone else’s life a little less brighter today, I put it to you to think about what you are saying. To take into consideration the feelings of the other person, try to understand things from their point of view. There are so many ways to do things, one single way is not going to suit everyone.
Smile and offer kind words. Be self-aware enough to recognise how your actions affect others. Be nice, it’s catching.
This week has been one of huge change for us all, and so we are heading into the weekend feeling more positive than we have in a very long time! We're all so excited about what 2017 has to bring, here's to positive change! It looks like this one found the perfect reflective spot to plan how she's going to rock 2017 too! #positive #change