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When Phases Drive you To Insanity… 

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This week has been a tough parenting week, all thanks to a dreaded ‘phase’ that Baby J has been battling since Monday.

Our usual bedtime routine runs like clockwork (ok not clockwork but as good as your going to get with a teething toddler).  This week however we’ve had tears, I’m talking massive tantrums that have made Baby J breathless and sick.  No amount of comfort, coaxing or toys that sing have helped. Baby J is usually asleep by 8pm but instead we have reached 10pm due to this fucking phase!


Parenting is not always hunky dory we all know that.  I don’t want this post to be a complete moan and whine about how hard a screaming toddler and newborn combination can be, but Holy Mother of God it’s been tough!  Some nights I have felt like I have been on the brink of insanity.  Maybe it’s the sleep deprivation?  Maybe it’s the hormones settling down after giving birth?  Either way I have felt like a complete crazy person 90% of the time!

Tonight though the fog has been lifted.  After a million whiney, moany and generally negative texts to the Mothership (sorry Mum) I managed to get my brain into gear and change a few things in the toddlers routine, and hey presto!  She sleeps!


Considering the glorious weather and the rising temperatures, I have changed her sleeping bag to a lesser tog, and changed her pjs from full length to short sleeves.  She’s also had an extra snack in between her tea and bedtime milk.  Throw in a nice warm bath and we had a sleeper for the first time in a very long week!

So after a much more positive evening and a nice relaxing bath myself here’s what I’ve taken from this #toughparentingweek:

  • Always believe in yourself – even when the chips are down you know you can do it.  You are capable and your baby needs you however stressful this phase may be!
  • Ask for help – if like me it’s not the easiest thing for you to do, ask anyway.  In our house a change is as good as a rest for both me and Baby J.  I return rested and she returns having had loads of fun with Nana in charge.
  • Know that it will pass – everyone says it, but it’s true.  Until the next one comes along granted, but then that one will pass too!


Aside from all of the moaning though we have also had some real highlights to this week.  The summer has finally begun!  We have enjoyed the last week of Hubs’ Paternity leave (thank the Lord!) with days out and family picnics, and tonight I have eaten before 7pm.

There is a god after all!

A Mum Track Mind

Keep Calm and Carry On Linking Sunday

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38 Comments

  • bridiebythesea May 7, 2016 at 1:30 pm

    This really resonates with me, as we’re going through the same thing. Sleepless nights after getting to a really nice stage where she only woke once a night. To go downhill from there is tough…and heading towards 13 months of sleep deprivation is even tougher. Your little list really comforted me and reminded me that this won’t be forever, thank you 🙂 xxx #fortheloveofBLOG

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    • thetaleofmummyhood May 7, 2016 at 4:40 pm

      Sorry to hear you are going through the same thing, it really can be tough! Things are never easy when you throw a huge dollop of sleep deprivation in the mix. I’m glad my post could help even just a little 🙂 hope your little one soon settles back into their routine.

      #fortheloveofBLOG

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  • Not Just Phoebe May 7, 2016 at 1:32 pm

    Sometimes those Phases can be hard, we have just hit 2 and its tough all over again! chin up and great advice, thanks for sharing #fortheloveofBLOG

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    • thetaleofmummyhood May 7, 2016 at 4:37 pm

      Hi there, thanks for your comment. It really can be tough, I hope you get through it quickly 🙂

      #fortheloveofBLOG

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  • Mrs T (@SothisismeMrsT) May 8, 2016 at 9:27 am

    it WILL get better I promise, mine are 3 and 8 and with the threenager we have turned a corner sleep and behaviour wise xx #KCACOLS

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    • thetaleofmummyhood May 8, 2016 at 10:17 am

      Thankyou! That makes me feel better, I wouldn’t change a think but it can be tough sometimes!

      #KCACOLS

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  • Savannah (@HowHesRaised) May 8, 2016 at 4:56 pm

    So sorry to hear you’ve had a tough week! It’s been the same here with my 13-month-old. He’s been cutting two teeth over the past 3-4 days, and I’m running on 4 hours sleep in the past 48 hours-which is exhausting! I literally cannot imagine having another little one to take care of right now, especially a newborn. Maybe tonight I’ll see the light at the end of the tunnel! Thanks for sharing x #KCACOLS

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    • thetaleofmummyhood May 8, 2016 at 7:10 pm

      Oh my 4 hours!! Bless you, it’s really tough sometimes isn’t it. I hope that your little ones teeth make an appearance soon , and that he becomes more settled.

      #KCACOLS

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  • A mum track mind May 8, 2016 at 9:05 pm

    I always wonder what it would be like to have a toddler and a new born and how on earth people manage the practicalities like bedtime – you deserve a medal in my opinion! I’d be having a bad day every day I think, so you are doing amazingly well to put your positive head back on so soon! Thanks for sharing your story, I know it will help other Mum’s feel less alone! #fortheloveofBLOG x

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    • thetaleofmummyhood May 9, 2016 at 10:53 am

      Bedtime can one of the more difficult times, especially when Hubs is working and both want a bottle at the same time! Thankyou for your lovely comments, I’m trying my best for my girls but sometimes I do have a meltdown! 🙂 X

      #fortheloveofBLOG

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  • ShoeboxofM May 9, 2016 at 4:10 pm

    The phase that is getting me at the moment is what ever my sibling has I want it too. Now.

    That’s bad enough but when coupled with the toddler insistence on exactly the right type of cup or the right position it can lead to a very testing time.

    Good luck and I hope your new sleep magic holds for now!

    #KCACOLS
    #fortheloveofblog

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    • thetaleofmummyhood May 9, 2016 at 6:58 pm

      Oh no, that’s something I have to look forward to then when mine get a little older! Ah the joys! Not that I would change anything 🙂

      #KCACOLS
      #fortheloveofBLOG

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  • Katy (@hotpinkwellies) May 12, 2016 at 6:47 pm

    I seem to repeat the ‘it’s only a phase’ to myself on a regular basis! Congratulations on breaking on through and getting some sleep! I’m with you on struggling to ask for help too – I’m terrible at this but I think we all have our limits! #KCACOLS

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    • thetaleofmummyhood May 12, 2016 at 7:18 pm

      I thought I’d won the lottery when she slept! Haha we have to keep reminding ourselves don’t we! I wish asking for help was easier but I always feel so guilty if I leave them with grandparents, but I suppose that is what they are there for and they love to help. Thanks for your comments 🙂

      #KCACOLS

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  • nipperandtyke May 12, 2016 at 7:34 pm

    Oh dear! These phases are special, aren’t they! It’s so hard to lose those few precious hours to yourself. Glad to hear she seems to be through it – fingers crossed.
    x Alice
    #kcacols

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    • thetaleofmummyhood May 12, 2016 at 7:40 pm

      Thankyou! She still seems to be sleeping well so I’m keeping everything crossed! It is nice to relax in an evening, rather than getting straight into bed after a screaming session!

      #KCACOLS

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  • Tracey @ One Frazzled Mum May 13, 2016 at 8:11 pm

    Well done for finding something to help get some sleep, there is nothing worse than not being able to get them to sleep is there! #kcacols

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  • Suburban Mum May 13, 2016 at 10:13 pm

    Sorry to hear you’ve had a tough week but happy that with a few changes you managed to get the toddler to sleep.

    We all go through these phases so you are not alone.

    Thank you for linking up to #KCACOLS and I hope to se me you back again on Sunday x

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    • thetaleofmummyhood May 14, 2016 at 9:09 am

      Thankyou for your comments 🙂 they come and go so quickly, but we definitely know about them when they are happening!

      #KCACOLS

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  • nightwisprav3n May 18, 2016 at 11:42 am

    I can completely understand that crazy you felt. My kids are five years apart but one thing I struggled with was the adjustment of having two little ones to spend my time with instead of one and at times, it took its toll on me but after getting over the initial adjustment I realized that I was just struggling to feel like I was spending enough time with my oldest child when I had a baby who needed more. I eventually figured it out but those first months took some getting used to. I love your tips for moms going through this right now! Popping over from #bloggerclubuk

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    • thetaleofmummyhood May 18, 2016 at 11:47 am

      Thankyou for your lovely comments. It’s tough isn’t it, and a complete learning curve. I’m getting there now but as you say the little one needs more time sometimes so keeping two children happy can be somewhat of a challenge!

      #BloggerClubUK

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      • nightwisprav3n May 18, 2016 at 2:19 pm

        Yes it is! You will find your grove though and so will your babies:)

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  • babiesbiscuitsandbooze May 18, 2016 at 12:11 pm

    Bless you sounds like a tough week! Glad you have turned a corner though. It’s so hard but you are totally right, you have to trust yourself and ask for help when you need it! You’re doing a great job, mumma. #BloggerClubUK

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    • thetaleofmummyhood May 18, 2016 at 3:34 pm

      Thankyou for your comments 🙂 asking for help is the hardest but I always feel better for a little break!

      #BloggerClubUK

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  • ljdove23 May 18, 2016 at 7:12 pm

    Haha yep, this is my life. And the worst part for us is that when one stage ends for one, it just starts for another! We have three years of every single stage, consecutively, and I am well and truly beyond insanity!!! Keep going, one day we will look back and laugh! #BloggerClubUK

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    • thetaleofmummyhood May 18, 2016 at 7:13 pm

      Wow three? I thought two consecutive years was enough! Nice to know we are all in this together! Thankyou for you comment, it made me smile 🙂

      #BloggerClubUK

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  • Motherhood IRL May 18, 2016 at 9:18 pm

    Sleepless nights are the WORST. We have had so many and we never really know what’s causing them. Line you, we just change a few little things and make tweaks here and there. What else can we do when the little people can’t tell us what’s vexing them? I know this sounds terrible, but it’s good to know that it’s not just us! #BloggerClubUK

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    • thetaleofmummyhood May 19, 2016 at 12:50 pm

      They are awful aren’t they! Life would be so my easier if they could tell us and we could fix it 🙂 it’s always nice to know others are in the same boat, it makes me personally feel much less alone! Thankyou for your comment 🙂

      #BloggerClubUK

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  • randommusings29 May 20, 2016 at 10:55 pm

    This sounds extremely stressful, I’m glad you’ve found a solution to it 🙂
    Debbie

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    • randommusings29 May 20, 2016 at 10:56 pm

      Forgot to say Thanks for linking up to #BloggerClubUK 🙂
      Debbie

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      • thetaleofmummyhood May 21, 2016 at 1:11 am

        We go there in the end! Thankyou for having me and for your comment 🙂

        #BloggerClubUK

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  • wordsofamom1 May 21, 2016 at 7:04 pm

    I think every parent experiences this! It is so hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel but somehow it always gets better! #justanitherlinky

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    • thetaleofmummyhood May 21, 2016 at 7:17 pm

      So true, we get there in the ends thanks for your comment 🙂

      #justanotherlinky

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  • Kate (@Newmummykate) May 23, 2016 at 9:21 pm

    I’m always telling myself things are just a phase, it will pass but when you’re woken up for the millionth time that night, jeez…. its hard. Sleepless nights are the worst. Hoping it all stays good for you! 🙂

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    • thetaleofmummyhood May 23, 2016 at 11:11 pm

      It’s awful when they aren’t sleeping isn’t it? I find myself googling ‘circadian rhythm’ at least once a day! Thankyou for your comment, I am replying at midnight during a night feed, haha!

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  • Something Crunchy Mummy May 27, 2016 at 9:34 pm

    I find the phases hard. Glad you got through it. Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky xx

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