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Positivity Breeds Positivity…

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Life passes us by in a flash.  We are always so busy, there are little people to keep alive, work needs to be done, homes need to be run and that’s just the start of it.  A lot of the time our lives are planned to the very last detail, in an attempt to make it run as smoothly as possible.  Especially on those days that just don’t have enough hours.

Mostly we get on with this just fine, we fly from one day to the next keeping our heads just nicely above water, but sometimes we can get stuck in a rut.  Sometimes the days start to pass in a blur, and we wonder where our direction has disappeared to.  These are the days that negativity can take over, and you know what they say – ‘negativity breeds negativity’.

After the birth of my second child my days quickly turned into constant blur, living from hour to hour, just getting by.  Life seemed to lose all significant meaning, tiredness took over and the daily grind felt almost impossible.  Three months in I found myself striving for change, I felt the need to lose the negativity that clouded my life, to become positive and continue to be positive whatever the weather.

Here are some tips on how to bring more positivity into your life, apply them and watch it grow!

  • Choose to see the good in life – lets face it life throws crap our way.  Some days it feels like we have more than our fair share of crap thrown at us, and its so easy to get bogged down in the rubbish.   Eventually we can end up feeling like nothing good ever happens.  This is not true.  Every day something good happens, even if it’s only a small thing – the sun shining, an extra ten minutes in bed (yeah right!), a simple ‘I love you’ from those we care about.  Focus on the good, even if its tiny, focus on it!

 

  • Eat right- now don’t get me wrong we all deserve a treat once in a while, but a healthy and balanced diet makes us feel better on the inside.  When our bodies feel good it’s easier for our minds to feel good!

 

  • Be thankful- look closely, see what you have.  Someone else may be richer, they may have a nicer car or a bigger house.  Who cares?  Look around you and take stock of your life, what you have is priceless, be thankful for it.

 

  • Know your triggers and take care of them- we all have triggers: actions, songs, situations, people.  Triggers affect how we think and feel and they can change our mind set before we’ve even realised its happened.  Know what your triggers are, learn how to take care of them and manage them.  If that song comes on, turn it off – you get the idea.

 

  • See the bigger picture- when bad things happen it’s frustrating and upsetting.  Often right in that moment it can feel impossible to deal with.  Take a step back and look at the bigger picture, does it really matter?  Will you care about this after a few days have passed?  Will it continue to affect you or is it momentary? The chances are by tomorrow you will be completely over it, save yourself  from being drawn into a negative cycle.  Step back and let it go.

 

  • Act positively- even if you aren’t feeling all that positive, act it anyway.  The more you act positive the more you will feel it and eventually that mind set will be your default.  Keep at it!

 

  • Smile- just smile.  Smiling instantly makes us happier, even if it’s just for a split second.  Keep smiling, seconds add up!

So there we have it, these simple but effective tips can help us shift those negative feelings that are harbouring in the crevices of our minds.  Let’s stop with the negativity and let positivity breed positivity!

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113 Comments

  • Happy Mummy July 24, 2016 at 6:53 am

    I try to be positive; love the time flies one!

    It’s eat right that I struggle with!

    #FortheLoveofBLOG x

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  • From Day Dot July 25, 2016 at 8:04 am

    I find the hardest thing is often who you surround yourself with, my family are naturally quite negative people at times and I’m always trying to be calm and positive so find their ‘glass half empty’ approach draining sometimes. All of your tips are great though, especially finding something to be grateful for every day, I need to try harder at that one 🙂 #bigpinklink

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 25, 2016 at 8:07 am

      That’s so true, being around positive people is a big factor too! Thanks so much for reading X

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  • theirishbabyfairy July 25, 2016 at 8:11 am

    Definitely words to live by. I especially like your last point, always find smiling is great, tricks the brain into happiness 😊 #bigpinklink

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  • bridiebythesea July 25, 2016 at 8:51 am

    This is so true and I try to do this too…I find that the days when I have had a awful night’s sleep, the negativity creeps in. However I am with you that eating right, smiling and knowing your triggers are so important 🙂 #bigpinklink

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 25, 2016 at 8:05 pm

      I’m exactly the same, when your tired it so hard to stay positive! Thanks for reading X

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  • jenieveve July 25, 2016 at 10:43 am

    I really like this – I’m feeling tired today and find it easier to ruminate on little things when I’m tired, but this is a good reminder to push past the negative and keep on aiming for positive! Great post, thanks 🙂 #AnythingGoes

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 25, 2016 at 8:06 pm

      It’s so difficult when you are tired though, when children are in the mix tiredness is a given! Thanks for reading X

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  • catherinestribs July 25, 2016 at 12:33 pm

    Such a lovely post!

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  • babiesbiscuitsandbooze July 25, 2016 at 2:19 pm

    This is excellent advice and all things that can be incorporated quite easily into your daily life if you want to. Although I struggle to eat healthily all the time as junk food makes me so happy! I adore that Roald Dahl quote it’s one of my favourited ❤️ Gorgeous post. #fartglitter

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 25, 2016 at 8:07 pm

      I struggle with eating right to, I do feel better when I stick at it though! Thankyou for your lovely comment X

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  • teacuptoria July 25, 2016 at 2:44 pm

    I love posts like this. I have been through lots of downs since having my boy 10 years ago and I’m actually just splitting up from my second husband. It would be very easy to slip into a negative spiral right now thinking ‘why me…why again?’ etc. but I’m determined not to let that happen. He is a very negative person and I actually feel like I’m moving towards a more positive, brighter future on my own…with my lovely boy. Positive thinking is huge! Tor x #fartglitter

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 25, 2016 at 8:08 pm

      Ah bless you in so sorry to hear that you are in the situation. I really hope you manage to get through to the other side and be strong for it! It’s so good that you are already feeling more positive, long may it continue! Thankyou so much for reading. Much love xx

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  • Mother of Teenagers July 25, 2016 at 5:02 pm

    There are some very wise words here. You are right when things are wrong life seems terrible. It takes effort sometimes to be positive but it is the only way forward to avoid being overwhelmed by negativity which is corrosive. Thanks for sharing! #MarvellousMondays

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 25, 2016 at 8:10 pm

      I totally agree, sometimes it can be so easy to get overwhelmed by negativity when it creeps up on us. It’s definitely worth putting in the time and effort. Thanks for reading X

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  • Back With A Bump (@backwithabump_) July 25, 2016 at 6:03 pm

    Some great quotes and so true. I always try and remind myself that this is the real deal, not the dress rehearsal, so we should do what makes us happy and not spend our life thinking what if. #marvmondays

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 25, 2016 at 8:10 pm

      We really should do what makes us happy! Like you say this is for real, and we only get one shot at it. Thankyou X

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  • Siena Says July 26, 2016 at 7:06 am

    Love this. A fellow positive soul over here 🙂
    Sometimes we do get so caught up in everything, its so good to sit still for a moment and breathe!
    #bigpinklink

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  • mackenzieglanville July 26, 2016 at 8:07 am

    Awesome post! I will pass this on to a friend of men as I was just giving hers similar advice. You say it so well here #TwinklyTuesday linked after you xo

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  • mrssavageangel July 26, 2016 at 8:15 am

    You’re right when you say negativity breeds negativity. Good advice for keeping on top of harder times in life! #TwinklyTuesday

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  • Lucy (@Lucy_at_home) July 27, 2016 at 7:16 am

    I agree with you – I think a lot of happiness is based on self-discipline and conscious decisions: turning off the sad music, choosing to act happy even if you don’t feel it, making yourself eat healthily. And once you start to do these things, you feel happier and it’s easier to keep doing them #bloggerclubuk

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  • nowmynameismummy July 27, 2016 at 7:20 am

    This is a great list! Sometimes on a bad day I just go out for a walk and smile and make idle chat with strangers. It cheers me up and hopefully them too!

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  • ourrachblogs July 27, 2016 at 7:25 am

    Yes, yes, yes. Positivity breeds positivity. Although, with me, instead of trying to stop negative thoughts which isn’t always easy (think of the pink elephant theory) I’ll just let them come and go and basically treat them with the contempt they deserve. Refusing to give them weight. If that makes sense. #bestandworst

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  • theirishbabyfairy July 27, 2016 at 7:29 am

    Back again with #bestandworst 😀

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  • nipperandtyke July 27, 2016 at 8:09 am

    Great advice for staying positive – I do sometimes find myself bogged down with things, so I will try to remember your wise words.
    x Alice
    #bestandworst

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  • Rachel (Lifeofmyfamilyandme) July 27, 2016 at 10:27 am

    Good advice! I make myself look around at the bigger picture and be thankful for what I have. If i didn’t i would constantly want more instead of appreciating what i have. #bloggerclubuk

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  • Abby July 28, 2016 at 5:56 pm

    What a lovely post and so true. It is sometimes so easy to go to the dark side (as I like to call it!!) but it achieves nothing, staying positive and doing all the things you mentioned is the way forward! #brilliantblogposts
    Abby at http://www.peppermintcove.com

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  • themotherhub July 28, 2016 at 8:25 pm

    Great post , I think we have to remind ourselves to be positive , otherwise you can slip into Moaning. I read a tip somewhere about keeping a compliments diary of nice things ppl have said about you . Im going to start – it might be a slim diary tho ! #brillblogposts

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  • helen gandy July 29, 2016 at 4:10 pm

    I absolutely agree about negativity breeds negativity and it can be very hard to get out of that rut. I really enjoyed reading your posts with all the quotes, especially the Roald Dahl one, such a lovely quote. Thanks for linking up to the #bestandworst and would love you to stop by again!

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  • helen gandy July 29, 2016 at 4:12 pm

    I don’t think my last comment posted, wahhh! I agree totally with negativity breeding negativity. I really enjoyed reading the post, especially with the fab quotes – I especially love the Roald Dahl one, such a fab quote. Thanks for linking up to the #bestandworst and hope you’ll stop by again!

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  • wendy July 30, 2016 at 8:04 am

    I love this, great advice..I totally agree that postivity breeds positivity and the same goes for negativity. There are some members of my family who always seem to be focusing on the negative, I’m a happy person but sometimes I feel so drained after spending too much time with them. I love the smiling trick and focusing on the small things xx #bestandworst

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  • Memeandharri July 30, 2016 at 9:25 pm

    I love this – I am a positive person but I have to admit this year has been tough and at times felt that the world has been against me, but then I look at my girls and oh I feel like the luckiest girl in the world. #marmondays #kcacols

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  • nipperandtyke July 31, 2016 at 6:54 am

    I’m back from #kcacols x

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  • chocolatepages July 31, 2016 at 12:57 pm

    Lovely positive inspiring post. I love all the sayings. I think sometimes, triggers are harder to avoid than others, but still to be thankful for what you do have is always a good way to think.
    Amanda. #kcacols

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  • mumisthewordblog July 31, 2016 at 3:20 pm

    What a good little post to boost our spirits. Life throws some curveballs sometimes but you’ve done some good points go follow. I would love to have a great diet but truth but told it could improve a little haha, definitely made me motivated to change this in my life #kcacols

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  • Upside Mum July 31, 2016 at 8:21 pm

    You are so right, it’s very important to be positive. I try to do this in situations I face. It’s not always easy, or possible, but it’s important to try. #KCACOLS

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  • alex July 31, 2016 at 8:51 pm

    boy do I agree with your tips – you’re definitely right about it being the little things which add up to a big smile. And, I’d never thought about a song being a trigger before but you’re right – there are definitely songs which put me in bad moods because of negative memories attached to them! thanks for that #KCACOLS

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  • Lisa@IntoTheGlade August 1, 2016 at 1:34 pm

    I love the Roald Dahl quote and I think he is spot on. We always talk about our positive pants in work, they help too ha! A great post with some brilliant reminders xx #mg

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  • OddHogg August 1, 2016 at 8:53 pm

    For me – choosing to see the good is the hardest but I really do try! Thanks for sharing, a great post for making you think #KCACOLS

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  • tammymum August 1, 2016 at 9:23 pm

    Yes yes and yes you’re right here. It can be hard at time but focusing on the positives remembering the good bits of the day and to keep smiling can really do us all the world of good. Definitely words of wisdom to keep with us. Thanks for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you can come back again next Sunday.

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  • mumof3 August 2, 2016 at 10:11 pm

    These look like simple, effective tips to try and practise every day. I’m sure they help to make a difference – thanks for sharing. #KCACOLS

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  • nsalama1 August 3, 2016 at 1:43 am

    Love this! It’s so important to keep a positive attitude even when things are difficult. Thanks for the amazing reminder. #KCACOLS

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  • mackenzieglanville August 3, 2016 at 7:40 am

    I love this! I was chatting with my 12 year old a lot about this lately and how to look at the positives and know that the storms in life will pass! Really fab post! Thanks so much for sharing it with me at #mg too xoxo

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  • One Messy Mama August 3, 2016 at 12:49 pm

    This is such a great reminder! We all need one every know and then! Thank you! #KCACOLS

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  • Over Heaven's Hill August 3, 2016 at 8:38 pm

    I’m a naturally positive person always trying to look on the bright side while my husband is a pessimist and watches for the possible problems in everything… I think we balance each other well #KCACOLS

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  • thesingleswan August 3, 2016 at 9:09 pm

    So true that positivity breeds positivity and negativity breeds negativity. I love the quote from Roald Dahl – it is one of my favourites. The images by Quinten Blake in the book the Twits are lovely too. Pen x #KCACOLS

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  • Lisa Pomerantz August 7, 2016 at 2:46 pm

    Great quotes to keep top of mind! Thanks for sharing these! I love them all! #bigpinklink #fartglitter #mg

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood August 9, 2016 at 12:01 pm

      Thanks for reading! x

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      • Lisa Pomerantz August 10, 2016 at 8:16 am

        I love positivity! 😘✨

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        • The Tale of Mummyhood August 20, 2016 at 11:29 am

          Me too, thanks for stopping by! x

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  • Lizzie firstooth August 7, 2016 at 6:46 pm

    Such a lovely post. I really wish everyone thought this way, the world would be a wonderful place. But we can only start with ourselves x #mg

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood August 9, 2016 at 12:01 pm

      So true. Thanks for stopping by x

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  • osem48 August 19, 2016 at 4:03 am

    I couldn’t agree more. Sometimes being positive at all times is the hardest thing to do. Being positive is a choice. I’m also a mom blogger. I found your post through Instagram. I wrote a post on the same subject! 😄

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood August 20, 2016 at 11:28 am

      Great minds hey! Thanks so much for stopping by x

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  • anklebitersadventures February 12, 2017 at 7:11 am

    I always try and stay positive !! Can’t stand negativity ! Love this post! #blogstravaganza xx

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 5:20 pm

      That’s such a great way to be! Xx

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  • kerry February 12, 2017 at 8:40 am

    Great post, I find it hard when I’m with a certain family member, I like to call her a social vampire as she sucks every once of positivity out of me, and within ten mins of her company I’m a different person! I find the smile always works as its infectious! keep smiling people!

    #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 5:20 pm

      Ah I know what you mean, I think we all know someone like that. People like that certainly aren’t easy to be around! I’m all for the smiling! Xx

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  • Making Little People February 12, 2017 at 8:43 am

    This is so important. Especially when your in the throes of young children being tricky. All about the smiles! #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 5:21 pm

      Here here, young children definitely test us in that respect! Xx

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  • Samsam - Simply A Mama February 12, 2017 at 8:45 am

    Great tips, it is so easy to let negativity creep in. I started avoiding most triggers that I know will ruin my mood #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 5:21 pm

      It’s good that you know them and are able to avoid! Xx

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  • Left Back February 12, 2017 at 8:48 am

    I love positive posts like this #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 5:21 pm

      Thankyou! X

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  • Sinéad (shinnersandthebrood.com) February 12, 2017 at 8:56 am

    Lots of lovely positivity there for a Sunday morning! I love that Roald Dahl quote. We all need posts like this sometimes! #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 5:21 pm

      It’s one of my favourites too! Xx

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  • softfuzzygunddog February 12, 2017 at 9:22 am

    I think I do ok with staying positive, most of the time. But you’re so right about there being triggers! …So how do I mute Hubby? Lol
    #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 5:22 pm

      Haha that made me laugh!! Xx

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  • Mom Of Two Little Girls February 12, 2017 at 9:22 am

    Positivity and the power of the mind are both surprisingly powerful.
    #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 5:23 pm

      So true xx

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  • and Jacob makes three February 12, 2017 at 9:48 am

    This is so true. It’s easy to get stuck in a negative rut. Good tips on how to manage it #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 5:23 pm

      Thankyou xx

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  • Helen February 12, 2017 at 9:54 am

    I love this post – though I like to think I try to see the positives, it’s important to be reminded of all the things that surround us and make us happy 🙂 #blogstravaganza

    Helen x

    http://www.treasureeverymoment.co.uk/

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 5:23 pm

      Thankyou! Xx

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  • mommyandmadness February 12, 2017 at 9:54 am

    I think it’s really important to remember that we are in charge of our own happiness. If something makes us miserable we have the power to change it, and if we can’t/don’t want to change it, then we need to accept it. Also surrounding yourself with good people, not the sort who leave you drained and miserable! #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 5:23 pm

      So true! Xx

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  • Autumn's Mummy February 12, 2017 at 2:07 pm

    I love this post – I am naturally quite a negative thinker, but I do notice I seem to get better results with things when I’m positive! #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 5:24 pm

      It’s amazing what a difference it makes, it’s not always easy though! Xx

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  • mindyourmamma February 12, 2017 at 2:21 pm

    I couldn’t agree more and love these quotes! I talk about positivity and gratitude on my blog too! Thank you for sharing! #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 5:24 pm

      Thankyou! Xx

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  • letyourlightshinemummy February 12, 2017 at 3:12 pm

    Being positive is so important. Faith play a big part for me personally. I am thankful for for my family, my friends and many more things. Sure sometimes it’s hard to feel like this on tougher days, but faith gives me the strength I need. Thanks for sharing this xxx #Blogstravanganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 5:24 pm

      Such a lovely comment, thankyou! Xx

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  • itsmeanniebee February 12, 2017 at 3:15 pm

    Yes yes! I love this. Last year i really focussed on thinking positively and being happy and life was so flipping great. Unfortunately I let myself get sucked in to a negative way of thinking again and have struggled to get back into the swing of it. Some people in my life just LOVE being negative and sapping the joy out of life (MiL I’m looking at you!).
    I’ve made us a happiness jar and we’re back on the path of positivity! #fortheloveofblog

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    • itsmeanniebee February 12, 2017 at 3:19 pm

      #blogstravaganza even oops.

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      • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 5:25 pm

        Haha thankyou! Xx

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 5:25 pm

      Haha we all have one of those, I’m naming no names! It’s so easy to get caught up though especially with certain people around! Xx

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  • Mummy Bee February 12, 2017 at 5:15 pm

    I really needed to read this today I have been feeling quite negative lately and this post has just reminded me how to take a step back and try to be positive and see the positive in things #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 5:26 pm

      Ah I’m glad it helped xx

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  • mums army February 12, 2017 at 5:44 pm

    Very wise words, I dont think it is an accident that they say positive people live longer and are healthier as it seems the power of the mind really is a force to be reckoned with. I try and keep positive most of the time, I have the odd wobble moment here and there (usually during a Vom/Poo bug) x #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 9:06 pm

      Ah a lovely comment and the bugs definitely aren’t a winner! Xx

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  • PassTheProseccoPlease February 12, 2017 at 5:57 pm

    So glad to read this, on a mega positive thing from tomorrow, back to proper eating and positive things! #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 9:06 pm

      Ah bless you! I’m on the eating thing too, we’ll have to stick together on that one! X

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  • Daydreamer mum February 12, 2017 at 6:03 pm

    This just what I needed to read today after a rubbish weekend !!! Brand new week tomorrow! #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 9:06 pm

      New day, new start! Xx

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  • Digital Motherhood February 12, 2017 at 8:04 pm

    Some good quotes here – I agree it’s important to try and stay positive! #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 12, 2017 at 9:07 pm

      Thankyou! Xx

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  • Nicole February 13, 2017 at 12:00 am

    All valid points here – the triggers, oh yes, recognising and avoiding them makes such a difference! Great post and quotes I’m going to pin up in my mind’s pinterest board:)
    #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 14, 2017 at 1:50 pm

      Thankyou! xx

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  • Mainy - myrealfairy February 13, 2017 at 9:26 pm

    Youre right that we should be thankful, I totally agree. Also to manage our own triggers, we all know pretty much what they are and it’s easier said than done but it’s always worth a try to steer clear of those flash point situations.

    Mainy

    #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 14, 2017 at 1:47 pm

      Thankyou xx

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  • Helen @Talking_Mums February 14, 2017 at 1:31 pm

    I definitely agree that positivity breeds positivity and the Roald Dahl quote is one of my favourites. We can get lost in the fog sometimes but thinking positively and smiling is a must x
    #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 14, 2017 at 1:45 pm

      Thankyou xx

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  • Peachy February 14, 2017 at 5:37 pm

    It’s really hard to eliminate all those triggers. Sometimes the people in your life are the ones that bring negativity in and if they are your family it may not be possible to cut them out. Sometimes you have to learn how to close your mind to them. #Blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 15, 2017 at 1:45 pm

      Very true! xx

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  • Mrs Mummy Harris February 15, 2017 at 8:12 pm

    a glass or ten of wine can really help too hahahaha #blogstravaganza

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 15, 2017 at 8:29 pm

      Here, here! xx

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  • Mad Mommy February 17, 2017 at 4:29 am

    I needed to read this, I am definitely stuck in a negativity rut, #blogstravaganza #fortheloveofBLOG #KCACOLS

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    • The Tale of Mummyhood February 18, 2017 at 1:12 pm

      So glad it helped xx

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