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Becoming a Stay at Home Mum and Getting Used to It


Every mum in the world is different, some work and some don’t. Full time, part time, not at all. Neither is right and neither is wrong, we all do what we feel is best for our families.

We decided that I would become a stay at home mum to our daughter(s) and so in my fortieth week of my first pregnancy I downed tools, to embark on my new life of luxury! (Cue laughter).

For the record I love being a stay at home mum, I certainly wouldn’t change my
circumstance and I really believe I’m lucky to be able to bring the baby up full time. Here’s how it panned out for us:

  • The bit of time you have off before you give birth is deceiving, I sunbathed, shopped, napped and lounged in front of the TV to whatever box set I could find on Netflix.  Heaven.  Enjoying this bit was crucial because when our little cherub arrived, Netflix box sets turned into a thing of the past, I sleep with one eye and ear permanently open and in the beginning all I shopped for was nappies (and chocolate!!).
  • After a while the holiday period stopped.  I suddenly went from working all hours to working none.  This really made me question my identity.  It took a while, but for me it was all about finding a new one!  Finding out who I am, and who I want to be as a mum has been the most empowering feeling.  I’m in charge day to day, and eventually I took the reins and found my own way!
  • Learning to give myself a break was one of the hardest bits (and still is sometimes).  Realising that I’m not superhuman and that I need to take a breather sometimes, I think is an essential!  Getting my swollen pregnancy ankles up is a given to make sure I can at least stay halfway to being supermum!
  • Enjoying it!  I’m slowly learning that for me taking even the smallest bit of enjoyment out of the hardest of situations (the cuddles you get at three in the morning, after a projectile vomiting episode makes my Husband jump right out of bed, moving quicker than I ever thought him capable!) makes Mummy Hood my calling!

Just being there to see her, to be with her to see all of her firsts.  To laugh and to cry with her.  Anything and everything, because I’m there and for me when it comes to the crunch, that’s all that really matters!So when number two child comes along in a couple of weeks time and things start to get tough,  I’m going to look back at this post just to remind myself that I have learnt how to cope in the last ten months.  Even if in my sleep deprived, post-natal state I don’t believe for a second that I have!





  • laurenmarie1115 March 29, 2016 at 10:02 pm

    I just returned to work and my son is 2.5 months old. So wishing I could be a stay at home mom but unfortunately its not feasible at this time. Enjoy it!!!

    • thetaleofmummyhood March 29, 2016 at 10:07 pm

      Thankyou, I really am lucky, but we all have different circumstances and we have to do what’s best 💕💕

  • Annie April 10, 2016 at 6:35 pm

    I’m a stay at home Mum to 3 due to being made redundant while pregnant with my youngest (who’s now 9 months) and I absolutely love it. Money is unbelievably tight and we’re all having to go without so much but I’m able to do all the school run for my oldest 2 and not miss any sports days, school plays etc so they’re happy to miss out on material luxuries to have me there for them. Some things are more important than money! I do miss the independence of having a job and a bit of space and time for myself but I wouldn’t change things for the world. Hope you enjoy it as much as I do (most of the time! 😜) xx

    • thetaleofmummyhood April 10, 2016 at 6:40 pm

      I feel the same, sometimes a bit of independence would be nice but for me it’s worth giving it up 😊 xx

  • The Pramshed May 4, 2016 at 8:12 pm

    Firstly congrats on the near arrival of baby number 2 lovely! And secondly congrats on making the decision to become a SAHM. No decision is easy, and as you say it needs to be what works best for your family. I’m going back to work really soon (in 7 weeks) but I can really relate to some of your points – even after having a year off I do feel like I’ve lost my identity, and blogging has helped to bring it back and to find another part of me. And I am also so bad at giving myself a break, I am forever on the go, there is always something to do, I rarely have time or give time for myself. You have the best job ever, being with your children every day, treasure that 🙂 Thanks so much for joining us at #fortheloveofBLOG, hope you come back next week. Claire x

    • thetaleofmummyhood May 4, 2016 at 8:15 pm

      Thankyou for your lovely comments 🙂 and thankyou for the invite to #fortheloveofBLOG. I had no clue how to link up beforehand so have learnt a lot! Zoe x

  • Something Crunchy Mummy May 20, 2016 at 10:49 pm

    I’m a stay at home mum and it’s very rewarding so terribly hard and I find myself trying to justify my existence sometimes. Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky x

    • thetaleofmummyhood May 21, 2016 at 1:09 am

      So true 😊 Thankyou for having me and for your comment 🙂


  • Sarah April 19, 2017 at 5:33 am

    I whole heartedly agree with the adjustment of identity bit. I am on my second ‘career break’, neither of which were planned, but necessary due to circumstances. Both times difficult mentally and financially but as you say, we do what we have to.

    I love blog reading over morning coffee. A new habit.


    • The Tale of Mummyhood April 19, 2017 at 12:27 pm

      We certainly do 🙂 thanks for stopping by x


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