Acceptance…

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I think that in a lot of situations, whatever it may be, acceptance is usually the key.  Accepting things, people, situations even lifestyles can often make our lives feel far less uneasy than if we are constantly trying to change things.  Even though the reason we try to change things is often because we think it will be better. Sometimes accepting that actually things are ok just the way they are can have an equally reassuring and humbling effect.

Personally I struggle with the whole acceptance thing,  I am always looking too far ahead.  I am guilty of saying ‘it will be ok when…’ or ‘if this changes everything will fall into place…’.  Sometimes taking stock of where we are now and what we have, can make us realise that actually we aren’t in such a bad place right now.  Things could be a hell of a lot worse.  I spend time reminding myself of what I have: a loving husband, two happy and healthy children and a stable roof over our heads.

So why do I feel like this isn’t always enough?  I wanted to become a stay at home mum and Hubs works long, hard hours so that this is possible.  My mind wonders though and I often think about returning to work, would this give me more purpose?  I know however that this is irrational, I have purpose and I love that I am able to bring up my children full time.  I waver between being so sure that I am on the right track, to thinking that we would all be better off as a family if I went back to work.  This is where I need to accept that what I do for my family is enough.  I need to accept that just because I don’t work, I still have purpose.  I need to accept that my identity as ‘Mum’ is enough and is a vital part of keeping my family happy.

Most of the time I feel extremely lucky to be able to stay at home,  I know this is not for everyone,  and believe me I can totally understand why.  Most of the time I can spend each day appreciating all of the small things.  This is because I do believe that if we take note and appreciate the small things, these make up our bigger picture and make it bright and happy.

So my aim of the day is to learn acceptance.  Accepting our lives for what they are and appreciating all of the small things.  Easy surely?

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44 Comments

  • Jakijellz July 5, 2016 at 3:20 pm

    I think we are all guilty of this. I know I am. Very often I think ‘if only’ this or ‘if only’ that… I have a quote on the wall on my landing I try to make myself read everyday “Happiness is not having the best of everything but making the best of everything you’ve got…” It’s so true. But we are only human. Lovely post. #TwinklyTuesday

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 5, 2016 at 6:15 pm

      Ah I love that quote, and it’s so true! Thanks for reading 🙂

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  • Mummy in Training July 6, 2016 at 8:24 am

    I love that quote too. I struggled with anxiety after having my son and I really feel I only managed to kick it once I had fully accepted it so it is so important on so many levels. Great post xxx #bestandworst xx

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 6, 2016 at 8:47 am

      Ah bless you it can be tough can’t it, it really is important. I hope you are feeling much better now. Thanks for reading 🙂

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  • absolutely prabulous July 6, 2016 at 9:06 am

    I think the not accepting and constantly questioning ourselves is a Western thing. When I think of Eastern cultures (not all of them I do realise) the whole gratitude and acceptance thing seems more prevalent. Definitely agree with you on accepting and being happy with what you have. Teach my kids that all the time. #BestAndWorst

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 6, 2016 at 9:15 am

      It’s sounds like we could learn a lot from them! It such an important thing to teach our children I think. Thanks for reading 🙂

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  • threedifferentdinners July 6, 2016 at 9:57 am

    I read a lovely poem called ‘She Let Go’…very similar idea….

    “It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad. It was what it was, and it is just that.”

    Great post x

    #BloggerClubUK

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 6, 2016 at 9:59 am

      Oh wow, I will definitely be looking that up! Thanks for reading 🙂

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  • bridiebythesea July 6, 2016 at 6:43 pm

    I am guilty of this too, but you are right – we need to accept and be happy with how things are now. It’s difficult as it always seems like the grass is always greener on the other side but I believe accepting things as they are makes for a happier person – fab post x #bloggerclubuk

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  • absolutely prabulous July 6, 2016 at 9:29 pm

    aaaand I’m back from #bloggerclubuk !

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  • Louise (Little Hearts, Big Love) July 6, 2016 at 11:49 pm

    Being a stay at home mum is hard and I can certainly relate to a lot of those same feelings – accepting that what you do for your family is enough and accepting your identity as “Mum.” It’s so hard sometimes to accept things for what they are and not wish for them to be different – I know I’m certainly guilty of doing so but I know that life feels so much less stressful when I do let go of the things I can’t change.

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 7, 2016 at 6:57 pm

      That’s so true, and like you say I think the key is letting go when we can’t change them things anyway! Thanks for reading 🙂

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  • Sarah Howe (@RunJumpScrap) July 7, 2016 at 5:41 am

    This is such a hard thing to do but like you I try really hard. The key in mindfulness isn’t it? Being really in every moment and not thinking about the next thing. Life does become so much more enjoyable. Thanks for sharing with #bestandworst x

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 7, 2016 at 6:58 pm

      Truth be told I am currently working my way through a Mindfulness book! I think that helps a lot! Thanks for reading 🙂

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  • Jessica Foley (@ModernMomsLife) July 7, 2016 at 11:32 am

    Sometimes it’s hard to turn off those thoughts of “if only…” I’m glad to hear you’re working on being happy in the here and now. I struggle with this too – I do work and I have the opposite feeling “If only I could be home with my kids” I think it happens no matter how hard you try to avoid it. Good luck – and great post! 🙂
    #stayclassymama
    ~Jess

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 7, 2016 at 6:59 pm

      I think it’s only human isn’t it? But it would be nice if we didn’t think like that! Thanks for reading 🙂

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  • crummymummy1 July 7, 2016 at 1:22 pm

    There’s been lots of life lessons on #bestandworst this week! This gave me food for thought #bestandworst

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  • min1980 July 7, 2016 at 3:03 pm

    I think we all feel this way sometimes. The grass is always greener, but it sounds as though you recognise this. I knew I wanted to work, and not stay at home, but sometimes it’s easy to envy those on the other side as there are advantages and disadvantages in both. #StayClassyMama

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 7, 2016 at 7:00 pm

      That’s so true there are pros and cons to everything! Thankyou for your comment 🙂

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  • wendy July 8, 2016 at 5:27 pm

    Love that quote. I often wonder would my families life be any better if I went back to work or would it make me feel like I had more of a purpose. Although it’s hard sometimes I do feel incredibly lucky to be able to stay at home and look after my son. Very thought provoking post #bestandworst #bloggerclubuk

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 8, 2016 at 7:32 pm

      There is just no easy answer is there? I suppose that’s what makes us human! Thanks for reading 🙂

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  • Mummy & the Mexicans (@ruthhilbrown) July 9, 2016 at 1:31 pm

    Of course it’s good to try to change things to make them, or us, better, but without losing sight of what you already have and being grateful for it. It’s so important to take time just to enjoy the moment you’re in and things just the way they are. #FortheloveofBLOG

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  • Mrs Morgan Plus 3 July 11, 2016 at 10:19 am

    I do this all the time! What if and when this happens etc etc… I need to stop xx #fartglitter

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  • discombubulated July 11, 2016 at 7:58 pm

    Yep we all need a lesson in this. I think being at home with the kids is such a tough job and also just the best. No wonder we’re confused and questioning things. I work a bit at home because I’m lucky enough to have the kind of work experience that allows me to, but that’s a struggle and a half because I’m constantly torn between what needs doing and what my two year old needs and what I want to do with work. Some days are better than others. Accepting that is half the battle too! Great post, thanks for sharing it. #fartglitter

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 11, 2016 at 8:12 pm

      Ah bless you it really isn’t easy is it! Especially with a two year old, I’m told it gets easier! Thanks for reading 🙂

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  • The Mum Project July 11, 2016 at 8:01 pm

    This could not have come at a better moment. I’m literally sitting here with my 7 month old son sleeping on me regretting that I went back to work so early, I need to accept the decision I made and by happy with it. Although I didn’t get to see him as often as I would if I were a stay at home mum, the moments I do have with him are precious and I make sure to savour every minute of them. I think the grass is always greener so acceptance is key to being happy. I’m so impressed that you are doing this with your own life, I am going to start doing the same. Such a great quote! Thank you for the inspiration and sharing with #StayClassyMama!

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 11, 2016 at 8:13 pm

      Ah bless you, we do what we feel is right for us and our families though. Like you say the grass is always greener, even when often it’s not as we all have such different circumstances. Thanks so much for reading and for your lovely comment 🙂

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  • turningupindevon July 11, 2016 at 9:07 pm

    This post really made me think because I’m not great at acceptance but I think I’m getting better at it. I agree that being mindful and trying to live more now than in the future can really help which is something I’ve found easier with age. #fartglitter

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  • Mama, my kid doesn't poop rainbows July 13, 2016 at 7:01 am

    Great message but I think sometimes we need to change things for the better- otherwise how would there be progress? I love the AA chant/prayer about accepting what you can’t change and being strong enough to change what you can . I agree looking for the little happy moments can get you through the day though.
    #fartglitter

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 13, 2016 at 7:56 am

      I think that in this case, not in all, that acceptance would bring change in itself. Acceptance is a powerful thing, change doesn’t always have to happen for there to be a positive outcome. Thankyou for you comment and for taking the time to read 🙂

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  • Mummy in a TuTu (@mummyinatutu) July 13, 2016 at 9:06 pm

    even if we are ecstatically happy I think acceptance is one of the hardest things to learn. there will always be something we need to accept that we really dont want to.

    Thanks for linking to #ablogginggoodtime

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  • The Pramshed July 14, 2016 at 6:57 am

    Acceptance is really hard, and we are all guilty of fwelding that life could be better. I very much think like you that “it will be okay” even when I’m work I think like that, which I probably shouldn’t do. Don’t be hard on yourself it sounds like you are doing fantastic, and are very happy. Thanks for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 14, 2016 at 8:26 am

      Ah thankyou, I think it makes us human doesn’t it! Thanks for reading X

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  • motherhoodtherealdeal July 14, 2016 at 6:22 pm

    I think if there’s one thing I’ve learnt over these crazy three years of motherhood is that acceptance goes a long way and although I still battle with “accepting” things I do it a lot more now than before and it makes life a lot less stressful. Great post and thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely x

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 14, 2016 at 6:30 pm

      It certainly does make life a lot less stressful if you can master it! Thanks for reading X

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  • acornishmum July 20, 2016 at 10:00 pm

    I think we’re all guilty of the ‘things would be better if….’ thoughts, but in some ways I prefer not to accept many things and aim for what I actually want instead 😉 You do need to accept the things you can’t change though, or you’d make yourself so unhappy. Thanks for linking up to #PicknMix

    Stevie x

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    • thetaleofmummyhood July 21, 2016 at 11:14 am

      So true, it’s refreshing to accept things and also to strive for change! Thanks for reading X

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